MSE Pregnancy Club IV

skintchick

r.mac wrote: »

perhpas he's trying to protect himself and his feelings skinty - it must have been hard for you both when you m/c and perhaps he's terrified of it happening again. Men are generally practical creatures and it's probably worrying him that he can't ensure everything will be perfect this time.... just a thought.

Quite possibly, but it all seems to be fine this time and we did have a scan. I don;t know, it's hard.

Thanks for your PM, by the way.

searching_me

morning ladies
still feeling like poo but at least DD feeling better shes 6 today, cant believe its been 6 years im itching to tell her that shes got a brother or sister on the way but shes such a grass she'll tell everyone before we get to :rotfl: mind you this the last birthday and xmas on her own would rather it be all about her ... right off to have a shower then off down town for a treat for her and a mcds milkshake for me been craving one something rotten ... but i buy the chocolate one take it home freeze it and then eat it like ice cream soooooooooooooooo good... ok this aint helping gona go :rotfl: x

ladybirdintheuk

Skint - you have my sympathies. Mine is being like that at the mo - our topic of "debate" yesterday was milk of all things! I'm putting it down to him getting cold feet, but really, you'd think it was HIM who was pregnant, he's such a drama queen at the mo!

Then to top it off, we went out to the car this morning, and some little @*%" has thrown eggs at it! I'm sure it's nothing personal, and I have been meaning to take it to the car wash anyway, but not what I needed this morning. Especailly as then we ended up having a row in the car about who I should report it to! (Have told council housing office, as I live in a council block, police, and will tell the caretaker when I can find him!)

In more cheerful news, I've found a present under the christmas tree, addressed to me and bump, from Santa in DH's handwriting, so maybe I will forgive him

And I've got an old uni friend coming down to meet me for lunch too, so all will be forgotten by this evening I hope

Sami_Bee

I concur with r mac then maybe he's just trying to be detached in case it goes wrong, he doesn't have the feelings that you are experiencing so prob hasn't noticed any difference and they say women are the complicated ones! :rolleyes:

feelinggood_2

I think a lot of men find pregnancy hard. At the beginning, they have no real connection to the baby, so the only thing they get is a lot of complaining! Now I'm the size of a house, OH can appreciate that my body is going through a lot. I can understand, before I was pregnant, I didn't really have any comphrension of what it was like. Its so 'involved', if you know what I mean.

We are off to Manchester for Christmas tonight, yay! Everything is ready, just need to get the rabbit and all the presents in the car. We've hired a car, because our normal one is in the garage, and I can't bear the thought of a 250 mile trip in my KA - its too small and I'm too huge.

Sami_Bee

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

Skint - you have my sympathies. Mine is being like that at the mo - our topic of "debate" yesterday was milk of all things! I'm putting it down to him getting cold feet, but really, you'd think it was HIM who was pregnant, he's such a drama queen at the mo!

Then to top it off, we went out to the car this morning, and some little @*%" has thrown eggs at it! I'm sure it's nothing personal, and I have been meaning to take it to the car wash anyway, but not what I needed this morning. Especailly as then we ended up having a row in the car about who I should report it to! (Have told council housing office, as I live in a council block, police, and will tell the caretaker when I can find him!)

In more cheerful news, I've found a present under the christmas tree, addressed to me and bump, from Santa in DH's handwriting, so maybe I will forgive him

And I've got an old uni friend coming down to meet me for lunch too, so all will be forgotten by this evening I hope

Prob some annoying little hooded chavs :rolleyes: can't stand them, always getting up to no good round my mums.
Mind you about a month ago now someone stole one of my windscreen wiper blades!!! you have to buy them as a pair cost me nearly £40 I was :mad: to say the least as I only noticed when I squirted the windscreen and the wipers automatically come on so nothing I could do as the wiper was gouging a nice big scratch in the glass :eek:

Aww My hubby did earn some points last night as he got really upset after he'd seen my Dad in hosp, even said he didn't want to go on works do so he could visit him :A I told him to not be silly and go have his meal, he won't be out late as he's not into getting off his face drunk and dancing like a fool - rather come home to his "sexy wife" I'm not feeling very sexy but just the flash of boob when I lean over something and hes a giddy kipper :rotfl: He loves my gigantic preggers lady lumps - even if he's not allowed to touch them

skintchick

It's weird cos he is lovely in some ways - he has done a fair bit fo DIY I wanted doing, and yesterday I wanted a glass of milk and he gave me all his full-fat milk for his cereal even though I said if there wasn;t enough I'd have water.

But he's like Jekyll and hyde at the moment and i'm finding it so hard to cope with.

r.mac_2

OMG!

*TMI* alert

Just out of the shower and my boobs have leaked a tiny bit

Krystaltips I'm sure you'll tell me this is a good thing I hope :rolleyes:

oh I feel all strange now

MrsTinks

Skinty I think men sometimes lash out because they don't really know how they ought to feel... DH is being lovely and loving but on the other hand (and to my great annoyance) is totally not feeling like doing anything naughty... says it's not because there is a baby in there just doesn't feel like it... *sigh* I'm sure that although he's coping admirably then he's a little bit scared and confused too and the sex thing is just his limit...
I feel at times like he's not trying to bond with bean either and then he'll say something really sweet (well I think so) and won't even realise he's said it and then looks very perplexed because i'm sobbing...
I think in the beginning though he could deal with me being so sick because to him it was more a case of "my wife is very poorly" than "she's pregnant and that's why she's being sick"... I dread to think what he'd have been like if we'd lost bean early on. I think he'd have shut down completely on the fact it had been a little bean to start with and just think of it as me being sick and now getting better. Maybe that's what your OH is doing too without realising it?
Now we're a little further along we talk about it a lot more and I know he still feels a little like this is MY pregnancy and he's just a spectator... But because I make sure I include him in everything (whether he wants to be or not!) I think he's starting to feel more part of it... Last night we just sat on the sofa with his hands on my belly trying to get bean to move (with no luck, stubborn like daddy!) which ended up in giggles when I accidently burped!

I guess just try and speak to him and explain how you're feeling? And ask him how he's feeling too. Be honest though and ask him if he's having any regrets and try not to take it personal if he says yes... men don't always mean what they say and he might just mean that he is regretting it because he can see what it's doing to you and he's scared of how you might be if anything goes wrong again... not that he doesn't want the baby...

angelfairy

morning ladies,

work is still manic but wanted to post on here today.

been catching up with all the posts (well trying to).

went up to the hospital this morning to give them some of my red stuff for my 28 week check. no doubt, the same as usual, if there is nothing to worry about i wont hear anything until i see the MW again at 32 weeks.

As for OHs.... mine bless him, although i love him dearly, really doesn't get the fact i'm pregnant i dont think. even though as i have said before, it was his idea, i dont think it's hit him get and dont expect to until the last stages (which aren't too far off mind). he is not one for planning or looking too far ahead.

No way he would read anything either. Just asks me to tell him when he needs to know.

And if we're arguing or i'm upset...the old line...."gee, this pregnancy thing doesn't agree with you does it???"...my response, "no, its YOU that doesn't agree with me".

Still love him dearly though. call me a sucker.

Labour vibes SB

Miss_C ---- soooooooooooo waiting to hear some news

Welcome back r.mac

xxxx