am i entitled to anything re common law relationship

paddy's_mum

Might it be the (in places and often with non-straightforward words) good spelling in total opposition to the contrived grammar?

Money_maker

Well, op, if you are genuine then a couple more things to do.

Get your bank card cancelled with the bank and arrange another one (ideally to collect from branch). Do not give him your pin number.

Find a room/houseshare as soon as possible. As soon as you, your money, your cooking, cleaning, patience etc are out of there, the sooner he is going to be stuck for rent/booze money. He will contact you, he may even try flattery but all he wants you for is to tide him over til april.

Play it your way. Dont let him do this to you. A financial kick up the b_lls is much less than he deserves. Not sure about the pets though. You may regretfully have to take them to a rescue centre. Either way, you will need to find a new home so do it now rather than when he's sucked you dry in April.

BTW, if he continues in this vein, the money wont last long anyway.
You're best well rid.

tsstss7

Leave him ASAP OP. If he wants to buy women the £500k won't last him long anyway, so you'll end up having the last laugh.

Oh and there is always the small claims court if you feel he genuinely owes you money -ie he borrowed it rather than you gave it to him.

helpmepls_3

Hi everyone

Thanks for all your replies, and i can 100% tell you that i am not a trol, i am actually a memeber of this forum but i have changed my name as i didnt want my partner to see what i had wrote, so i am using a alias

i know some of you may think i am lying, but i can assure that i am not, i wanted to paint the whole picture so that maybe there was a way i could get some money due to the way his treated me and my animals but i can see there isnt, the house is in my name rent wise , and i will have to just work more hours and keep my head down til he goes, as i want to stay where i am as its close to work and a kinda near to all my family and as i dont drive that means alot to me and he wont want to stay here anyway as he has big plans for his moeny esp with the housing market as it is, so i wont have to move or anything, just that i have only ever lived with my mum and him and he sorted out the bills,( i mean i helped pay) but he did the final stuff and sorting out any problems in the house or if the interent went down he would know how how to fix it etc, that is what i am scared about, coping on my own paying rent and being lonely i guess,even throgh i dont see him that much as his out all the time its nice to think that someone will come home eventually as i hate being on my own and i wouldnt have the confidence to houseshare as i feel so horrible at the minute that i dont have any confidence to say look at me and make new friends, i know that if i was slim and had friends that i wouldnt mind so much as i would have people in my life, but when he goes i have noone and that scares me - anyway if you believe me or not then that is up to you, but i dont want anyone to think that i am a liar

Tigger888

You say you're living near to all your family - please can they not help you out of this awful situation? If it was my daughter/sister I would be there to help in a second!

helpmepls_3

my nan is in a sheltered accomadtion for the elderly so i cant go there, and my mum is in a council house living in a 2 bed house with 3 kids in one room, they are there for me they cant help me,

Steel_2

The house might be rented in your name but there's nothing to stop you giving one month's notice and leaving. If he wants to stay on until April, he can after he's signed the rental agreement and taken over the bills.

You don't have to move into a room with others - have a good hunt and you might find a half decent one-bed/ studio flat or alternatively, your mum might have a friend whose kids have left home and they are looking for a clean, quiet lodger to rent a room to.

No way would I let this joker dictate what I will and will not be doing with my money or life. He's assuming you'll fall over and let yourself be walked on because he has money now, which is a pretty disgusting, loathsome personality trait.

Your self esteem and confidence is low because you've had to put up with this idiot for so long. Once he's gone, it will all come back.

lavidaloca

I apologise for not replying before but I also thought this might be a troll post. This situation can be easily resolved. You say your name is on the rent book then get him out. Why should you leave? He's just a nasty piece of work. If he had done that to my animals never mind me he'd be in fear of his life. I know it's easy to say but you need to get strong and you can do it. You have been working 12 hours a day for what? For some no mark to leech off you and injure your pets. What do you want next to come home and find he's killed your cat?

Forget trying for any money from him you won't get any but you soon will when you get him out you'll be quids in. Please for the sake of you, your cat and any other animals you may have GET RID OF HIM. There are plenty of people on here who'll tell you the route you need to go down re the domestic and animal abuse and to get him out of your life.

I pity the next girl in his life cos the £500,000 won't last him long and you'll have the last laugh if you grow some b__lls and get rid. You won't be lonely for long there will be plenty of things you can do when you have got this leech out of your life.

What county are you in by the way?

margaretclare

helpmepls wrote: »

no i am not relaxed but i didnt want to go on and bore people, we were happy and i worked 12 hours a day so that i earnt enough, as he said that i didnt earn enough to be with him before as he wanted a rich gf, so i slogged my bum off, and have brought him loads of stuff, playstations, tvs you name it, car stereo and now he said that i am to old for him i am 28 and his 37 and he wants someone younger that wont reach menopause as he doesnt want to deal with all the hormones i will be going through and the nagging
thing is his made me fat and friendless as he didnt want me seeing my friends and cause i worked long hours i let myself go as i just wanted to get the money in so he would be happy, but now his got this money which is coming through in april he doesnt want to know, he said that i could go with him to his new house that his going to buy and i can cook and clean for him but he can do as and what he wants as that is what a man is entitled to, but i dont want to do that he plays cats and mouse one day he be nice and the next i see he has taken my bank card and helped himself to my cash and gone out on the !!!!, and then come home and break my things and call me fat and ugly and that i make him feel sick and once he poured boiling hot water over my face, so i guess i should be pleased his going, but i have no self esteem and i think that noone will want me that having him is better then noone and then i get angry thinking how he can leave me just like that
i am just worried as i havent saved any of my money and i just gave it to him and paid our bills and now i am going to be left in debt as i still have bills to pay off and i will be left with no money, once i have paid the rent and councul tax and food and cost of living and his going to be walking off smelling of roses with a young girl on his arm leaving me penniless, in debt and no friends

So he's 9 years older than you and he thinks you're too old for him? What century is he living in, and what continent, for heaven's sake?

With the kindest possible intention - you sound like a woman whose self-esteem is very low. There may be reasons for this from your youth and upbringing - possibly cultural differences, am I sensing here???

'What a man is entitled to' - good heavens. That there should be such men living in this country in the 21st century. I would urge you to ditch him with all possible speed. No woman should have to put up with this kind of thing. He may attract some 'young girl on his arm' - well, more fool her, and she will no doubt find out the true worth of this useless p*llock before she's very much older!

margaretclare

helpmepls wrote: »

i have been with him 5 years and his only hit me 5 times and my cats 3 times , he stamped on my pet rat and killed that as well, but to be honest he said that i shouldnt have rilled him up, he went out drinking and when i asked where he had been, i should of let him go and sleep it off first and then speak to him later, BUT honestly once he goes he will go and wont bother about me as he has told me that the sight of me makes him feel sick and he spat at me as he said that and i know that he means it this time round as the money and everything - but even now when he smiles at me i hope that he change his mind but i know that he wont

This is absolutely basic domestic violence. The abuser makes the victim think that it was her fault - she shouldn't have done (whatever it was) to annoy him. It could have been anything, any small thing, that most people wouldn't even give a thought to. The victim, over time, comes to believe it must have been her fault. A bit like Stockholm syndrome maybe?

'He only hit you 5 times in 5 years'. Any bloke on this planet who hit me even ONCE, or even attempted to do so, or to injure innocent animals, would be down the road so fast that his feet wouldn't touch ground. What's wrong with women in the 21st century?