Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

nikkinoo_3

Morning everyone! And hi to Natalie and MrsRyan!

Shelly - I hope you're suitably recovered from last night's excesses!

Thanks for the info about the article Lilo - here's the link to it if anyone wants to read it: http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/health/article5767793.ece . It makes lots of sense - if only it were so easy to take a step back and relax!I'm constantly surprised at how all consuming this ttc business can be...

I have my fingers crossed for you gymfiend. My last two AFs have been later than my normal regular 28 days, and I had terrible cramping - something I NEVER get - with my last one. I hope it's that elusive BFP rather than your body cruely teasing. Oh - and congratulations on your engagement!!!

Ginvst - it sounds like you've got lots going on in your life right now, what with being busy at work and moving house. Take some time out for you in amongst it all and concentrate on that kitten!

AnnieM I'm sure you're not a lost cause, look on it positively - now they've found something they can fix it.

I'm apprehensive about my HSG on Tuesday, hoping as always that it shows that everything is fine, but on the other hand if it showed something was amiss it would at least explain why nothing has happened these past 2 years or so.

I hope everyone enjoys the rest of their weekend xx

Bunnie1982

nikkinoo - I know how you feel about the HSG, I've got mine tomorrow and worrying about it. Keep having really awful dreams about them finding something seriously wrong and keeping me in hospital. Although saying that in another sense I'm kinda hopeful they find something, at least then I'd know the reason why nothing has happened.

I'm also worrying about the pain aspect of it, I get extremely bad pains anyway at the time of the month so I'm imagining tomorrow is going to be the same.

It's gonna be an early start though, 8:45 in the morning but might not necessarily go in at that time. Have been chatting to a girl at work and when she went there were 3 other women there the same time having it done (one after another) I think its the unknown I am worrying about.

What's frustrating is all my tests will be over after tomorrow and will have to wait until 30th March to see the consultant for all the results

Natalie6999

I had an HSG last year to check if my Caesarean had caused any damage to my womb & tubes, don't worry about it, it was a breeze.

If you take a tip from me, take some painkillers about an hour before your appoinment, I hardly felt a thing & I'm the biggest baby where pain is concerned, the only thing that happened with me was when I sneezed & shot the dye catheter out. You can watch it all on the screen & will have a good idea if there are any problems before you see your consultant.

Good luck.

gymfiend

Thanks everyone for the congrats We've picked out a beautiful black diamond ring, I fancied sapphire but OH thought it was a bit too far from the norm, so black diamond it is. I adore it, I like having things that are a little different and I think this is far enough from normal but still acceptable iyswim?! Very exciting

Good luck with your HSG's Bunni & Nikkinoo, hope everything goes well.

Ginvzt - I got my two when they were tiny kittens, about 2 1/2 months & my god did they wreck the house, our leather sofas was wrecked where they'd tried to jump from one to the other & the dining table chairs [leather] are covered in marks - sofa had to go in the end it was so bad! So there are definitely benefits to your soft furnishings in getting a slightly older kitty

I know what you mean becs about wanting to tackle one problem at a time - I was told I had PCO at the same time as I was told about the tumour, but docs have shown no interest in discussing PCO yet so am half thinking I'll let it lie for a while til I know the tumour is under control, find that as a problem horrifying enough. Hopefully double dosage will have done the trick, if not I would really ask about cabergoline, after the first few weeks of awful side effects I've found it ok & all I've managed to find out about it has been positive.

Lilo, will keep everything I have crossed for you on Tuesday, so hoping things work out for you, xxxxx

nikkinoo_3

Apparently I get my HSG results there and then, so following Tuesday's revelations our next step is to decide either to go down the assisted route or to continue ttc naturally.

I didn't think I was too worried about it, but I was so unreasonable to DH this morning when he made me cry over something completely trivial (in fact so trivial that he actually didn't do anything wrong... I totally admit that I made an issue out of nothing ) that I think it's concerning me more than I realise. Not so much the procedure - I'll take that as it comes - I think more the fact that it signifies the beginning of the end. The end of simply BDing blindly each month in the hope that we get it right, and the beginning of some big decisions that will hopefully lead to our desired end result. But also the beginning of what I realise might be a long hard slog to get there.

I hope your HSG goes well tomorrow morning Bunnie... I'll be thinking of you!

x

jiblets1

Hi all - I've realised that my clinic offers free counselling to it's patients. I'm thinking of giving it a go to see if they've got any suggestions how I can deal with the stress of ttc and work. But I'm a little worried that I'm taking up the counsellor's time for something trivial. Do any of you have any experience as to what sort of things they usually deal with?

Bunnie1982

jiblets1 wrote: »

Hi all - I've realised that my clinic offers free counselling to it's patients. I'm thinking of giving it a go to see if they've got any suggestions how I can deal with the stress of ttc and work. But I'm a little worried that I'm taking up the counsellor's time for something trivial. Do any of you have any experience as to what sort of things they usually deal with?

That's what the counsellor is there for hun, when we saw the fertility nurse right at the start and she gave us all the leaflets she said at the time that ttc and fertility problems can cause a lot of stress and if you feel at any point you need to use it then do so. I am considering it also, due to work pressures as well, it's sometimes easier to talk to someone who is completely outside the situation.

jiblets1

Bunnie1982 wrote: »

That's what the counsellor is there for hun, when we saw the fertility nurse right at the start and she gave us all the leaflets she said at the time that ttc and fertility problems can cause a lot of stress and if you feel at any point you need to use it then do so. I am considering it also, due to work pressures as well, it's sometimes easier to talk to someone who is completely outside the situation.

I suppose what I'm worried about is that if it's kinda going to be work I'm talking about, then am I wrongly using up the resources? In my case work has an effect on my fertility - I'm sure of it, but is that the fertility counsellor's problem?

AnnieM_3

Hi everyone!
CONGRATULATIONS GYMFIEND! :j:beer::T

Thank you very much for the support. Gymfiend - no, I've not been put on any meds yet - the doctor seemed very keen to hand us straight over to the fertility clinic, rather than address the issues at GP level, but I guess since neither of us is 'ill' that's fair enough. I have a repeat prolactin test this week, so I guess we'll see how that turns out.

My chart has gone haywire in the meantime - my temp is lower, but hasn't dropped below the coverline even though AF arrived (early and only 2 days long, but definitely more than spotting). My bbs have gone strange, too - not swollen, but the bumps on the areolae have got little bumps on them that appeared the other day. I thought they were Montgomery's Tubercles, but I'm guessing now maybe they aren't - perhaps my hormones are just out to get me! I can just about deal with still not being pg, but giving me weird symptoms and temps is adding insult to injury! :rotfl:(Sorry if TMI!)

I also have a question for those of you a little further down the fertility clinic line than me: how did you approach the issue with your employer? Did you keep quiet or do they know you're having treatment? If it turns into having to go for Pings/HSGs or other procedures, I'm not sure what to do about time off etc.

Hope everyone's weekend has been good!

AnnieM x

jiblets1

Hi annie. With regards to time off, I'm just getting to that point with my employer now. My plan of action is that I'm just going to tell my headmaster exactly what's happening and I'm going to expect the time off. I'll do my best to make it as easy as possible for work, but other than that it's tough. Needs must and that.
But saying that i am aware that in a primary school it won't be difficult to cover me for shorter periods of time, though a day off (for the HSG for example), will require the school to pay for supply for the day for me. And that's £150. So I'll be really trying not to take too many off...