Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

FairyElephant_2

Hiya,

Nothing much to report from me - AF, having taken her time to arrive, has been a total bi*ch and made me feel awful all weekend.

Had a bad night last night - dreamed first that I was still PG, and then that we had a little girl and we were visiting everyone we knew to show her off (even as far as Australia:eek: - OK we do know people there, but don't think I'd take a newborn all the way to show them!!!). So felt very low and tearful when I woke up. Wish I could have stayed in bed, but can't afford any more time off work. At least I am on my own in the office today, so I can have a sniffle without anyone seeing!!!!


Lilo - still think of you often and keeping everything crossed for positive outcomes ((Lilo)).

Jiblets - take lots of deep breaths Hun!!! The first appts are often the most stressful as you don't really know what to expect & worry what you might be told. I can't say it gets less stressful when you are having treatment, but at least you have a goal to focus on....

JoJo77 - you can carry on and chart as usual on Clomid, or use OV predictors (I did). I didn't get any real side-effects (unlike Metformin, which was horrible!) and it did regulate my cycle. Good luck!

Ginvzt - hope you get something sorted re the house situation - wot a nightmare!

CAFCgirl - I shed a little tear for you too - I know where you coming from and it hurts so much. Wish I knew the answer as to how to get through it, but all I can say is you are not alone Hun....

(((HUGS))) to all who need them, and 'Welcome' to the newbies!

FE

shelly

nikkinoo wrote: »

I'm no longer going to nag him about the quantity of empties in the recycling bin, and if we don't manage to BD on the right days then tough. As DH said - who'd want a baby anyway? They cry, puke and poo all the time, restrict your social life and drain your finances for the rest of your life, cause no end of worry and somehow learn to argue back when they reach their teens. Why would anyone try for years to achieve that? And it all starts with a twinkle in the eye, 5 mins of pleasure, followed by raging hormones, stretch marks and saggy boobs... not to mention all the other negatives.

Thanks for that, made me smile

It was my birthday yesterday, 33, where have the years gone?.....anyway, we went shopping Saturday to Lakeside and the surrounding shopping sites. Hubby said I could get anything and everything I wanted as the credit card bill was his for the day. I'm so cheap I only spent about £20

We had a really nice day together and as we were just about to leave to come home I said to hubby that it was days like that day that I'm kind of not bothered we don't have kids. We can get up when we please and just go shopping at the drop of a hat, no planning involved....

.....but then Monday morning comes round again and I ache that we don't have a little one or 2 running around.

ginvzt

Thanks everyone for the nice word about the house. Well,we made a decision and we are not taking the house I fell in love. Instead, we are going to rent the other house, which has very dated d!cor, but we will be able to get a cat!!! We wanted one for so long, that we decided to go for it now. We also said we would like to redecorate some rooms, and it seems landlord is ok with that (well, free work on the house that they didn't manage to sell for the past year!!!)

I am on CD13 today, and I am trying to take a BD everyday approach. Didn't feel very much like it, but decided we had to do this. I am going to get my bloods done on Monday as well, so fingers crossed we will find out what is going on in first week of March!

Oh, was watching 'Gameplan' last night - I know, silly movie, but it just reminded me how much I miss having a little person around, watching them grow and make mess!

AnnieM_3

I just got my day 21 result - the nurse said it was 'a bit low' so I have to see the doctor at the end of the week. Now I'm scared that even if we managed it this month it won't be a sticky bean IYSWIM, so I'm too scared to test in case the worst happens.

I just don't understand how my chart can look so promising - my temps are fine when I overlay against pg charts on FF, and my bbs are starting to get sore, which is unusual for me nearing af (the morning I wake up with squashy, not-sore bbs I know af is on her way).

I'm so confused

AnnieM x

ginvzt

AnnieM wrote: »

I just got my day 21 result - the nurse said it was 'a bit low' so I have to see the doctor at the end of the week. Now I'm scared that even if we managed it this month it won't be a sticky bean IYSWIM, so I'm too scared to test in case the worst happens.

I just don't understand how my chart can look so promising - my temps are fine when I overlay against pg charts on FF, and my bbs are starting to get sore, which is unusual for me nearing af (the morning I wake up with squashy, not-sore bbs I know af is on her way).

