Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

shelly

liloandstitch wrote: »

BUT AN EXTRA NOTE FOR ME AND SHELLY, AT LEAST WITHOUT A CERVIX, WE HAVE LESS CHANCE OF LOSING SOME OF THE BLIGHTERS, WHAT DO YOU THINK!!?!

I have been thinking this too since watching the program. I also think that as our cervixes (or what's left of them) are much shorter we won't have the problem of the sperm missing the entrance to the cervix because the sperm can't now 'pool' itself behind the cervix.
Does that make sense? :rotfl:

becs

Hi everyone,

Nice to hear such positive posts on here. I was doing surprisingly well after AF arrived last saturday but am now feeling a bit down. I've been reading the posts on the "normal" ttc thread and I've found it mighty depressing all the BFP's from women on there who are literally in 1st or 2nd month of ttc. I really don't want to be jealous but I just can't seem to help it. I never feel like that with the BFP's on here because I know how much everyone goes through on here to get to that point and how much their babes really are wanted. I just think it makes them all the more appreciated because we know how much of a miracle it is to have achieved it at long last. I just think the women that have not had to go through anything at all to gte theire bfp's just take it all for granted.
DH's friend who I've mentioned numerous times that is pregnant with an unplanned baby has spent the last 7 and a half months complaining every single day about how she feels, how fat she is, how much she's already given up for this baby etc etc etc, I really don't think I've heard a positive comment at all about the baby yet and it just breaks my heart. WHy are there so many women on here like us who literally go to hell and back to have the sheer delight of being able to have a baby when so many others seem to fall pregnant accidently with so many unwanted children. How many of us would be delighted to be throwing up every single day for 9 months if it meant we had a beautiful baby at the end of it.
Rant over! Af has finally stopped so dh and I off out for a meal and an early night for some fun bd'ing for a change! Hugs to all those who need them and lets have lots of New year babies please!

nottslass_2

becs wrote: »

Hi everyone,

Nice to hear such positive posts on here. I was doing surprisingly well after AF arrived last saturday but am now feeling a bit down. I've been reading the posts on the "normal" ttc thread and I've found it mighty depressing all the BFP's from women on there who are literally in 1st or 2nd month of ttc. I really don't want to be jealous but I just can't seem to help it. I never feel like that with the BFP's on here because I know how much everyone goes through on here to get to that point and how much their babes really are wanted. I just think it makes them all the more appreciated because we know how much of a miracle it is to have achieved it at long last. I just think the women that have not had to go through anything at all to gte theire bfp's just take it all for granted.
DH's friend who I've mentioned numerous times that is pregnant with an unplanned baby has spent the last 7 and a half months complaining every single day about how she feels, how fat she is, how much she's already given up for this baby etc etc etc, I really don't think I've heard a positive comment at all about the baby yet and it just breaks my heart. WHy are there so many women on here like us who literally go to hell and back to have the sheer delight of being able to have a baby when so many others seem to fall pregnant accidently with so many unwanted children. How many of us would be delighted to be throwing up every single day for 9 months if it meant we had a beautiful baby at the end of it.
Rant over! Af has finally stopped so dh and I off out for a meal and an early night for some fun bd'ing for a change! Hugs to all those who need them and lets have lots of New year babies please!

Having been "on both sides of the fence" so to speak,DS 1 & 2 were both accidents- I had DS1(unplanned) 22 years ago,when I was an unmarried 18 year old (OMG I can still feel the same now!),but,I went through hell and high water to make sure he had the best life I could possibly give him.
DS2 (who was 7 yesterday) was also unplanned,but I can honestly say that they have never been unwanted,but the pain of not being able to conceive for the last 5 years has made me appreciate them even more !!!!

If I am fortunate to get pregnant again,this child will be no more or less wanted/precious than the other 2 - just a bit more expensive ( 2X IVf:) )


Sorry,this post wasn't supposed to sound like I'm having a go - in fact I thought your post was lovely,but what I'm trying to say is (in a roundabout way) all children are precious and I would hate to think that DS 1 & 2 would feel that they weren't as "special" or wanted as no 3 (if I get that far)


Anyway enjoy your BDing !!!!:)

becs

Ah Nottslass,

I didn't mean to infer all "accidents" are thought of in that way, in fact I am "an accident" myself and I know although I wasn't planned I was very much wanted by both my parents. I think it's this 1 particular friend of dh as I say never wanted children, she's 38 so not like she was still very young and would change her mind. She had decided she didn't want children because she and boyfriend are very selfish people who enjoy their very busy social life, designer possesions etc and children just don't fit that life. UNfortunately even at nearly 8 months pregnant I haven't heard a single positive comment about it yet, only negatives about how she can't wear her designer clothes, can't drink, can't go out and enjoy a social life becauae she's too tired and that's before she's "banged up" when the baby arrives! She's given me an ever more tainted view of those unplanned pregnancys.

I wish you well with your quest for no.3 as although it's been 2 years since we decided to start trying we haven't gone down the IVF route yet and I can only imagine how much harder that is.

Somnium

FairyElephant wrote: »

Somnium - when are you starting your IVF (sorry if you've said before and I missed it)? You may well find that stress/anticipation affect AF - they certainly do for me! I have been 'late' both times when due to start an IVF cycle......

