Am I just not cut out to be a mom?

annie_d

I was a s.a.h.m. because i thought it was the right thing to do. To my mind, I gave myself to it 100% and went to work when my youngest was 12........yes 12. Now they are all grown up they say to me, i should have let them go when they were about 7 years old. Gone to work myself and let them have childminders "together". They don't wish they were in childcare by themselves at an early age, but with each other, I know it nearly killed me, literlaly....much medication and counselling throughout but i thought i was doing the right thing at the time.

annie_d

Although it was VERY difficult for me....i dothink i did the right thing. I didnt get angry with my children (or show them anger) when they were little . I think, if you have them you should look after them

MrsTinks

Another option may be "mothers help" Live in. They DEFINITELY do deal with babies Basically a step between Nanny and Au Pair

annie_d

Although it was VERY difficult for me....i do think i did the right thing. I didnt get angry with my children (or show them anger) when they were little . I tried VERY hard to be the right person for them always.I think, if you have them you should look after them yourself or if not, why bother?

dad-of-4

mrcow wrote: »

So instead you're going to limit your childrens' education to your own experiences and (limited) ability?

You may have felt it never held you back personally, but would you not want more than a substandard education for your children?

yes i want more than a substandard education, its the reason i educate at home, and take full responsability for the results.;) schools offer a far to limited educational experience.

substandard is schools full of teachers earning a living and doing nothing more than preaching from the government handbook, called the national curriculum.

other than my spelling and grammer, you now nothing much about me, or what my experiences & abilities are, or thoes of my children. you know nothing of what i want for my children or what they wish for themselves.
yet one thing i can certainly guarantee, is that i will do more than any teacher ever could to make sure they succeede in the things they do, want to do, and dont even know exists yet.

melb

Just a point to mr Mccow - if you're going to pick up on other people's grammar at least make sure your own is correct - children is a plural noun and therefore the apostrophe goes before the s as in children's education.
as for the use of au pairs I know someone who protested that their children were the most important things in her life as she employed the cheapest au pair she could find - she referred to her as a nanny but as she was doing household chores as well I don't think she came into this category and worked the backside off her as she left for her "very important" job. she couldn't bear the thought of "being stuck at a home with a baby" "her mind would seize up" "her brain would turn to jelly" oh dear what do these stay at home mums do all day? Well the answer is we enjoy being with our children who we wanted so much. we enjoy the day to day aspects of our lives with them and can't bear the thought of palming them off to whoever will have them as we pursue our careers and convince ourselves that an expensive education and violin lessons are more important than our time. We know that we won't have to rely on CCTV at the nursery to know that our children aren't spending most of the day miserable and won't have to read a report of what our children ate for lunch and what a lovely picture they did for mummy - because we'll have been there when they did it. When they're at school we can pursue our careers again and be thankful that we had that time with our kids. It's only a very short time in our lives but a huge part of theirs.

mrcow

dad-of-4 wrote: »

yet one thing i can certainly guarantee, is that i will do more than any teacher ever could to make sure they succeede in the things they do, want to do, and dont even know exists yet.

Erm.....Earth calling......:hello:

So will any parent You don't have to home educate to achieve this

That's what being a parent means.

I just think that perhaps you could get someone else in to teach them how to use English. You may not think that a basic grasp of general spelling, grammar and punctuation is important, but there are thousands of employers and institutions out there who will disagree with you.

mrcow

melb wrote: »

Just a point to mr Mccow - if you're going to pick up on other people's grammar at least make sure your own is correct - children is a plural noun and therefore the apostrophe goes before the s as in children's education.

I assume that this comment was directed at me? (Not quite sure, as the user name you've typed and the title you've used are incorrect if we're resorting to petty nitpicking?)


My concern isn't about picking on the spelling mistakes of others. I've got better things to do with my time.....I'm just shocked that someone who can't string a decent sentence together would come on here and start talking about home edding as if they are doing the best by their children.

dad-of-4

mrcow wrote: »

I assume that this comment was directed at me? (Not quite sure, as the user name you've typed and the title you've used are incorrect if we're resorting to petty nitpicking?)


My concern isn't about picking on the spelling mistakes of others. I've got better things to do with my time.....I'm just shocked that someone who can't string a decent sentence together would come on here and start talking about home edding as if they are doing the best by their children.

yet you just fail to see the true irony of me prefering to to educate at home.:rotfl: :rotfl:

MrsTinks

Guys... if you want to discuss home education then maybe starting a different thread might be in order?