Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

AnnieM_3

Got a letter from the doctor yesterday, asking me to make an appointment to go in and discuss the results of my cd3 bloods.

I'm trying not to panic, but as they told DH they only send letters when the news isn't good (which turned out to be the case for him), I can't help but think they've found a problem.

The thought of what our chances of getting pg would be reduced to if we both have problems makes me feel like we could be just about to hit a brick wall. I know I should be thinking positively, but it's difficult. I read 'Inconceivable' last weekend, and am now really unsure about IVF-type treatment. I have so much respect and admiration for all you ladies in here who are going through it, but I'm not sure I'm mentally strong enough to do it.

Hope you're all ok anyway.

AnnieM x

liloandstitch

AnnieM, try not to worry. Most things with blood tests are usually hormonal, and these are usually fixable. Even though the odds seem against you at the mo, half the battle is knowing what the problem is and trying to sort it.

As for IVF, it is a huge emotional roller coaster, and I would only go through it if you are absolutely sure - but if its what you want you cope - I think a strong relationship is prob most important, certainly in my case - I am hell to live with!!!!!!!!!!!!

Good luck with it it, Lilo

FairyElephant_2

liloandstitch wrote: »

As for IVF, it is a huge emotional roller coaster, and I would only go through it if you are absolutely sure - but if its what you want you cope - I think a strong relationship is prob most important, certainly in my case - I am hell to live with!!!!!!!!!!!!
Good luck with it it, Lilo

Hear hear! Wholeheartedly second this...After the initial shock I was kind of resigned to having to go through it - if it is your only chance of conceiving then the stark choice is IVF or childlessness (apart from adoption, which is a whole other ballgame!) and I can't cope with the prospect of no baby, ever, at the moment (I think that would totally break me).
But as Lilo says, there may several other options for you yet, so please try not to worry too much (((HUGS))).


Hi Nottlass!
Glad to hear that you are 'go' for another cycle.
We're waiting for our f/u appt - 12th Feb (been trying for an earlier cancellation but not likely apparantly).
Also waiting for AF to show up - CD32, which is fairly long for me, but I guess that might be 'cos it is the 1st one after the m/c. I have been staring at the calendar trying to work out poss cycle dates (IF the FC lets us go again) - it's like trying to look into a crystal ball with all the variables (AF start dates, poss response times to downregging & stimming...) mainly as we have this holiday booked at Easter with the SK's and some of DH's family, which I am afraid may delay or complicate things.


Hope everyone doing OK - and not struggling with the snow (we don't often get much in Bristol, due to being surrounded by hills, but we have a light dusting at the moment!).

FE

EDITED TO SAY - WE ACTUALLY HAVE 'REAL' SNOW NOW! BIG FLAKES AND IT IS 'PITCHING' - I AM SUCH A CHILD TO BE SO EXCITED!!!!!!!

ginvzt

AnnieM, don't worry - as others said. Did you make the appointment? I hope to get my day 3 blood test done on Friday (well, I was told I can do it between day 2-6, and if everything goes to plan, Friday is day 2 or 3). OH got the form and cup for semen analysis. He can do it any day between Tuesday and Thursday and just needs to drop it of at hospital within 1 hour, no appointment necessary. Sounded pretty relaxed to me this arrangement.
And my blood tests - I can just come to hospital any day I like (Monday to Friday, 8:30 to 16:30) and do it straight away, no appointments. May need to wait a bit, but no need to predict exact days for the appointments (especially as our GP practice only does blood tests on Monday and Friday).

Oh, and I am loving the snow. Pitty I am stuck at work all day.

nikkinoo_3

AnnieM wrote: »

I read 'Inconceivable' last weekend, and am now really unsure about IVF-type treatment. I have so much respect and admiration for all you ladies in here who are going through it, but I'm not sure I'm mentally strong enough to do it.

I totally agree Annie! Knowing that I have to decide between IUI and IVF depending on the outcome of the HSG (when AF lets me get around to it) fills me with fear - not just the hormonal changes but the financial outlay, emotional challenges, will it/won't it work etc etc all copuled with the fact that I stupidly can't help feeling like some sort of failure because I can't seem to do something that comes so easily to others. I too admire everyone in here who has gone and continues to go through it and only hope that I can be as positive as them when (if) the time comes.

I'm trying my utmost to keep busy during weekends and at work in an attempt to keep my mind from constantly dwelling on ttc. No matter how hard I try not to think about it it's always there unless I'm really engrossed in something else. I seem to be struggling with 'keeping busy at work' though... xx

ginvzt

You know what, I think this is the first month since we started to ttc, that I am sure I am not pg. I don't even think of testing, and I am sure that AF will be here on time. Strange - as every other month, even AF didn't break that cloud in my mind that 'maybe there is still a chance that I am pg' (silly, I know). I haven't even had any spotting yet and it is CD26 (for the last few months I had spotting for 2-3 days before AF, starting CD25 the latest). I am sure AF will be orderly and show up on Thursday. Or Wednesday.

nunnygirl

Good afternoon everyone, hope the snow isn't affecting everyone too much

I have decided that after a couple of weeks of snooping at this thread I would finally post on here

I am currently ttc and have been for about 16 months now with no avail.

I am conviced it is my size that is stopping me, as I am overweight so I am currently persuing weight management and have lost 4lbs so far.:j

I haven't been to the doctors about this as I am still quite young (I am 24 in March) and feel that I still have a lot of time to bring a baby into the world.

I have been looking at ovulation charts etc and this month will be a fact finding mission to get correct cycle days as I can almost pinpoint when AF is due, but I am not sure when I am actually ovulating



Sorry for the long first post, but I feel like I needed to get this all off my chest!!

Thank you all x:T

nottslass_2

nunnygirl wrote: »

Good afternoon everyone, hope the snow isn't affecting everyone too much

I have decided that after a couple of weeks of snooping at this thread I would finally post on here

I am currently ttc and have been for about 16 months now with no avail.

I am conviced it is my size that is stopping me, as I am overweight so I am currently persuing weight management and have lost 4lbs so far.:j

I haven't been to the doctors about this as I am still quite young (I am 24 in March) and feel that I still have a lot of time to bring a baby into the world.

I have been looking at ovulation charts etc and this month will be a fact finding mission to get correct cycle days as I can almost pinpoint when AF is due, but I am not sure when I am actually ovulating



Sorry for the long first post, but I feel like I needed to get this all off my chest!!

Thank you all x:T

Welcome to the thread,I'm sure that somebody who is more knowledgeable will come along and advise you on charting ovulation.

Well done for the weight loss,TTC is a good incentive !!!!


Nottslass

Somnium

arrgghh damn weather I really doubt that am gonna get to my appointment at ACU tomorrow. Roehampton is about 20 miles away and the snow is just awful, tried calling the unit today and just got the answering machine so looks as tho even if I did make it no one would be there. I can't take another postponement! Wish someone would answer the phone

liloandstitch

Hugs to you all, we all seem to need it for various reasons ((Group Hug))