I'm so confused

AnnieM x

Don't worry!!!! The tests are not always accurate.

Well, some new from me - got a positive OPK today and I have cramps/pain/discomfort on the left side, where I would say ovary is. OH is laughing at me, when I tell him that I think it is an ovulation pain!!!!!! He said - you ache when you have a period, you ache when you ovulate - is there any time you have no pain? I just said - it is a pain to be a woman, so stop complaining about having to shave every day!!

What do those men understand????

AnnieM_3

ginvzt wrote: »

Don't worry!!!! The tests are not always accurate.

Well, some new from me - got a positive OPK today and I have cramps/pain/discomfort on the left side, where I would say ovary is. OH is laughing at me, when I tell him that I think it is an ovulation pain!!!!!! He said - you ache when you have a period, you ache when you ovulate - is there any time you have no pain? I just said - it is a pain to be a woman, so stop complaining about having to shave every day!!

What do those men understand????

Thanks. I'm hoping it might be to do with the fact that I had the test at 6dpo, when it should really have been 7 (I didn't ov til cd15 this month). I guess I'm just going to have to wait to see what the doctor says, and try not to worry until then. AF would be due on Sat, so we'll see what happens...

I love your response to your OH! I only get ov pain on my left ovary - it's quite painful at times! *sings... Sometimes it's hard to be a woman.....*

CAFCGirl

thanks all for the really sweet messages....

Today was still pretty tough,especially as two work colleagues (very small close knit team) chatted over the lunch table about baby names, and i just kept thinking about the names we had picked out.......

back to the drawing board I guess though, have been really on track with my vitamins and working on my eating habits.Now I work in wellness care and my superior (who knows about my loss) was really helpful over my gp's comments about my weight having had an effect on the m/c.... which gave me a positive lift that I needed....

We spoke a lot about positive thinking, and the power of the mmind on the body's healing which gave me something new to focus on.....

sarahs999

Hello all. Hope everyone's having a good day today.

I'm definitely not; got a -ve pg test today and we had done SO well on the BDing front, Fertility Friend had put us as 'high' chance of conceiving, and I have a history of getting pg the first month of trying, so I was almost complacent about it happening. But it didn't and it's brought back all the memories of the miscarriages and made them raw again. Bit poor DH's and DS's heads off all morning before I came in to work; poor little A didn't know what had hit him...

Anyway, I'm sure I'll be OK once AF starts and I can begin next month's trying, but at the back of my mind i know that a pregnancy next month means a birthday at Christmas, which is never ideal, and also reminds me of the first miscarriage - baby due 24 December last year.

Sorry to obsess and moan, but I know you guys understand.

Bunnie1982

I've been for my internal ultrasound scan today but have come away with more questions than answers and even the doctor was a bit baffled.

The doctor says it appears I have Polycystic Overies, however other than not being able to get pregnant I have no other symptoms.

My periods have always been very regular since the age of 10 and a blood test I had through my doctors showed I was ovulating normally. I know this sounds weird but I can feel when I'm ovulating as I get pain in my lower abdomen (like period pain but only mild)

I'm not overweight, I don't have greasy skin (more like the opposite) I don't have unusual hairgrowth etc.

Got my HSG on Monday so hopefully that will shed a bit more light on the situation, but not got my consultant appointment until 30th March.

I feel so confused!

jiblets1

I had my first appointment today. Got there very early which was fortunate because I needed time to freak out. I sat in the car with OH for 10 minutes. Then went to and straight past the desk to the toilet. Then back down to the entrance for a sugar fix. Then one last mini cry then back up. What a pathetic set of actions.

Then they were absolutely lovely and very to the point and all round generally comforting. I'm going to have the HSG once the xray people contact me, and OH is having another sperm analysis (on site this time). The consultant did queery my appendectomy when I was 6 - apparently there's a small possibility that the leaked poison could have caused some scar tissue, so that's something to look for. If we find out the tubes are clear she's going to put me straight on medication to regulate my periods a bit better, then discuss ICSI or IVF and the different options.

All in all I feel much better now that's aver and done with, and quite positive that things are finally happening at last.

And who would have thought that it would be me and not OH that would be useless this morning!