MSE Pregnancy Club IV

Sami_Bee

Just watching a show called "the joy of sextuplets" turns out it was/is baby day on discovery home n health
260 nappies a week when they were newborns :eek:

Well looks like I'll have no problems making it to the doc's in the morning for 8:30 (Its open surgery so I want to be nr front of queue! I'm not having me or Chris catching something when we've just got over the colds from hell!) Hubby was too lazy/forgetful to get his van from work so now I have to take him so I'll be up at 6 :eek:

MrsTinks

Awww mookie that sucks! I haven't full out passed out yet but come close a couple of times... Very scary as I've only passed out once in my life and come close another...
I found that I could feel it coming though and felt hot? Then I'd gradually start feeling sick, not morning sick but a very different kind of ickyness... hard to explain.
Last time it happened I squatted down and held on to the counter I was at and thankfully it was a lady that was serving me so when she asked me if I was ok and did I need anything etc I just told her I was pregnant and I'd be ok in a second - thankfully she'd had kids and was very reassuring telling me that it's normal and if I needed anything just to let her know otherwise stay where I was till I felt like moving again. If I'd asked her to carry me to a chair I think she'd have jumped the counter to help me!
The first time it happened was in tesco's at the till and the guy serving couldn't care less... thankfully there was seats just opposite the till so I staggered there and sat down. The poor lady behind me was very worried and asking if I was ok - again I just explained I was pregnant and she also gave me the "oh don't worry it will pass" with a warm smile...

Did you feel icky at all before you blacked out? If you get some warnings then I think it's easier to handle At least now I know what's coming, roughly how long I have and if need be I won't be so scared to say that I feel a little bit faint and I'm just going to sit down for a minute then I'll be right back

MrsTinks

WOW just felt Bean kicking from the outside! very faint but as I was being kicked to pieces anyway I thought I'd just try and see if I could feel it from the outside and yup... very definitely a little kick!
Going to try and get hubby to feel it tomorrow I think... Guess having a can of cold coke really DOES work :rotfl:

elle_gee

I'm so mad at my friend's husband!! He is my OH's best mate so I know her through him really. They were the ones who were here last night.

We were talking about Christmas presents and I told her I'd written OH a list to "guide" him as to what I would like. She said she'd been dropping hints a lot but she knew her husband (would say DH but there's nothing DEAR about him right now!) hadn't been listening, and said that she knew about the only two presents (two CDs) she was getting from him/her son so she didn't see much point in wrapping them.

I told my OH this this afternoon (no intentions, just in chitchat) and he's sent his mate a msg saying "might earn you some brownie points if you get her a surprise something" and now his mate has gone nuts, arguing with my friend and then b!tching back at my OH for "causing a domestic!".

He says he "doesn't DO christmas"... :mad: He doesn't DO a lot really.. my friend does absolutely everything for the baby, with him just looking on from the sidelines, shouting critisms at her and calling her horrible names - "affectionately". He's a horrible horrible man!

I've made OH plainly aware how I feel about it and luckily OH agrees with me. My mum suggested sending my friend Christmas flowers too but then said "why should you have to make up for his failings?". Luckily it's not too long until her birthday so I can pamper her then.

Sami_Bee

elle_gee wrote: »

I'm so mad at my friend's husband!! He is my OH's best mate so I know her through him really. They were the ones who were here last night.

We were talking about Christmas presents and I told her I'd written OH a list to "guide" him as to what I would like. She said she'd been dropping hints a lot but she knew her husband (would say DH but there's nothing DEAR about him right now!) hadn't been listening, and said that she knew about the only two presents (two CDs) she was getting from him/her son so she didn't see much point in wrapping them.

I told my OH this this afternoon (no intentions, just in chitchat) and he's sent his mate a msg saying "might earn you some brownie points if you get her a surprise something" and now his mate has gone nuts, arguing with my friend and then b!tching back at my OH for "causing a domestic!".

He says he "doesn't DO christmas"... :mad: He doesn't DO a lot really.. my friend does absolutely everything for the baby, with him just looking on from the sidelines, shouting critisms at her and calling her horrible names - "affectionately". He's a horrible horrible man!

I've made OH plainly aware how I feel about it and luckily OH agrees with me. My mum suggested sending my friend Christmas flowers too but then said "why should you have to make up for his failings?". Luckily it's not too long until her birthday so I can pamper her then.

I'm sure your friend knows you n OH weren't being nasty but I have to ask has he always been like this? If she married him knowing his failings then she chose that life, whether you think she deserves better or not, she made her bed as the saying goes.
Thankfully my hubby is just a moody get and is just having a bad mood this week :rolleyes: most of the time he's lovely, even insisted on getting me a Christmas pressie when I said I didn't want one :happyhear

MrsTinks

I just don't understand people who allow their OHs to behave like that... I know my DH is a gem, but there is a limit I'd be willing to allow them to get to and that would be WAY past it! First of all if he's not willing to help with the baby then he might be the biological father but he's certainly no "dad"! I'd be sorely tempted to leave and go somewhere on my own with bubs... After all if he's no help then he's nothing more than extra work for me...
OK I know I'm a very strong person (well I am now... I wasn't 7-8 years ago...) but I just despair when women (or men!) allow themselves to be walked all over or not cared for

elle_gee

Unfortunately so, Sami. They've been together for 10+ years but only married for 2 and a half. She was preg by their first anniversary. I know she was, very naively, hoping marriage and kids (not that he wanted a baby - he threw the yellow pages, open at the "abortion clinics" page, at her when she took the test!) would change him but it seems he's just always going to be a selfish get! Grrr.. makes me so mad (at both of them!).

elle_gee

I completely agree, MrsT - I can't stand to see women being walked over but yet not strong enough to walk away!

Sami_Bee

elle_gee wrote: »

Unfortunately so, Sami. They've been together for 10+ years but only married for 2 and a half. She was preg by their first anniversary. I know she was, very naively, hoping marriage and kids (not that he wanted a baby - he threw the yellow pages, open at the "abortion clinics" page, at her when she took the test!) would change him but it seems he's just always going to be a selfish get! Grrr.. makes me so mad (at both of them!).

wow he is just precious
I'd say try to stay out of it but I'm sure its not that simple!
If a guy ever said to me (when I was looking for one) I don't want kids, my response would be see ya!:rotfl:

Watching Jon & kate plus 8 now their kids are sooooooo cute! (and I'm soooo glad I've only got one baby in my belly!)

skintchick

HypnoNu wrote: »

Morning girls,
I've having a bit of a flap today, Ive rather stupidly read up on the miscarriage odds online after that conversation with the stupid doctors secretary and I'm now terrified, I check for bleeding every time I go to the toilet, I want to go out and buy loads of preg tests so i can take one every day to prove to myself i'm still pregnant, time is going so slowly and 12 weeks is a lifetime away...how did you all cope in this early bit? I'm a mess....

Hypno, I think you've probably had answers by now, but I know how you feel.

With my last (and first) pregnancy I always felt worried - I did loads of tests and panicked all the time. I think I must have known something weas wrong, as I lost that baby in October.

This time, I'm much calmer as it all 'feels' right even though I don;t have many symptoms, no sickness, just tiredness and sore boobs and getting fatter.

There is no point taking tests as the pg hormone stays in your body for about a month after a loss.

You could have an early scan as elle said. I did as well but it cost £120 and that's not cheap. For me, it was worth the peace of mind - we saw the heartbeat at 8 weeks and were reassured everything is normal.

I do still check for blood every time I go to the loo, but almost unconsciously and I don;t expect to see any.

If you feel really panicked, then pay for an early scan, but otherwise try and relax and wait for your scan.

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