Hi FE I start my first ever cycle in a months time, I think its more excitement than anything am feeling really posative about it all. Anyhoo AF did arrive this am in usual full force, bloating, cramps the lot!

liloandstitch

becs, this thread was set up because a lot of people felt like this. It wasnt that we begrudged them their bfp, you just want to rip their head off because it was so easy for them, when we are posting about IVF and miscarriages. So, say whatever you feel on here, we all understand and have felt the same way. Enjoy your early night!

Nottslass, it doesnt matter whether its your first second or third that you are ttc, it still hurts badly. I do think it feels different when its your first to your second, but you feel no less desperate or gutted.

I hope we all get the good news we are looking for this year!!

Have a good weekend everyone, make sure that those sperm go off and practice their journey.

Shelly, I only have enough cervix to hold the stitch holding the womb closed, about 1cm - so my little spermies should have not trouble finding the right way, in theory (although in practice I bet they are all blind, and pushing zimmer frames with their artificial legs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! - sorry DH!!)

Lilo

spaghetti_monster

Hi all,
thanks for the messages and making me feel welcome to drop in!

I was doing some research on miscarriage on the net and it says that a miscarriage can go on for about 2 weeks, so as it was 2 weeks Tuesday that it started I called the hospital. The nurse there told me that miscarriages can go on for even about 3 weeks, and some women even bleed up til the next period. She said that if I had a fever or the blood was strange/smelly I should immediately get in touch. I felt a bit more reassured cos although I'm still bleeding, it's getting much less and there's nothing unusual about the blood. I still feel a bit anxious, I'm still getting small waves of that "period" feeling.....keep wondering if it's going to go on forever (and I should take out shares in Always Ultra....)
But my logical mind says I should just be patient, let my body take care of itself. And even though I feel like I want to start ttc right away, it's probably good for me emotionally and mentally to take a little bit of time.

I think I said in a previous post, that I feel a bit of a changed person since all this - my desire for children is much more real and urgent than before. Becs - I'm noticing some feelings like you described - when you see and hear about women who don't care about their children. There was a news story the other day about a crack-cocaine addict who's had 4 children - 3 were in care before they were born. She managed to keep one a secret from the social services, only to kill him when he was a few months old (with the help of her low-life boyfriend). This is quite an extreme example and really makes me see how life can sometimes seem so unfair. If there was a magic way to redistribute all the babies from these terrible stories amongst all the women who are longing for children....

Anyway, on a more subtle level, I find myself now noticing things like very young girls with their babies. I cannot help a part of me thinking - it's the wrong way round..why can't I have the baby, and this young girl can spend a couple more years on education/career/travel/going out??? (Don't worry- there's also a big part of me that knows the folly of thinking like this...)

JoJo77

Hello All

Haven't posted for a while. On my first round of Clomid and have felt rubbish with hot flushes, swollen abdomen and nausea. I even took a pregnanct test in fear that I had started the Clomid and had been pregnant. For the first time in my life I was glad it was a BFN!

Anyway, have been following the Marilyn Grenville diet and it hasn't been too bad. Have not had any alcohol for 3 weeks and I don't actually miss it. In fact, I now have no cellulite so that must be a plus.

Clearblue fertility monitor showed peak fertility this morning and DH has already told me he's really tired (I actually felt I could physically hurt him at that moment!:mad:). Anyway, I told him that only a certain part of him needed to stay 'awake' and what's the point of changing our diet, spending loads on vitamins and me taking Clomid and feeling ill if he won't do the deed at the right time.

Supposed to be going out with friends for a drink tonight (mine'll be the water then) and don't want to run the risk of DH getting the famous 'droop' so will have to be very persuasive before we go out:rotfl:. I don't know...it really feels a bit like a military operation at times!

gymfiend

Morning all,

Hope everyone is ok and has had a good weekend?

I've been missing for a few days...needed to stop obsessing I think! Have had a lovely week of enjoying time with my OH rather than bding on demand, and found we did it just as much but it was much nicer I love it when the sun comes out & I can feel summer coming, it makes me so much happier!

Had a f*ck up with my MRI scan results, almost 4 weeks since I had it done but no results so phoned the hospital to find they'd been sent to the wrong department, so still waiting on that. It's such a nightmare, I'm sure I'm overmedicating at the moment but there's nobody to ask since I haven't got an appointment, argh!

I'm on CD27 of a 35 day cycle, no symptoms of any sort! Not expecting anything this cycle as I drank enough wine to last a lifetime last week so doubt it will have happened.

OH and I are thinking of setting a wedding date for June 2010, but I'm not 100% sure. He thinks if we're not pg by September then we leave it til post wedding...but I find the idea of that so heartbreaking I'm just not sure what to do? As much as I want to get married and now, I don't know that I can put ttc on hold for it? Help!

xxx

Bunnie1982

I have the consultant this afternoon for all my results to rather nervous at the moment.

Not slept much all night but thats also partially because am full of cold and everytime I lay down I can't breath, off to doctors for that too later. Been off work since last Wednesday afternoon with it so starting to worry now that will will be funny but I can't help it.