Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

jiblets1

woo! forums are back up - did we all cope?

liloandstitch

Missed you all lots!!!

Lilo

gymfiend

Morning all,

Happy belated birthday Lilo! Hope you had a lovely one?

Nicki you look lovely

Hope everyone had a nice weekend? (felt a bit like losing an arm not being able to come in and check up!!!)

I'm in a good mood this morning, OH's sister has just gone into labour - she is the only pregnant person at the minute who isn't making me feel bitter about babies! Very excited to meet the new addition hopefully today (she fell preg by accident a few months after we started trying!)

I'm onto CD5 today, AF has already gone so the BD'ing can commence. We've agreed this is the last month of guess work & next month we'll get ov sticks, though I have a lot pinned on this month since last cycle was the shortest and most normal cycle yet Then again, I have a lot pinned on every cycle!!

Have noticed hair on my arms growing and getting darker this week, I've always been a very unhairy person and was mortified, actually (embarassingly) cried about it. Think it must be the hormones being messed around by the medication, so will be mentioning that when I get back to the hospital! Also noticed my weight creeping up so have got myself back into the gym and on a diet. Feel very proactive this month

Right rambled enough for one Monday morning - once again hope everyone is ok and had a nice weekend xxx

nottslass_2

jiblets1 wrote: »

woo! forums are back up - did we all cope?

Well I hope that we all used the extra free time productively !!! *nudge nudge,wink wink

AnnieM_3

Hi,

I'm on my own today (DH is working), and I'm trying not to be down and miserable. I had a nasty shock on Saturday, when I passed what I guess must have been our little bean. I've only passed one clot (please excuse TMI), so I think that was it.

The mc seems like it'll be finished soon. I'm wondering where on earth to begin picking myself (ourselves) up and 'getting back on the horse' so to speak. We have talked about trying again and have come to the conclusion that we want to do so as quickly as possible, to take advantage of the supposed increase in fertility after a mc. I just don't really know where to start.

I'm terrified that after we had been trying for so long that was our one chance, terrified if I fall pg again this nightmare will happen again, upset that I won't enjoy being pg [if there's a] next time, feeling guilty that I'm even thinking about trying again yet... I suspect those are pretty normal emotions though.

I think I'm going to start charting my bbt again soon (I stopped as soon as I got my BFP), and I'll have to dig out my OPKs too. Any advice etc. would be very gratefully received!

Sorry for the long post. I couldn't face posting last week, beyond just to say it hadn't worked out.

AnnieM x

Natalie6999

AnnieM wrote: »

Hi,

I'm on my own today (DH is working), and I'm trying not to be down and miserable. I had a nasty shock on Saturday, when I passed what I guess must have been our little bean. I've only passed one clot (please excuse TMI), so I think that was it.

The mc seems like it'll be finished soon. I'm wondering where on earth to begin picking myself (ourselves) up and 'getting back on the horse' so to speak. We have talked about trying again and have come to the conclusion that we want to do so as quickly as possible, to take advantage of the supposed increase in fertility after a mc. I just don't really know where to start.

I'm terrified that after we had been trying for so long that was our one chance, terrified if I fall pg again this nightmare will happen again, upset that I won't enjoy being pg [if there's a] next time, feeling guilty that I'm even thinking about trying again yet... I suspect those are pretty normal emotions though.

I think I'm going to start charting my bbt again soon (I stopped as soon as I got my BFP), and I'll have to dig out my OPKs too. Any advice etc. would be very gratefully received!

Sorry for the long post. I couldn't face posting last week, beyond just to say it hadn't worked out.

AnnieM x

Annie

I had two m/c before I had our little boy, both before 6 weeks, when I got pregnant with him I was terrified but decided to take it one day at a time. Once I got to twelve weeks & we had our first scan I began to gain confidence & even a scare at 16 weeks didn't knock my growing confidence with my pregnancy.

My advice is take things slowly & don't push yourself too hard, before you know it you will be looking forward to that baby you so want.

I am in the same position again, I so want another baby but it just isn't happening at the moment, I'm 43 & feel like time is running out.

angelavdavis

Sorry to hear your news AnnieM. I hope things get better soon for you.

Lilo, as a geriatric you are in good company

DH and I are off to the fertility clinic tomorrow. We will find out what my latest FSH test result is and whether we qualify for NHS treatment. Am keeping fingers crossed.

I have been taking the wheatgrass tablets, DHEA, L'Arginine, multi-vits, folic acid, oil of prim (I feel like I am rattling!) We have also both had some accupuncture treatment. If my FSH is high, then we will have to be resolved to paying for the treatment. As the ISAs are doing little at the moment, I think I will cash them in to pay.

Nikabella

I really don't want to offend anyone by posting on here as I was orignally on the other TTC thread but no-ones answering on the pregnancy thread & I thought someone here might be able to help.

Please help I need someones advise, I'm 8-9 weeks pregnant now & today I've started bleeding. It started lightly at about 1pm & its now getting heavier & I have dragging sensations,like period pains, but they're not very painful as such yet. My OH rang the midwife for me as I was out & she said I have to see the doctor, I have an appointment for an hours time but I don't see what going to the doctors is going to do! They can't scan or use a doppler or anything & I haven't even seen a midwife or a doctor yet in this pregnancy. I don't know what to do, I can't stop crying - I'm so worried. I just want some one to do a scan now & tell me one way or the other.

Natalie6999

Nikabella wrote: »

I really don't want to offend anyone by posting on here as I was orignally on the other TTC thread but no-ones answering on the pregnancy thread & I thought someone here might be able to help.

Please help I need someones advise, I'm 8-9 weeks pregnant now & today I've started bleeding. It started lightly at about 1pm & its now getting heavier & I have dragging sensations,like period pains, but they're not very painful as such yet. My OH rang the midwife for me as I was out & she said I have to see the doctor, I have an appointment for an hours time but I don't see what going to the doctors is going to do! They can't scan or use a doppler or anything & I haven't even seen a midwife or a doctor yet in this pregnancy. I don't know what to do, I can't stop crying - I'm so worried. I just want some one to do a scan now & tell me one way or the other.

Do you not have a triage clinic at your maternity hospital?

Ring them & ask if you could get seen today, or have you an EPU at your local hospital.

If not I would go to your nearest casualty dept as if you see your Doctor this evening you may have to wait until morning to be seen at hospital.

How heavy is your bleeding as some women do bleed slightly at the time their periods would be due.

I know it is hard but try to stay calm until someone tells you otherwise.

Nikabella

Natalie6999 wrote: »

Do you not have a triage clinic at your maternity hospital?

Ring them & ask if you could get seen today, or have you an EPU at your local hospital.

If not I would go to your nearest casualty dept as if you see your Doctor this evening you may have to wait until morning to be seen at hospital.

How heavy is your bleeding as some women do bleed slightly at the time their periods would be due.

I know it is hard but try to stay calm until someone tells you otherwise.

Thank you so much for your quick reply.

I don't know if there is a triage clinic, the midwife said that we couldn't go to the EPU without a referral from the doctor. If I ring them direct I'm worried they might get angry.

The bleeding started off light & has got heavier, but not sanitary towel heavy, more like panty liner heavy if you know what I mean. The dragging sensations have increased & I have got cramping, similar to when you have an upset stomach. The bleeding is dark red not brown.

I know I should stay ccalm, but it's so difficult I didn't bleed once with my DD & it's hard to think that it could be anything other than bad news.