Help me please...i feel like giving up

Zara33

blackeel wrote: »

I just want to get away now...but will not give up my share in the house....

Your desire for wanting your share in the house may infact cost you dearly tbh if it was me i would be out the door quicker than my feet would carry me...holding on for some money is not worth it. You get one life live it wisely.

blackeel

Zara33 wrote: »

Your desire for wanting your share in the house may infact cost you dearly tbh if it was me i would be out the door quicker than my feet would carry me...holding on for some money is not worth it. You get one life live it wisely.

I understand what you ae saying, and have talked to my solicitor about this, and are looking at ways to move and still sell house.....

I'm sorry but i just cant let him win!!!! and get 100% of house.....

Please dont go on about this......Ive taken it in......

Spoke to police around 9pm and they tried to arrest him earlier on, but couldnt find him...ive heard nothing more, so dont know whats happening...

Good news is, i appear to have found a policeman that wants to help, and keeps in touch................no doubt he'll get transferred........

Had nice meeting with "Childrens Officer" who also appears to want to help me, and willing to liase with others for me...

Thanks again for support

tommygun

blackeel wrote: »

Police we always very reluctant to come out, or came next day(live a long way from nearest station)..Tried for various orders a year ago....but nothing came of anything...

Shell_girl is right you can register your interest at the land registry you already have an interest as its half yours. You can get an occupation order to keep him out of the property. Contact the NCDV who can prepare the order for you. They will charge £100 for service if you are unable to get someone to serve the order for you.You will need to know your partner's whereabouts, address or maybe work add. Then that will allow you time to sort yourself out. You may have to hang on the line a while but they are brilliant. The Citizen's Advice Bureau can advise on some family law and housing options and they are free!! Remember lawyers always make money and they make the most during any credit crunch or depression as families break up faster. Find another solicitor!

Loretta

If you keep on and on at everyone you will eventually find someone to help you and you have, after that it all starts falling into place, I think you are on your way now

Good luck and keep posting

jay11_2

I've followed this thread and feel for you, some situations are just the pits! I do wonder, though, if you're putting your determination to hang onto whatever's left of the equity, over your mental and emotional well-being.

Please think again about leaving the house, the stress and fear you're living with is almost certainly making you unhappy on a daily basis and affecting your time with your children. It could also make you or them ill, and wreck your future. You get one life, and they are not children for long, why be angry and unhappy when you could be building the foundations for a new, carefree life and enjoying their childhood. This has been going on for months and could take many more--even years, in the current housing climate. You might also end up with very little equity, the way prices are are falling.

You could move, find a good job, retrain if necessary, once away from the stress, and be enjoying your life within a short time. It might be worth taking a step back, looking at the facts of the current situation, and thinking about where you will be in a years time if you make certain decisions now, if your ex continues to cause problems, and so on.

Good luck, I hope things start to improve soon,

jay

blackeel

Update...

Been mostly out of the house for whole weekend and he knew this...Got some threatening texts on Saturday night, so rang police and they ended up knocking on front door as i was arriving home at back...had a long reassuring chat, they went to try and find him again to arrest him , and told me they would text me when they got him(still got no text)......

Sunday night friend fitted new lock to one door, and just keeping key in other one until Bobbyvan arrives to do this one(pal couldnt do it due to broken off screws)....So i feel alot more secure, and now know he will have to break in, to get in, feel much safer, as he knows he cant do that without being arrested(if they can fiind him)....Eldest not bothering with phone..(sim card still lost)....

Also thanks to internet friend, I now have recording facilities set up to record his calls (if i put phone on loud speaker)..I know it may not be legal in a court..but will prove to police and DVU that i am getting them.

blackeel

Further update

Police phoned me today, theyre still trying to arrest him...but at the wrong address..........I told the cop i'd given the correct address to 5 other officers,

Talk about the right hand not knowing what the left is doing!!!!!

gravitytolls

blackeel wrote: »

Understand what u r saying...but if i leave the house, he has won!!

No, he's lost ~ his family!

You've won your peace of mind and your safety, not to mention protecting the children from a man who is drug taking bully.

blackeel

gravitytolls wrote: »

No, he's lost ~ his family!

You've won your peace of mind and your safety, not to mention protecting the children from a man who is drug taking bully.

Hes lost his kids, who over the years he showed no affection for, dropped them in almost everytime he promised them something.....so yes, hes lost a family he never ever appreciated...

He apparently turned himself in to the police today..hes out on bail, the conditions being he doesnt come near the house or me, text or phone me, or any other form of harrassment.....It feels for the first time in 18 months, i am getting somewhere..

again, thanks for everyones contribution and hugs

AnnieM_3

I am so glad you have finally had some good news! :beer:

AnnieM x