Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

FairyElephant_2

ginvzt wrote: »

Sorry for rant. My 'problems' seem to be so small when compared with all of you, but I just can't hold it all together...

Hey - no problem - you go ahead and rant all you need! All our problems may be a bit different, and the paths that we are taking go different ways, but we are all aiming for the same destination and understand the ups and downs of the journey and the upsets and frustrations along the way.
It is all so emotionally charged that sometimes even the smaller hills seem like mountains!

Hope you get some good news tomorrow.

AnnieM_3

FairyElephant wrote: »

AnnieM - sorry to hear of your bereavement, made even harder after your M/C - so much to cope with no wonder you feel you have been tested - (((HUGS))) to you and hope that you feel better soon. I know it doesn't suit everyone, but I have found that counselling really has helped me when everything (not just the TTC stuff) has got on top of me. Just a thought Hun.

A good idea FE, and one I intend to act on. I think talking to someone would maybe help.

Hope the chest infection clears up soon!

AnnieM x

Leopardlady

I will second FE's advice on counselling, talking to someone who does not know you or your family can really help. Take care AnnieM.

jenniwren12

Toni, I am so very very sorry.

I know there is nothing I can say to make you feel any better.

I'm just so sorry.

Take good care.
xxxxxx

toniq

7 wasted weeks, all those injections all that pain for nothing, i dreamed for nothing, 2 decent blastos and nothing, yet again, to say im upset is an understatment, my eyes are red raw,stupid me thought id be baby shopping at xmas, instead ill be remembering what could have been again. Im sick of it absolutley sick of it, i knew it wasn't gonna happen for me, why i wasted my money time and hopes on this god knows, i feel so empty, and a failure.Ive asked Paul to find someone who can actually give him a baby, he said im being silly.
It hurts so bad im so lost and shook up.

liloandstitch

Toniq, I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I have had four attempts and no luck, and I know it feels rotten. Please dont give up hope, and I am sure Paul wants you, baby or no baby. We are with you 150%, let off steam whenever you want and if you want to pm me, or phone if that helps, ill pm you my phone number. Give yourself plenty of time and love to get over this, it is like a bereavement. Would counselling help? Clinic should be able to offer this is it would help. Hugs, Hugs and More Hugs XXXXXXXXXXXX - and I forgot to say, let us know who is posting sarcastic c**p and we will sort them out for you - shame on them. May the fleas of a thousand camels infest their a***holes!

AnnieM, so sorry to hear of your bereavement, esp so soon after your mc - Mums leave such huge holes in our lives when they leave us, and 2.5 years later, I still miss mine like crazy. It does get less painful in time, hang on in there - more Hugs XXXX

FE, glad to hear that everything is good for you, keep stabbing and get shot of that chest infection, maybe cos you feel lousy the hormones are going straight over your head?

Ginvzt, glad that things are getting sorted for you. I find its all the sorting out that goes with it stresses me out far more than the tests and prodecures themselves. Stick with it - it will all be worth it.

Angelavdavies, glad all is going well with you.

I think I may have forgotten people, and if so I am sorry - I have been out for the day and have walked my legs and my brain off - far too much for my recovery but what the heck, and now I cant string 2 words together.

So to everyone else, hope all is going well - Lilo

homeaway

purplepardalis wrote: »

Hi everyone,

I've spent the last few days reading this thread and feel like I know you all personally now!!! I've laughed and had a few tears at your posts.

Whilst I'm not ttc at the moment, this year was going to be the year that we were. Two things have scuppered our plans, first I've been made redundant - obviously not good for maternity leave. The second is that I've just been diagnosed with PCOS after a year of irregular periods. Diagnosis came via blood tests and an ultrasound that showed more than 12 follicles.

If that wasn't annoying enough, in November 2006 my son was stillborn at 34 weeks after a placental abruption. I could go on for pages about this and how awful it was and how poorly I was and how much I have grieved but I'm sure you all understand without me doing so.. I got pg back in 2006 without even trying whilst on the pill (I must've not taken it properly I think), so for my next pregnancy I have to not only face a stressful time worrying constantly and then being induced early I now have to worry about getting pg at all!

I guess one of things I have to do is find out if I'm ovulating at all. Please can you all give me your opinions on the best methods - I can see you do opks, temp checks - what should I be looking out for?

And if I can help at all with advice for you guys - any questions about my previous pg and about placental abruption and anything else I'd be glad to help. I think you guys are all amazing working so hard to get what you want. At the same time, I understand too - I'll do it all myself if I have to!

PP
xx

Hi so sorry that you have been through so much, and losing your son. The ovulation sticks show when you are approaching ovulation but dont actually prove that you have ovulated. You could start to chart which would show you when you ovulate and give you lots of info about your body. If you want to go down that route i would advise that you buy a basal thermometer as it goes to two decimal places and is more accurate than a normal one. You have to take your temp in the morning after at least 3 hours uninterrupted sleep and at the same time if you can, but you must do it before you get out of bed or anything. You write it down on a chart that you can download from ovusoft.com . Taking your temp vaginally is more accurate. If you are ovulating you will see that your temps will be lower after ovulation and increase after ovulation before going back down for the af visit . If you have cervical mucus you will notice that it increases and becomes more stretchy towards ovulation and dries up after ovulation. The number of days after ovulation to you get af is individual to each women but never varies more than a day or so. If you are not ovulating then your chart will not have a temperature shift it will just be up and down every day. The ovusoft website is down at the moment but you will find lots of forums on there and there is a cycle gallery where you can see what different charts look like. There is also a thread for women who have suffered losses . I hope this helps you .

jenniwren12

Toniq,

Once again, I know there are no words to help, just know that I/we, and many many people care so much for you and are here for you whenever you need them.

From what I've read over the last year, Paul loves you to his very soul and you him. x

I'm so sorry that you're having to go through this and suffering so much pain. I wish you love and strength to get through the next few days/weeks/months.

Love and hope.
xxx

liloandstitch

purplepardaris, sorry it was you that I had forgotten. I was sorry to hear that you were having problems and I cannot imagine the pain you must have gone through to have had the stillbirth at that late stage. My son was born at 34 weeks, and I am not sure how I would have coped in your shoes. So well done for sounding relatively sane.

As for pcos, it does not automatically cause problems. It may be that you have always had it, although a lot of people do find it causes problems, there are also many who find out they have it by accident and have had no problems. I cant add anything to the opk info that you have already been given other than to say, relax and think positive, stress can cause you to have problems on its own, and too much opk use can cause you relationship stress and make you and OH feel you have to BD (babydance) on demand. It is worth using to check that you are oving reg if you want to though.

Hope this helps - Lilo

angelavdavis

So sorry Toniq to hear your news. It was going so well, its no surprise you feel like you do. Of course your OH still wants you. I know how it feels to feel useless, but you can't beat yourself up like this.

Sending you lots of hugs over cyberspace. xx