Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

becs

AlexW,
I missed your earlier post. Sorry to hear about your mc. Keep up the hope though. My friend's sister had 5 mc before she had her lovely little boy and is now happily pg with her second. My sister in law also had a mc before she had my 2 gorgeous nephews. Sadly it seems to be something an awful lot of women have to go through before they get their much wanted babes.:grouphug: I've not been through it myself as not been fortunate enough yet to even get a BFP so I can't offer any advice but know it must be heartbreaking for you.

Thanks Lilo,
AF not arrived yet and have got a weird feeling in tummy today more like a tightening and stitch type feeling rather than usual AF cramps. Dh is getting excited and trying to get me to be positive but I just can't bring myself to even dare to hope it might be the month. Fertility friend had a test date of today for me but I decided I wasn't going to test until tomorrow as everytime I've tested before AF has arrived within hours! So I kind of see it as bad luck, some weird part of me thinks if I leave it until tomorrow fate might be kind and let me have my first ever BFP on mothers day!

gymfiend

Sounds like it might be good news Becs, will be keeping everything crossed for you, would love for it to be your turn almost as much as I'd love for it to be mine

Somnium I'm impressed by the positive attitude

I'm home for the day now feeling sorry for myself. I keep bursting into tears out of nowhere, really out of character for me. I'm on CD 17 and think ov must be just around the corner...going to buy some opk's for next month to take the guess work out....decided against it this month because i wanted it to be fun still, but it's just become more stressful trying to bd every day, argh.

Hope everyone is alright & has lovely weather It's gorgeous here, trying to motivate myself to get out and go for a walk in it!xxx

Somnium

gymfiend wrote: »

Somnium I'm impressed by the positive attitude

Well am just starting off on my first IVF journey and I don't see how negativity will help so am thinking positive all the way.

liloandstitch

tbh alex, when I miscarried, they were both 'natural' rather than induced - and were more like a heavy period, with a rather obvious 'mass' which was the baby. I was lucky in that the scan showed that everything had come away and that was that. My dates etc seem to be about the same - died at 6 weeks and mc at 9. The 'period' was extremely painful and about twice as heavy as a normal period.

There are quite a few others on here who have had mcs, and they may be able to help more -

but dont worry - there is no such thing as too much information!!!!!!!!!!

Lilo

liloandstitch

oh, my posts are hopelessly in the wrong order - I thought I was replying straight after alex's post - my brain really has been in the blender for the past month or so!!!!!

Becs, I will cross my lucky legs over and over like I did for AnnieM and try and bring you some good luck. Please though, dont let it spoil your day tomorrow if it isnt a bfp (yet!) it did take AnnieM a few days before it showed up - I know what it is like, you invest so much hope into these things!! But I am so hoping that it is your month too.

Thinking of you - use 1st thing pee for the best result, and LET US KNOW (please!!)

Lilo

becs

Well Lilo,

got home tonight with af cramps and spotting so looks like will be in full flow by the morning. Another month down. I have blood tests arranged for cd2 and 25 of my cycle this month so we'll see what next month brings. I'm trying not to be too disheartened and look to next month. On the positive side if we conceive next month it will be a capricorn baby so we'll be a capricorn family as dh, me and the dog are all capricorns! Also ov will be a couple of days after our second wedding anniversary, and the 2 year anniversary of us starting ttc.

Goodluck with the IVF Somnium.

liloandstitch

So sorry becs,I was really hopeful for you. I know how I work out the significance of dates, and how let down I feel when it doesnt work out so I kinda know how you feel. Chin up if you can, as you say there is next month. Try and relax and enjoy your self, tell yourself that it WILL happen within the next 6 months, relax and regular bding. I really do think that us all getting stressed about it all is not helping us in the long run (and yes I know thats easier said than done and I dont take my own advice - all I can tell you is that for me personnaly, I cannot get preg for 6 months, and I 'feel' so fertile at the moment - my cycle has returned to 28 days,I feel really 'sexy' at ov - and I think it is because I am not stressing about it!!!)

Huge hugs to you and anyone else who needs it - Lilo

shelly

Oh blimey.

Just had a few tears for Jade who passed away in her sleep in the early hours of this morning. I knew I would when the time came.....I feel so incredibly lucky everyday that my cancer was found in time to save me and I feel for the families of the women who die everyday because theirs wasn't found in time.



Not much to report here. CD 12 and not much BDing going on. Hubby has been decorating this week and hasn't been feeling well on top of that so not much happening here.

Hope you are all well.

shelly

becs

Thanks Lilo,

I actually feel ok about it, surprised myself! Hopefully it's not because I'm pinning too much on next month! Mind you I have tried really hard not to think about it other than at ov times and not to symptom spot or get my hopes up this month. I do feel quite relaxed about it now. Maybe because prolactin now sorted so feel happier about that.

Shelly,

It is so sad isn't it. I can't say I was a particular fan of hers but it's sad for any family to lose a wife,daughter and a mother at such a young age. Cancer is such a cruel disease and spares no thought for those it affects. It is times like this it brings back memories of my best friend that I lost to stomach cancer 10 years ago when she was just 32. My heart goes out to her boys to lose their mum when they're so young.

liloandstitch

I just wanted to echo the other comments about Jade. Having just had CC myself, there but for the grace of god go I.

Lets just say I will be hugging my DH and DS a little bit closer this morning and counting my blessings.

Glad you are ok becs, you sound as if you have it all sorted - go girl!!!!!!

Lilo