MSE Pregnancy Club IV

skintchick

Tink - we have told our parents and close friends, but are waiting till the NHS scan (8 Jan for us) to tell everyone else.

I have a question. I keep getting awful insomnia, either not being able to get to sleep or waking in the middle of hte night and then not being able to go back to sleep for an hour or so. Any tips on dealing with it? I'm not working at the moment but I start a job on Jan 5 and I will need a good night's sleep!

Related to this is OH's sudden stroppiness. THis morning as he went to work he moaned about me having been awake in the night (I turned the light on to read for a bit but I thought he was asleep) then he leaned over to kiss me and fell on me! He really hurt my boobs and I screamed cos it was so painful, he just looked at me so I said 'It really hurt' and he flounced out of the room! And yesterday he had a random strop about washing up liquid.

I'm not sure what it's about as he denies anything is up - do men get PG hormones? We've only been married six months and he's never been like this before and I don;t like it He gets really verbally aggressive and he was NEVEr like that, I would never have married him if he had been like that before.

I feel like he is regretting the baby cos he never shows any interest - he just gets cross with me for getting tired or for feeling sick.

Any advice or hugs? It's made me really weepy.

r.mac_2

skintchick - I can sympathise on both the sleep front and the OH front!

I had a few bouts of insomnia - There seems little rhyme or reason as to why they came and why they disappeared. I'm now 35+2 and I would say that now it's mainly letting myself get over tired that keeps me awake. a nap in the afternoon actually helps me sleep in the evenings Previously, I found that a cup of cocoa and a warm bath helped as did not reading in bed and making sure I was tired before getting into bed.

Like you - this has had an effect on OH. He complains about me tossing and turning (not much I can do about this while I'm asleep) but hates me reading late at night as it disturbs him! My solution to this is to try 'resting' in the dark - and if I'm still awake in half an hour then I get up and go and read elsewhere or have a camomile tea or something.

Oh and also let OH know you love him, and that you feel just as frustrated as him about how your body is reacting to pg - perhaps ask him what he would prefer you do if you can't sleep - my hubbie uses the spare room on nights he has important next day at work and that works quite well for us....

Glad to hear you took the job by the way you'll probably find that a new job and being out and about helps your insomnia a bit

xxxxx

SeptemberBaby_2

Tink, you go with your feelings and tell when you think is right. I have been through a m/c and we had told the world and his dog. I couldn't ever go through that again and decided that if it did happen again, DH and I would grieve privately and not have the worry of everyone elses saddness on our shoulders (if that makes senses). But I know thats not the case for everyone and some need a support network from the day they find out..

xxx

r.mac_2

Hello SB :wave:

SeptemberBaby_2

Glad you had a nice break, r.mac!

No sign of this baby arriving any time soon but I'm not changing his name to Joseph if he arrives on the 25th! :rotfl:.

xx

skintchick

THanks r.mac. I just feel he is so unsympathetic to how being PG is making me feel, and I feel like I am all on my own in this, that I will have hte baby and he will just be nasty about it crying and I will have to deal with everything alone I'm sure I'm hormonal but I just feel like it's all gonee wrong and it wasn;t supposed to be like this. I can;t stop crying

Sami_Bee

Skinty, does your OH deal with the bills? He sounds just how mine acts when he's worried about money but never tells me unless we've had a big fall out and aren't talking to each other :rolleyes:
I think hats whats wrong with mine, I could feel his heart beat speed up last night when we talked about the boots n handbag I bought last week, He always gets worried and it drives me mad coz once he tells me, we look at it together and I remind him that having £2k in the bank is a good thing! - He didn't grow up with parents always teetering on the edge of the overdraft like me and likes to make sure we always have some rainy day funds:rolleyes:

Maybe your not sleeping because your not working? have you been sleeping in or having naps? if yes then I'm sure after a couple of days at work you'll be sleeping like a log

AM: I had something to say to you but can't for the life of me remember it!

I'm just trying to find info on using steroid cream in preg coz once I got home what the doc said scared me a bit, she said "you have to be very careful with steroid cream so use as little as possible" but still told me to use my high strength one I half expected to get a lower dose one, so now I'm thinking what might it do to my lil wriggler!?

Sami_Bee

Skinty (sorry last post took so long that you all posted while I was typing!)
Men do tend to find it hard to sympathise mine appeared to think I was making it up until he was off work ill and witnessed my throwing up 3 times and retching almost constantly for 2 days in a row!

skintchick

Sami - no, they go out of the joint account and I did the budget. I don;t know what it is, he denies being stroppy so I can;t talk to him about it, but it is really upsetting me.

I know he was worried about money but I have this contract job coming up and we have done a baby budget and he knows we will be OK.

EDIt - I did buy him a book for men about PG so he'd know what it was all about and he doesn;t even read it! I get so cross about that but he says he can only read in bed before 11pm and basically hasn;t read any of the stuff about the PG at all, just the intro chapters and that was last time I was PG.

r.mac_2

perhpas he's trying to protect himself and his feelings skinty - it must have been hard for you both when you m/c and perhaps he's terrified of it happening again. Men are generally practical creatures and it's probably worrying him that he can't ensure everything will be perfect this time.... just a thought.