Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

jiblets1

Lovely news gymfiend - congrats!

becs

Hi everyone,

Not been around for a couple of days as been feeling down again. AF arrived at 2.30am on thursday big time! I was so hopeful was going to get bfp this month. I ov'd 2 days earlier than usual this month but cycle was still 31 days so last couple of days I was beginning to dare to let myself hope! Big mistake! Had very bad cramps for the past 2 days which I don't normally get so have been in alot of pain with that. I always feel so low in the couple of days before AF and then when AF arrives it tends to make me feel a bit better as it's just kind of "right on to next month now". I try not to get stressed and obsessed by it which is why we're reluctant to go for further tests and add to this at the moment. Also until I know that my prolactin levels are normal again I feel that is the biggest factor. My mum was talking to me about it the other day and she can't understand why I'm not pushing for more treatment. She even asked if I still wanted children or had I gone off the boil! SHe really doesn't appreciate the sheer heartache month after month. Anyway have my next blood test booked for 4th march to see if new dosage has normalised my prolactin so fingers crossed.

AnnieM don't give up hope,try and tackle 1 problem at a time and don't think of them all as insurmountable-easier said than done I know!

Gymfriend Congratulations that's very exciting for you, perhaps getting married will take your mind off things and aid conception!

angelavdavis

nottslass wrote: »

Although IVF is portrayed as a modern day miracle,the success rate for the "over 40's" is only 10% which is a massive drop compared to anybody under that age,so I sometimes think that I'm holding on to false hope,But there are plenty of people who conceive well into their 40's,so I'm trying to stay positive.

Yes this is true, I must admit I was bitterly disappointed to discover that in 2006-7 of 33 treatments to women between 40-43, the clinic we are being referred to only had a success rate of 3!

AnnieM wrote: »

Just have to wait for our appointment date for the fertility clinic now. I'm wondering if I should rethink my 'decision' not to go for invasive treatment if necessary. I'm starting to fee like I really HAVE to have a baby. Oh dear...

I really sympathise AnnieM as this is exactly the position I am in.

Best wishes everyone.

liloandstitch

Congratulations gymfiend. Symptoms could be good - wait and see or test? Whatever makes you happy. I try and wait but I have been known to test earlier!!!#

Lilo

ginvzt

Congratulation from me as well, gymfiend!!!! All sounds really good.

Well, I had a good day so far! Had a bit of 'discussion' with the letting agent when we dropped off our forms for the house (they insisted we have to sign the contract for the house on the day we move in, and we can't do it before).

We walked around the town a bit, found a fantastic old book store (we are a bit of a book worms...). And then - we went to RSPCA to look at the cats and find out the procedures. They are all so lovely!!!! We stopped at the pet shop as well to look at what we would need to get. I am really looking forward to bring a cat home!

gymfiend

Thank you everyone I'm so excited!!

I gave in a did a test Lilo, BFN Though AF hasn't shown her face yet & I think I'm about 14 dpo so maybe in time...! So gutted but promised I won't test again til CD35 so it's the longest possible cycle, provided she doesn't arrive. Still feel so grotty though, spent the majority of the day moping in pj's with a hot water bottle feeling sick and bloated. Maybe it's just cruel PMT

Sounds like you had a fab day Ginvzt Getting a cat will be so fab, I absolutely adore mine, they really do make a house a home. Are you going to a kitten or an older one?

Hope you are ok Becs, will be keeping my fingers crossed for your prolactin levels to have dropped. I have another MRI on Thursday to check on my tumour, bloody thing...you're on bromo right? If it's not doing enough, could they switch you to cabergoline? I was apprehensive at first after reading everything on the internet about it not being 100% safe when TTC but having spoken to a couple of docs about it they said there's nothing to really worry about provided you find out about the pregnancy early on so continuing treatment can be discussed with them. Apparently it's more effective too? May be something to consider. I know the feeling re mums too, mine has mentioned repeatedly that she's sure it'll be ok etc, keeps telling me stories of friends/neighbours who've had to try for 3/4 months...like this should reassure me? I know she means well though and just wants to reassure me that it will happen in its own time. Is prolactin the only issue you're aware of?

I think getting engaged and planning a wedding will really help us focus elsewhere, and take the stress and panic out of BDing Thanks everyone for the congrats, v excited, not telling anyone else til we've got the ring sorted so nice to share my excitement with someone!

xxxxx

ginvzt

gymfiend wrote: »

Sounds like you had a fab day Ginvzt Getting a cat will be so fab, I absolutely adore mine, they really do make a house a home. Are you going to a kitten or an older one?

Well, kittens are very cute, but as we both work full time and are only allowed to have one cat by the landlord, we wouldn't be allowed a kitten, unless it is 6+ months. I would love a 6-12 months kitten, but haven't seen any at RSPCA today. The all looked so lovely, that I would have any of them (although, not long-haired ones...). Spent the rest of the evening thinking what we would need to get and choosing all the things online! Good fun!

Have a nice evening everyone!

becs

Hi Gymfriend,

I am on bromo yes. My endo hasn't talked about changing to cabergoline but I'll have to see what he says when the next results are in. Hopefully doubling the bromo will have worked. As far as I'm aware the tumour is the only problem, I really am reluctant to start going down the route of more tests and things until I know the tumour is ok and then we can see if anything happens. Mum is really pushy and negative, she keeps saying I need to go for more tests and referrals now as can't afford to wait because I'm 36 now. Because I want to tackle 1 problem at a time (coping with the tumour is still as much as I can deal with at the moment until I know the drugs are working again) she thinks this means I no longer want children.
Good luck with your MRI I hope it shows things are ok. I hope it's not too bad,they're not the nicest of things to endure are they.

liloandstitch

As you say gymfiend, it could be too early, or it could be PMT. Waiting till day 35 now sounds sensible.

I am another cat lover - I have 3, 2 of which were got at 6 weeks in July last year. They are little terrors but they are gorgeous!!!

There was a really good article about conceiving in the Times Body and Soul today (cant do links, sorry) Basically suggesting that there are times when the ability to conceive is more about the mind than the body - there have been studies showing that special relaxation and CBT techiques can help in the quest - and showing great success rates where there is unexplained fertility. I will probably look more into this in 6 months when I can TTC once more, as I really do believe that our thoughts that we cant or wont conceive become more real the more we think them (IYKWIM)

I hate MRI Scans Too!!!

I have my stitches out on Monday and my final results on Tuesday - the final go ahead to having the trachelectomy rather than the hysterectomy. I think everything looked alright from the visible point of view, if I can remember correctly what the surgeon said - I was high on morphine! So my fingers are well and truly crossed that they found nothing in the lymph glands, or in the womb biopsy. I am so nervous - they hold all my dreams in their hands at the moment, and also so scared - I dont know if I can go through with the hysterectomy even if I have to I am not ready to give up TTC. I should count my blessings that I will escape with my life, but it is a little difficult to go from IVF to hysterectomy in such a short time.

ANyway good luck to all at the moment, and I hope Shelly is enjoying her weekend!!

Lilo

shelly

liloandstitch wrote: »

ANyway good luck to all at the moment, and I hope Shelly is enjoying her weekend!!

Lilo

Hi ladies.

Just checking in on you all before I go to bed. Had friends round for a chinese tonight as a late birthday celebration. I'm full to the brim with good food and drink.....told hubby he will have to be gentle with me because I don't want it all sloshing around in my belly :rotfl: