am i entitled to anything re common law relationship

pinkshoes

helpmepls wrote: »

the house is in my name rent wise , and i will have to just work more hours and keep my head down til he goes,

If you can't afford the rent on your own, then you should write to the landlord giving your 1 months notice to move out (from the next rent date). You don't have to tell this pig you live with.

In the mean time, next time he goes out, get the locks changed. I'm sure the landlord won't mind, and you can keep the old one and change it back when you leave. Your "pig" won't be able to get in, and because his name isn't on the rental lease, he can't break in, other wise you can call the police. Just put all his stuff outside in bin bags.

Some people really can't see that it's not money that is important in life, it's love and happiness, so you should see this money as a godsend that it made this ar*ehole show his true colours before it was too late.

loopylass

thats what i did with my ex the house was in my name and the police removed him and i also had to get an injunction on him coming near me as he came back

i do believe the OP is real as it sounds just like i was years ago DV is horrible and you think its all your fault and they hit you because you didnt put sugar in their coffee so that gives them the right to smash a glass over your head and split your head open

please get out of the house or get him out believe me he wont stop doing it and it will get worse you will feel a lot better on your own yes its scary but at least you havnt got to worry when your next going to be hit

you have your family and contact old friends you might not feel ready to make new friends yet but were all here to offer advice and you will find new friends when your confidence is back but it will only come back if you get rid of the person who took it away

take care

Lara44

Yes I agree you should give your notice and then change the locks.

Also if you have bought the TV, Playstation etc. then these are YOURS and I would sell them along with your engagement ring in order to raise the money for a deposit on a new room in a shared house.

Think of it as a great new start for yourself. You can always make new friends. Perhaps this is a low point in your life, but it's not forever. Just start making the changes you need to make to have a really happy life in the future.

All the best

nollag2006

Have you spoken to your CAB about this?

If you have been with him for the period of time you claim, and he is now ending the relationship because he feels you are too old you may have a remedy against him for "flase promise". You need legal advice.

Pooky23

This is emotional AND physical abuse and you do not have to put up with it. Draw some strength from deep inside and get out of this relationship now. I know you are worried about money but your personal safety is more important.

You need time on your own to rediscover who you are, build your self esteem back up and focus on what YOU want out of life.

If you have no friends, do you have any work colleagues who you could call on for help?

This "man" is a bully, he is selfish and cruel and controlling. He treats you as if you are his servant, not his girlfriend. He sleeps with other women. Does he expect you to sleep with him too? If so, you are putting your own health at risk from STD's. If you stay with him just to keep a roof over your head your self esteem will plummet even further.

A loving relationship is an equal partnership - not one-sided or cruel or critical. You deserve better, give yourself the chance of a better life and leave this "man" now. I wish you well.

Errata

nollag2006 wrote: »

Have you spoken to your CAB about this?

If you have been with him for the period of time you claim, and he is now ending the relationship because he feels you are too old you may have a remedy against him for "flase promise". You need legal advice.

It seems to me that far more serious than any possible 'false promise' (which I've never heard of) are the facts that he's thrown boiling water over her face and killed her pet animal. Both the police and RSPCA would investigate and take appropriate action, possibly leading to a jail sentence for either of these acts.

yoni_one

I work for Women's Aid, what you are living with is 100% Domestic Violence and abuse.

You don't have to move to a refuge or live apart from the abuser to get support in your area.

Find how to contact your local support centre on www.womensaid.org.uk also, for professional advice on your rights contact Rights of Women who offer free legal advice to women, details on www.row.org.uk

You have lots of options and opportunity to change things in your life but sadly the one thing you do not have the power to do is change him, if you want further help on or off this thread in exploring your choices pls feel free to pm me.

helpmepls_3

sorry i havent replied for ages, but i dont want to get caught and also i dont like to think that you think i am making this up as believe me i am not, i never wanted it be a domestic abuse thread i just wanted to know if i was entitled to anything and i thought i would give you the whole story just in case i could have anything cause of the way he treated me,

maybe someone could give me a demestic abuse forum where i can talk to others that can help me, i know that it seems extreme what i have put, but i have wrote it quick as i dont want to get caught and its in 5 years so reading it in one go i would see a little mad, anyway last night he fooled me again he said that he would get us a chinese if i paid so there was me smiling as he had been real nasty to me on friday and i thought that he wanted to make things better, so i handled him over my card, well 3 hours later he turned up !!!!ed and had taken my card to get drunk with his friends, the money his is getting, he wont get for another couple of months you see, when i asked where the chinese was, he got very nasty, i wont say, i am in tears as i am writing this,but i just feel dead inside, i dont eat anymore as my stomach churns and i do all the everyday things, but with no feelings and i feel empty and worthless and in tears all the while,i just feel like going into a deep long sleep, sorry to say that but that is how i feel

helpmepls_3

just another thing and you may not know,

but someone said report him to the police but how could i, i have no proof, i have hospital reports i guess of my scolding and when he kicked me in the head repeatly and i have been left with a nerve problem he has done this twice, but i made up stories saying that it was a accident and re the animals, i blamed that on my little brother saying he had dropped them or been over zealous with them, he has also forced himself on me, but i wouldnt say that was rape as are in a relationship, last time he did that was before xmas as i was in so much pain, but i didnt tell the doctor, why i was in so much pain as i was to embarrassed, i not a troll i just want some help pls

Susan_Frost

For goodness sake, stop believing what this man says. How many times does he have to let you down.

If you feel bullied into giving him money, leave your card and cash at your parents and just keep a fiver on you. Then you can say you honestly dont have it.

While your at it, take all your valuable things to theirs as well. Especally take your pets. Surely you have the compassion to do that for them. If they wont have your pets, and you are staying with this man, take them to a refuge. Otherwise you are as guilty as him if they are harmed. YOU are putting them in danger - no excuses. If you had kids they would be put into care. WAKE UP.

Basically, if you have not the strength to end this situation, then at least you know it will end in April when he gets his money and leaves you. While ever you believe he will change then I guess you wont do anything, and it may take a few more dead and injured pets and skint and injured you to make you do something.

There is help around, so look into it. Finding out what you can do does not mean you have to take immediate action on that day, you would be able to think it through. These people are confidential and will let you know where you stand. But at the end of the day, hard as it is for you, you do have choices - make the right ones for yourself.

I'm just glad you dont have kids.