am i entitled to anything re common law relationship

Susan_Frost

And now you even lay his blame at your little brother's door. That's disgusting.

I am losing patience with you. What if your brother ends up with a bad reputation.

As I said before, I'm just glad you don't have kids cos there is no way you would protect them.

lavidaloca

I am pleased you have come back to post on here because I wondered how you were doing but I really don't know how to answer you. You say you just want help. There are four pages here of help for you. What more can we say? I totally agree with what Susan has written in the previous posts.

Go along to your local police station and ask to speak to someone from their domestic violence unit and tell them everything. They will advise you.

You are worth far more than this. Believe me once you have got this moron out of your life you can slowly start to pick up the pieces and you'll not look back. You owe it to any animals you still have to get them out of that situation even if you won't do anything about this nasty piece of work you are still trying to cling onto.

How do you know he is coming into this £500,000? And why is not until April?

Mips

Are you sure he's coming into 500k? Did he get an email from a Nigerian Barrister...


And not just stringing you along for all you're worth until he finds someone who earns more money?

Fleago

It can be very easy for outside observers to wonder why an abused woman can't act immediately on good, sound advice and become frustrated when they don't, but many victims of domestic abuse are virtually paralysed when it comes to actively doing the things they need to do to get them out of their situation.

Helpmepls, did you see Yoni's offer to help you via PM? Perhaps you could take her up on her offer as she works in the field of Domestic Abuse and would be able to guide you and will understand just how hard you're finding it to take positive steps.

helpmepls_3

well i dont want to go into to many details as i dont want my bf to see this but one of his relatives died and has left him a fair bit of cash, reason so long there is stuff to sort out like house selling and stocks and shares and pensions and its all overseas as well, so thats the least he can expect

yoni_one

I believe you.

The incidents you are telling us about are not uncommon, neither are the reasons why you have lied to protect your partner.

It is illegal for him to assault you in the way he has, furthermore forced sexual intercourse is rape regardless of whether the perpetrator is in a relationship with his victim or not. What happened to you before Christmas and any other time it has happened is rape.

I completely understand your concerns about struggling to offer hard evidence as proof but that would be down to the police to investigate and your statement is the first step, it would be up to them to uncover the rest and to do it in as safe a way as possible. So, if you did want to report him to the police then your best option, for a wider understanding of your needs, would be to contact your local police and ask to be put through to the DVU which is the Domestic Violence Unit and start by telling them.

But you don't have to do that at all, now or in the future and the support agencies would not try and force you to do so.

Regardless of what you choose to do now I strongly urge you to get some support from Womens Aid while you are living with the abuse, no diisrespect to some of the posters on this thread but as well meaning as they may be it doesn't help on any level to be judgemental towards the target of abuse and can even be dangerous, so please do not focus on the views of those who don't get the bigger picture of how it is for you personally.

With professional help and the right sort of non-judgemental support it can help more than you can imagine.

You have said you started this thread more specifically to find out your rights (giving the details of his abuse as background) and at this point I am unaware of an online forum that offers free advice of that nature however you may find your housing rights to be very much in your favour if he is not down on the tenancy, and you may qualify for Housing Benefit to help you pay rent if you take it over on your own. As stated on a previous reply you can get free legal advice specifically in the matters you seek from Rights of Women www.row.org.uk -

For free, confidential legal advice on:

• Domestic violence and abuse
• Harassment
• Divorce
• Relationship breakdown
• Living together
• Children, contact and residence
• Civil Partnerships
• Lesbian parenting

Contact our women lawyers on: 020 7251 6577 (telephone) or 020 7490 2562 (textphone) on Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Thursdays, 2-4pm and 7-9pm and Fridays, 12noon-2pm.


For online support from other victims / professionals working in the field of domestic violence and abuse away from this website try -

http://hiddenhurt.rhiannon3.net/ - a US based website but Domestic Abuse is worldwide and the emotional support is relevant across the board, they also have links to further UK websites.

http://www.supportline.org.uk/problems/domestic_violence.php - offer telephone / email support

Errata

no diisrespect to some of the posters on this thread but as well meaning as they may be it doesn't help on any level to be judgemental towards the target of abuse

Well said, spiteful posts help nobody.

lovefreebies09

Hey Hun just read your post.
A FOOL AND HIS MONEY ARE SOON PARTED comes to mind.
You are better off with out him hes in insecure and childish and a control freak as well {i know have been there before}
your worth more than that.
I garrentee you when he blows all his money he will come crawling back to you hun and you can tell him to go you know where.
sorry your not entitles to half of what he has but the sooner the better he goes.
you will have to find a cheaper place to live.

i hope it works you for you hun, and when he does go DONT TAKE HIM BACK THE TXXT..
BLESSED BE
Tracy
xxx
gold reiki to you .

Foxysaver

Hi,
Have you thought of going to Women's Aid for help? Financial abuse is recognised as a type of domestic abuse as well as the emotional and physical abuse that you have also experienced. They will give you advice and may even help get you somewhere to stay. Please try!!!!!

yoni_one

Hi again

I just wondered how you are getting on? Hope things are ok.