am i entitled to anything re common law relationship

helzbelz_57

pouring boiling water on someones face is violent, would you do it to a child or someone you loved?

helpmepls_3

i have been with him 5 years and his only hit me 5 times and my cats 3 times , he stamped on my pet rat and killed that as well, but to be honest he said that i shouldnt have rilled him up, he went out drinking and when i asked where he had been, i should of let him go and sleep it off first and then speak to him later, BUT honestly once he goes he will go and wont bother about me as he has told me that the sight of me makes him feel sick and he spat at me as he said that and i know that he means it this time round as the money and everything - but even now when he smiles at me i hope that he change his mind but i know that he wont

MaximumImpact

Ok, I have to go out now but believe me I would rather stay here and talk to you!

My offer is open ended, if you want help and this idiot dealt with then PM me and I will get you in touch with the right people and I will do it straightaway.

I can only reiterate, you havent done anything wrong, its not your fault and cut the crap about riling him up....he has no right under any circumstance to do what he has done.

You have friends here and people who care here...even if its the virtual world

xxxxxxxxxxxx

helpmepls_3

thank you very much that helps alot and means so much to ,and i will sign back in tomorrow as he be home soon and want his tea and i wont be able to get back on, xxxxxxxxxx

becca2008

helpmepls wrote: »

i have been with him 5 years and his only hit me 5 times and my cats 3 times , he stamped on my pet rat and killed that as well, but to be honest he said that i shouldnt have rilled him up,

i've been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years. he knows that if he raised his hand to me to do anything other than stroke my hair, he'd be out on his ear. saying that he's "only" hit you 5 times doesn't make it ok - he shouldn't have hit you *once*, let alone 5 times!

as for the pet rat... i've kept rats for more than 10 years and if anyone stamped on one of my babies (yes, i am that soppy), it would be the last thing they'd ever do.

please please please get out of that house. i know you feel trapped, but there is *always* somewhere better for you than in a house with a man who is abusing you both physically and emotionally. your self-esteem is low now, but it will only get lower if you continue to let him control you and walk all over you.

gather what pride and dignity you've got left and walk out - i promise you that you will look back on it as the best day of your life and the best thing you've ever done. the only way is up for your self-esteem and the first step towards loving yourself is the step you take as you walk out of that relationship for good.

sorry for the long post - i've been in an abusive relationship in the past (emotional abuse, not physical abuse, so not quite the same) and i felt like i had no way out because i was young and i felt like no one else would ever love me because that's how he wanted me to feel... almost 6 years on, i'm with a man who loves and respects me and takes care of me and makes me feel happy and secure. you can have that too - just not while you're in that house with that man.

you said yourself that you wouldn't be able to afford the house on your own, so you'll have to sort something else out in april anyway, won't you? save yourself another 4 months of heartache and do it now.

Skint_Catt

You can get a room in a rented house for £50 - £75 a week (depending on where you are in the country and possible even cheaper now as lots of people are taking in lodgers). Get out now please.

Classic abuse victim 'he only gets angry if I make him' - thats b*^%^$ks - he's putting all the blame on you for his cruel evil behviour! He killed your pet rat, and will probably end up killing your cat - why will he stop at you?

He doesn't love you whatsoever - no person would put someone they love through ANY of that behaviour!

You've got the engagement ring - sell it!

MrsE_2

helpmepls wrote: »

no i am not relaxed but i didnt want to go on and bore people, we were happy and i worked 12 hours a day so that i earnt enough, as he said that i didnt earn enough to be with him before as he wanted a rich gf, so i slogged my bum off, and have brought him loads of stuff, playstations, tvs you name it, car stereo and now he said that i am to old for him i am 28 and his 37 and he wants someone younger that wont reach menopause as he doesnt want to deal with all the hormones i will be going through and the nagging

That was your first mistake, DON'T EVER DO IT AGAIN (you are still young:D ).
Any man ever says that, say "jog on pal".

Don't EVER EVER keep a man, he should want to spoil you & shower you with gifts;)

Be thankful, I know you prob don't see it, but you've had a lucky escape:D

MrsE_2

helpmepls wrote: »

i have been with him 5 years and his only hit me 5 times and my cats 3 times , he stamped on my pet rat and killed that as well, but to be honest he said that i shouldnt have rilled him up, he went out drinking and when i asked where he had been, i should of let him go and sleep it off first and then speak to him later, BUT honestly once he goes he will go and wont bother about me as he has told me that the sight of me makes him feel sick and he spat at me as he said that and i know that he means it this time round as the money and everything - but even now when he smiles at me i hope that he change his mind but i know that he wont

If a man hit me darling, he would need to learn to sleep with one eye open;)

Errata

I can only suggest you read this thread and print off the guide
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1276963

McKneff

If a man hit me he wouldnt dare sleep at all.