Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

freckles38_2

Hi Ladies

I have been lurking for aboslutely ages on the MSE site but have never actually felt compelled to post until now. I found your group by accident - and wondered if I might join your your group? I have a beautiful 7 year old son conceived via ICSI adter 2 IUIs and two ICSIs and have done a further 6 attempts at ICSI to try to give him a sibling. I am now nearly 40 and although still sad about now having a bigger family am starting to think that it might be time to call it a day (not to mention that we have absolutely no money left and still owe thousands from last time!!)

Family and friends all tell us to count our blessings - pretty easy for somebody to say when they don't a clue!!)

Sorry for long first post! Just re read it amd makes me sound a right miserable thing - I'm not really!)

Sorry to see other people are having trouble with thier clinics - in my experience they are all very different and not all 'health professionals' are caring - in fact some seme positively sadistic!!)

Freckles

nottslass_2

Nicki wrote: »

Thanks everyone.

Well, I just got back after a nightmare trying to get to the clinic. It is a 30 minute journey by public transport from where I live, but I left an hour early to be on the safe side. Public transport wasn't running due to a fault on the circle line, so got a cab (25 minute drive). Roadworks and diversions meant the journey took an hour and 20 minutes and I was on eggs that I'd miss my slot!

When I got there, they'd put someone in ahead of me (which of course was fine) but I'd come with a full bladder as advised, and had to wait more than an hour after my due time, so was starting to get a bit jumpy!Ah well,this was probably a good omen - if you'd been on time the below mentioned timing wouldn't have been quite so spot on !!

But so glad we did it. The doctor who performed it said as soon as he put the specular in that it looked like I had either just ovulated a few minutes before or was just about to do so and that we couldn't have timed it better without having a scan every hour!!Well,I obviously take the credit for that.lol (down to my little dance) (After all that...) The sperm test also showed that before the treatment OH's guys had good motility but significantly below average density, but their washing had brought it up to a very acceptable level. So we've probably found the reason why we weren't conceiving, and if it doesn't work this time, its certainly worth a few more attempts (though not necessarily organised by the same referring consultant and obnoxious nurse!Why should you be paying to keep such people in a job ?

I really appreciate the good wishes and although I'm going to try and not obsess for the next two weeks, so may not drop into this thread quite so often as a result, I will be sure to keep up to speed with this month's IVF'ers and keep everything crossed for you.

I'll be keeping everything crossed for you X

nottslass_2

FairyElephant wrote: »

Hi Nottlass - that is an amazing difference in price! Can I ask which drugs you get for that?
As I said in a previous post, I don't get to choose where I get mine from (as far as I know - I have never asked mind you!) but this latest time I paid £410. The clinic orders them for me and they delivered to me. I received:
Norethisterone tablets (14 tablets = 7 days),
Buseralin for injection (4 x 5.5ml bottles - I inject 0.5ml every night),
Disposable syringes,
Gonal F injection pens (not sure how many - they are sealed in fridge - I remeber I had to buy more of this last time as I wasn't ready at 1st scan)
Final injection (x1, can't remember the name of it!)
2 packs pessaries for after the ET

I'm thinking that, if all goes to plan, ET for me should be around 10th Dec, so I'm only about a week ahead of you!

Hi FE,my prescription is as follows -

2 x synarel Nasal spray for down regging ( could have had Buseralin injection,but too much of a wimp)

3x 900 Gonal -f pens
3x300 gonalm f pens

1x Ovitrelle

pesseries

Its the Gonal F pens that are the expensive ones (must be gold dust in them)


ET should be about 17th dec - it looks like we'll be hormonal / symptom spotting wrecks together !!!!!

shelly

Hi Nicki.

Just wanted to wish you the best of luck for the coming 2 weeks and the following months.

shelly x

nottslass_2

freckles38 wrote: »

Hi Ladies

I have been lurking for aboslutely ages on the MSE site but have never actually felt compelled to post until now. I found your group by accident - and wondered if I might join your your group? I have a beautiful 7 year old son conceived via ICSI adter 2 IUIs and two ICSIs and have done a further 6 attempts at ICSI to try to give him a sibling. I am now nearly 40 and although still sad about now having a bigger family am starting to think that it might be time to call it a day (not to mention that we have absolutely no money left and still owe thousands from last time!!)

