Should I feel guilty?

Little_Pickle

My love and thoughts are with you....
xoxox

kate1976

Really don't know what to add that hasn't been said already so hugs to you and your family! Thoughts are with you all xxxxx

xxlaurissaxx

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Oh hun im so sorry you have this decision to make but I think the doctors would be right and at least he wont be suffering anymore and would be at peace. Spend as much time as possible with him and when its time and from then on you know you'll never forget him and he will always be in your heart.

xxxx

hayley11

My heart breaks for you, what an awful position to be in. I don't have any advice i'm afraid but I wanted to say my love and thoughts are with you and your family at this very difficult time xxx

aurora_borealis_2

Just to add, don't feel rushed.

The medics will wait for you to come to terms with your decision. You take all the time you need to talk things through and reinforce the fact that you are doing the best for all concerned.

I'm so sorry xxx

clairec79

Whatever decision you decide on you will wonder if you made the right one, and you will feel guilt about it, that is perfectly natural. However if you make the decision to withdraw treatment you will feel guilty at 'letting' him go, if you choose not to you will feel guilty at 'making' him stay and suffer.

There is no easy answer to this, I wish there was. You said you can't get much lower - I don't think you can get lower than having to make the decision. Even loosing him may not have this level of despair around it because you know that his suffering is then over.

The doctors will not have brought this up without thinking long and hard about it - all medical staff HATE this situation and will try and avoid it if they think there is any chance of a recovery. If you do agree to end treatment do not think that you are ending your son's life because you aren't. Nature has already let you know that is time, it's down to medical intervention that you've had this little extra time with him.

Treasure the short amount of time you have left with him and when making the decision try and think of what he would want, not what your emotions want - maybe that will be the same thing, maybe not.

spora

Im so sorry to have read this. You should in no way feel guilty, i know its natural, but remember your little angel is going to a peaceful place now.

Remember the good times, dont ever forget his smile. And take some sort of comfort from all of this that you are doing the right thing. xxxxxxx

mrcow

Hey I just wanted to say that my prayers will be with you this weekend and I hope that you have the opportunity to spend as much time as you need with your little boy. Your memories will always be there and they will last you a lifetime. As a mother, as always, you are doing what is right by your son - that is all you could ever do.

There are never any answers that seem good enough I suppose, but please take heart in that behind every single one of these messages on your thread is a real person who is sending you their love and prayers right now (however they say them). In the times to come, if ever you feel like you're slipping or need to vent, or whatever, then remember that we are here.

Margaret54

I am so sorry to read your post love. It must be a terrible time for you all. I am sending you a big hug and am thinking of you. God bless you Margaret xx

Sweetpeanut

FIRSTLY THIS MUST BE ABSOLUTELY DEVASTATING FOR YOU, I WOULD HATE TO BE IN YOUR POSITION, BUT THE CHOICE IS YOURS:o, I DO HOPE YOU HAVE A GOOD SUPPORT NETWORK AT HOME, AND DON'T FACE THIS AGONISINGDECISION ON YOUR OWN. IF IT WAS ME, I KNOW I COULD'NT WATCH MY CHILD SUFFER, BUT ALSO IF I'D HAVE BEEN TOLD THERE WAS NOTHING ELSE TO DO, I'D HAVE TO MAKE THE TERRIBLE DECISION TO LET HIM GO, PEACEFULLY IN MY ARMS, BUT I SUPPOSE THATS EASY FOR ME TO SAY, IM NOT IN THIS AWFUL SITUATION, I DO HOPE YOU FIND SOME COMFORT IN THE SHORT TIME YOU'VE HAD HIM, MY THOUGHTS ARE WITH YOU, DONNA xxx