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    • mummyto_1
    • By mummyto_1 17th Nov 17, 2:34 PM
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    Not sure what to do
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    • 17th Nov 17, 2:34 PM
    Not sure what to do 17th Nov 17 at 2:34 PM

    I'm not actually a new user I've been a member for 10 years with over 3,000 posts but wanted to post under the radar.

    I've been with my partner 6 years and we have a child who is 3.

    We also own a house together.

    Deep breath and here goes.............about once a week he'll take cocaine.

    I've asked him to stop and he did try once and have a couple of weeks off of it. And it was great, he was a much better person but unfortunately it was short lived.

    I'm sure people will tell me to get rid of him and that's what I'm leaning towards doing I just wanted to get my thoughts out and hear views from outsiders that don't know me personally.

    I know there's some people that do drugs and they spend hundreds of pounds a week on it.
    My partner will spend about 20 or 40 a week
    So not a lot really so I'm wondering if I'm over reacting?

    When he gets paid he transfers the whole lot to me as I'm very good with money, and most months we save 1,000 sometimes a bit more, so I sometimes think why am I moaning about him having 20 - 40 a week.

    But on the other hand I'm anti drugs and have never tried any

    I'm mid 30's now so its getting to the point where do I want to carry on with this

    Thank you for reading
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    • Loz01
    • By Loz01 10th Feb 18, 5:01 PM
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    OP you're not old fashioned or boring, there is no way in hell I could be with someone who took drugs, even down to smoking weed which I know a lot of people see as normal these days. Never mind the fact you have a child.

    40 a week doesnt sound a lot but thats nearly 2k a year, just on cocaine. Not great is it?
    The fact is that more people have been slaughtered in the name of religion than for any other single reason. That, my friends, is a true perversion - Harvey Milk
    • Jojo the Tightfisted
    • By Jojo the Tightfisted 10th Feb 18, 11:47 PM
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    Jojo the Tightfisted
    I'm not getting into the drugs are fine/bad discussion. It's already going on perfectly well without my input.


    When Offspring #2 was in Nursery, parents took turns in coming in for a morning to help out and my turn coincided with some baking of fairy cakes. The little girl that was adding the sugar to the mixing bowl spilled some on the table.

    A little boy, not even 4 years old, mimicked snorting it, saying with a big smile 'I'm Daddy'. After I picked my jaw off the floor, I had to report it to the Nursery Manager under Safeguarding rules.

    Anybody who has undergone Safeguarding Training - a teacher, TA, dinner lady, school receptionist - anybody - who sees something like that has no choice but to report it and a Safeguarding Investigation is started.

    From outward appearances, I wouldn't have imagined that either parent used any substances. They just looked like any other professional couple. I wouldn't have imagined that, if they did, they'd be so careless as to do it in front of a small child. But being a subject of a Safeguarding Investigation (whether at fault or completely innocent) has to be disclosed for a large number of jobs - education, the NHS, the local council, social care.

    I would not feel pleased if I had to tell prospective employers about that every time I applied for a position - and I'm not convinced that all of them would be happy about employing somebody who had when they could have any number of equally well qualified and experienced candidates who hadn't.
    I could dream to wide extremes, I could do or die: I could yawn and be withdrawn and watch the world go by.

    Yup you are officially Rock n Roll
    Originally posted by colinw
    • thorsoak
    • By thorsoak 14th Feb 18, 1:16 PM
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    How did the weekend go? xx
    • mummyto_1
    • By mummyto_1 15th Feb 18, 9:14 AM
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    How did the weekend go? xx
    Originally posted by thorsoak

    Was ok thank you, Friday night we were out at a family meal and Saturday night no drugs were taken (I know when he does)

    I think this weekend will be the test. If he does I'll be telling him: "Two choices I either call the police or I call your Mum and she can come and pick you up"

    Time to get tough, cant be having this every weekend for the rest of my life!
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