MSE Pregnancy Club IV

Little_Pickle

I warn you, it's a massive rant... I've typed it to make me feel better... but am feeling very low right now and it's a little rough around the edges... *sigh*

Hormones and tiredness are terrible.

Have you guys got very low at any point during your pregnancies?

MrsTinks

Little_Pickle wrote: »

I warn you, it's a massive rant... I've typed it to make me feel better... but am feeling very low right now and it's a little rough around the edges... *sigh*

Hormones and tiredness are terrible.

Have you guys got very low at any point during your pregnancies?

Are we counting my daily panic attacks because I suddenly realise I'm really pregnant and OMG how will we cope financially, practically, emotionally etc etc etc?
The fact I hate my job at the moment and although it sucks at least I know that it's paying the bills which makes me loathe it more because that means I NEED it... and can't just take a lovely long maternity leave and I'm starting to loathe my husband for talking me into buying a new car - which will probably be the bill that forces me back to work from maternity leave :mad:

astonsmummy

Little_Pickle wrote: »

I warn you, it's a massive rant... I've typed it to make me feel better... but am feeling very low right now and it's a little rough around the edges... *sigh*

Hormones and tiredness are terrible.

Have you guys got very low at any point during your pregnancies?

Dont worry about that hun, fluckign hell i'm the queen of rants sometimes, dont post much these days.
Yes I have been to a very low point, where I (and I hate to admit this) booked a consultation for a termination, that was proabably the lowest point for me

Little_Pickle

thanks ladies...
I'm the supporter in our relationship. I feel like I need the support now. and despite me crying for help and being quite specific... it's not happening.

We had a huge row and he's gone out.
(we were on our way out and he made a careless remark which highlights that he doesn't understand the impact of this change on me, my state of mind and my body.)

He wanted me to go too, but I am feeling so upset, that I told him I couldn't go out and pretend to enjoy myself.
I am so overwhelmed and scared, but he just doesn't see it.

tarajayne

Financial supporter?

cazscoob

oh ladybird am all excited for you!!!! get lots of rest cause baby will be here soon:D not so good on the germ front but you can get him back with they first few nappy changes:D

LP i think we all feel like that and men just dont have a clue how hard this can be for all of us! i think they should have a few doses of the hormones and see how long they last before breaking down!!! chin up things will get better and have a *hug* xxxx

cazscoob

errr help!! i put my feet up on the seatee and now i cant move lol!! oh is in the bath so wont hear if i shout and i need the loo!!! cant wait to get rid of this SPD!!

skintchick

Little_Pickle wrote: »

thanks ladies...
I'm the supporter in our relationship. I feel like I need the support now. and despite me crying for help and being quite specific... it's not happening.

We had a huge row and he's gone out.
(we were on our way out and he made a careless remark which highlights that he doesn't understand the impact of this change on me, my state of mind and my body.)

He wanted me to go too, but I am feeling so upset, that I told him I couldn't go out and pretend to enjoy myself.
I am so overwhelmed and scared, but he just doesn't see it.

Oh Pickle! Hugs.

My OH is a bit like that too - he has no idea what i am going through cos he can;t see anything so he doesn;t get why I'm so tired, or always hungry, or tetchy, or weepy, or whatever.

I don;t feel very supported by him either but i think they really do find it very hard to get a handle on it.

Bad of him to go out without you though hon, perhaps he is overwhelmed and scared too?

Can you talk to him about it do you think?

:A

feelinggood_2

Pickle - one thing I found helpful was recognising that there are certain things that my OH just isn't good at. Some things he just doesn't understand. Its hard when a partner can't support you, especially when you support them so much. Is there someone else who can give you what you need? I found that on a bad day, it was much better for everyone if I phoned a friend for a rant than to talk to OH. I used to find the running off thing difficult. The book Men are From Mars, Women Are From Venus is helpful, highlighting the differences between the sexes and how they deal with things. Its normal for men to want to go and hide in a cave when something difficult happens. There is usually a copy at the library. Hope you are feeling better soon.

MrsTinks

Little_Pickle wrote: »

thanks ladies...
I'm the supporter in our relationship. I feel like I need the support now. and despite me crying for help and being quite specific... it's not happening.

We had a huge row and he's gone out.
(we were on our way out and he made a careless remark which highlights that he doesn't understand the impact of this change on me, my state of mind and my body.)

He wanted me to go too, but I am feeling so upset, that I told him I couldn't go out and pretend to enjoy myself.
I am so overwhelmed and scared, but he just doesn't see it.

Whilst DH is very good then even he isn't perfect and sometimes I have to point out exactly how upset something makes me. Some things worry me a lot more than they worry him - like money and our finances etc as well as when baby comes it's going to be a huge shock no matter HOW prepared we are... and I am scared witless about how I will cope - so much so I've told mum I want her over as soon as the baby arrives as I'm not sure how I can cope without her here!

If you can get him to come back (text him?) then I would - sit down with him and explain exactly how you feel - oddly enough when I am really really upset I find I can explain myself better in texts and mails than I can in words either face to face or even on the phone - maybe it's easier for you too? Messenger is another great way for me to speak to DH when he's upset me - bless him he's grown used to it now and understands that whilst I can confront work situations head on I struggle sometimes with addressing the things most important to me "in person"...