Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

spaghetti_monster

Hi there!
I just wanted to write a thank-you post somewhere and this maybe seemed a good place to do it as I've seen a few of the same names on another thread I was reading a couple of weeks ago......
It was a miscarriage thread that has been closed - I guess because some people were getting very very upset (understandably a very emotional topic).

Anyway, I just had a miscarriage myself and as I've been an MSE'er for a few years, was looking around on here and I can't tell you how much it helped me to read about other peoples experiences, not feel so alone. I have an extremely supportive OH and the medical care/support has also been great, but to read about other womens experiences was different. I cried bucketloads, but somehow felt a bit better afterwards.

And I didn't just want to read and run, but to thank everyone that shared their experiences and feelings.

I've never been an overly maternal type, but I knew I would like children one day. Me and OH got married in July last year and stopped with the pill at the beginning of September. I guess I thought it would take a while, so the pregnancy was a bit unexpected. I knew I was pregnant for just one week before I got the bad news.
It's strange cos I feel like I've changed quite a bit - I now have a real desire to have children....and the old biological clock is suddenly ticking louder (I'm 36), and all sorts of fears/anxieties are more real than before...

But anyway, I'll say thank you again!! And good luck to everyone here, from someone who has a lot more empathy than before!

Alex x

JoJo77

Congratulations AnnnieM, knew we were destined for another BFP on the thread:j Hope you have a good 9 months. What a fab xmas pressie it will be!

AnnieM_3

Just popping in to say it's official as of today - the nurse finally managed to get a line on their test strips! Phew! Got my appointment with the doc next week.

Hugs to you all!

Anniex

pa2539

Congratulations Anniem. It's so nice to see people starting to get BFP's.

I had my first appointment with the midwife on Wed and mentioned that I had had some bleeding. She told me about a BEP clinic (Bleeding in early pregnancy) so I went today to reassure myself that everything was ok. I had an internal scan and she told me I am 10 weeks and 4 days and everything is fine. Let's just say it brought a tear to my eye as I thought the world was against me.

I now believe in miracles and if it can happen to me it can happen to any of you. Thinking of you all and adding extra babydust x

becs

Well I'm cd30 11dpo today. Af is due tomorrow and I'm already feeling rubbish about it. It's always the way, it's like I manage to put it to the back of my mind after ov then it all comes to a head when af arrives and I just get so upset. I've had no symptoms at all, I woke up with AF type cramps this morning but they went and AF didn't show but not due until tomorrow. I have found waiting after ov easier this month but just wish it was sunday already! Once AF is here I get myself foccussed on next months attempts. It's so lovely to read the BFP's on this thread because it really does give hope.

Mrs_Ryan

Hi everyone...

congrats AnnieM!!! thats really good news!!!

Im feeling weird at the minute. OH and I BD'd the other week and when we'd done I had a really weird feeling.... cant describe it. Have been feeling funny... feeling sick at weird times and hungry no matter what I've eaten. It may be a miracle this time - I got pg this time last year and then lost it early May so I daresnt get my hopes up.

I broke down in tears at work the other week - one of the girls I work with is pg at the minute and had spent the entire breaktime discussing baby stuff with the others.

She made some throwaway remark about ' oh I bet I'll be pregnant again just after I've had this one' and started laughing, so I snapped then and said 'yeah well that must be nice.' there was a sort of stunned silence and I burst into tears. Im so stressed and tired right now and cant ever see a way out... who knows?
Sorry Im so grumpy
Hope everyone's well xxx

liloandstitch

Thank you for your post alex w and sorry to hear about your experience. It is really hard, but having a supportive OH is worth its weight in gold!!

Stay as long as you like, we are a supportive lot here, and is for people who have had mcs as well as those who have been TTC for a long time (the 2 threads were merged when the other one stopped)

Were they able to give you a reason for the mc or was it 'one of those things'? They seem to say that you are really fertile in the month following the mc, so if you feel able it might be worth you bding for England just in case!!!

Look after yourself and your OH, and if you need us, come in and pull up a chair and enjoy a good commiserative chinwag!!

Lilo

liloandstitch

I just realised I hadnt posted the above post, it should have been straight after alex's post - I typed it and then didnt post it - doh!!

Great news on the official yes annieM - dont go away though!

Sorry you feel carp Mrs Ryan - maybe your hormonal which could be a good sign?!?

Sorry as well to becs, as you say once you have AF you can refocus.

Have a good weekend everyone - Lilo

spaghetti_monster

Thanks Lilo, it's nice to drop in here and see people with the same things on their mind (and like I said it's so new to me to have all these issues/worries so in the forefront of my mind!)

Actually it was Tuesday (about 10 days ago) I took the medication (misoprostol) to induce the miscarriage. The pregnancy was 8.5 weeks and it could have been a further 2/3 weeks that it stopped and nothing happened - so I opted to induce it rather than wait more.
Anyway, on that Tuesday, the majority came out. Thursday I had a scan and they said there was still a bit more and to wait a week. On Friday I had heavy bleeding/period pain. This Monday, more cramps and on this Tuesday morning what I thought would have been the last thing came out.
Anyway, this Thursday was another scan - they said there was still something in there, probably blood, I had stopped bleeding and the cervix(?) was closed so maybe it comes out at my next period. Because of the blood/slightly dilated uterus/thickend lining - the doctor recommended not to try to get pregnant until the next cycle. He said I ran a higher risk of miscarriage as not everything was out.
But I was bleeding again yesterday and now stopped... it seems that the whole process happened in bursts and I pretty much stopped bleeding inbetween.

Sorry if this is far too much information, but does anyone else have any experience of this???

Somnium

alex w - it all sounds like a very horrible experience and I can't begin to imagine how you must feel, but big virtual hugs to you and lots of positive thoughts for the future xx

Well am really noticing I'm becoming alot more maternal at the mo, all the babies at work seem to love me hehe and I just keep thinking how beautiful they all are and how I can't wait to be a mum. I think with mothers day coming up it makes it all the more poigniant, and hopefully I'll be a mummy this time next year (xfingersx). I do find my self getting really pee'd off with certain upperclass mums that come into our store though and constantly gush about the most ridiculous things or on the flip side moan about all the effort...grrr!