Family and friends all tell us to count our blessings - pretty easy for somebody to say when they don't a clue!!)

Sorry for long first post! Just re read it amd makes me sound a right miserable thing - I'm not really!)

Sorry to see other people are having trouble with thier clinics - in my experience they are all very different and not all 'health professionals' are caring - in fact some seme positively sadistic!!)

Freckles

Hello and welcome freckles,you're in very good company here,I'm due to have ICSI before xmas,but as I'm 40, this is my one and only attempt,like you I have DS who's 6,and would dearly love to give him a sibling.
I know what you mean,about people telling you to "count your blessings"but at least people have now stopped asking "having anymore,are we ?" or enquiring if we only want "the one " !!!

liloandstitch

We have got really busy, great to hear so many people are all going for it!!!!!! I didnt read the thread til now, but have done a beautiful fertility dance which will hopefully work for Nicki - So sorry about your appalling experiences, but please, if you can, put them to one side!!! It sounds like in the end the IUI was perfect, and if that ******* person hadnt upset you you would have been on cloud nine that it had all gone so well!!! Relax and enjoy!!! Stress doesnt help - deep breaths and visualise that sperm on its way to your very willing egg, and then snuggling up safely in your womb!!!! There, pregnant already!!!! - anyone else!!!!

Sticky baby dust to Nicki, and happy thoughs to FE and Nottslass in you downregging!!!! = Lilo

VK-2008

hey people, had a good weekend, now in 2ww and sooo excited about referral for clinic with our first appt. do you think i need to bring anything, we are excited but obv quite nervous, really do not know what to expect. been at the ttc bit for a while but really aint thought too much about the iui-ivf things - dont really know all that much about them. hoping we dont need to go down that ave but who knows. lets all hope we get what we want out of this

also we all in aint iin our 40s me the baby i think im 22 next month and hubby 25. so it affects us all ttc.

anyway i have talked enough - hows every1 else?

hello to any newbies!!! :T

is any1 in here from scotland. im quite pleased with referral times got referred at 18 months and then got appt confirmed last week so going on thurs.

JoJo77

Hi Nicki

Sounds like everything went perfectly (apart from the stressing bit)

I've just done my very first Fertility Dance just for you. Our puppy got very excited about me jiggling around the room and joined in as well!

sarahs999

Hi Freckles,
I'm 38 and having the same worries as you - I have a nearly-four-year old boy but seem to keep having miscarriages now. In the back of my mind though I always remember that I'm an only child and I loved it growing up. It gave me lots of opportunity to be creative, to enjoy the things I wanted to without compromise, and of course I basked in my parents' unadulterated attention and love! There are always two sides to a story of course, but just as I will never know what it's like to have borthers and sisters, so people with siblings will never know what it's like to be an only one.

On a different note, my son came up to me yesterday with a doll in a bed and said, 'there you are mummy, your baby's not died now, it's only sleeping'. I don't know how I held it together - in fact I thought of it later on the train and blubbed then!

FairyElephant_2

Woo-Hoo Nicki - way to go girl! Everything crossed for you here, too....

Welcome Freckles - so nice to know of previous ICSI successes. Are you going for 'just one more try' then?

VK2008 - I the only thing to take to the clinic is a record of your cycle dates, and if you have been temping or charting then a good idea to take copies of those records too.

Oh Sarah - you just made me cry! (good thing I'm on my own in the office at the mo!). What a lovely caring boy your son must be - I'm sure you don't need me to tell how lucky you are!
I am an only child too, but I found it a very lonely experience and longed for a sibling. I always declared that I would NEVER have just the one child - how naive I was to think that it would be my decision!!!

Nottslass - Ovitrelle! That's the one I was trying to think of! Yes I think the GonalF is the expensive stuff - I needed to buy an extra one last time and it was :eek: money! Seems like my clinic's supplier was not a bad deal then. They first sent me the Synarel (3 of them) by mistake and I had to get them changed, as I can't do the sniffing thing (makes me sick). Not that the injections are 'pleasant' but at least they are once a day and then it's all over for 24 hours.

At the moment my emotions are all over the place (eg. I can't watch the news as every time I see anything about that poor little boy I just can't help crying) - suspect it is the downregging - and I am so tired I could just sleep all the time. I'm so ratty with DH that I'm surprised he's even talking to me at the moment!

Have a good day everyone!

FE