My 4 year old son has been excluded from school!! End of my tether!!

onlyroz

My son started off last year really badly - at his school they have a "red book" for bad behaviour and a "gold book" for good behaviour, and if you get in the red book 3 times in a week then a letter goes home signed by the head. He managed to get in three times on his first day of year one, and it went downhill from there.

I found the best strategy was to fully back up the school - and if he got in the red book he spent the rest of the afternoon/evening in his room. Correspondingly, if he got in the gold book he got a reward (found the Kinder eggs to be quite good for this). He found that he detested being sent to his room, with no TV or no Wii/DS etc - it took a few months but he really turned his behaviour around, and he ended the year with his teacher really pleased with him.

Symbeaux1

aimee21j wrote: »

Maybe aspergers?

Do you acutally know of any children with this condiiton ? I know plenty personally and non of them have displayed this sort of behaviour ?? it is a social communication disorder characterised by a high funcitoning aspect, it could be many things, this child could be so un-challenged intellectually in that environment he causes disruptions ??

gratefulforhelp_2

Hugs. Please don't worry that his education is ruined. Handled right it is just a blip.

Get the ed. psych assessment, insist on it in fact.

Is there a pattern to this behaviour/certain lessons/times of day?

Asking the school to explain how work is being tailored to his needs may be an idea - ask them nicely what they are doing to support him.

The key things in managing his behaviour assuming no special needs are catch him being good then praise him specifically for that and ignore bad behaviour provided it is safe to do so.

Does he get points/merits/rewards from school? If they are working to help him improve, they will be rewarding his good behaviour too.

3v3

goodomens wrote: »

Jost wondering if this was ever sorted?? Going throught the EXACT same thing with my 4 year old daughter Bright little spark...can read and do simple maths. But naughty. The teacher has tod me that they wont tolerate her behviour much longer. We punish her. Take toys, grounded, no treats. Works short term...but back the same the next day. I think she is worse in schoo....im so worried about what will happen to her

So would be interesting to know the outcome of your situation...

Maybe reversing the part I've highlighted in bold would work better? Reward positive behaviour as opposed to punishing negative behaviour.

Feisty_Fairy

Hi all, i am the OP of this thread, he has settled down a little but still struggles, he is now 8 and is being assessed end of sept for a behavioural statement. He is SO clever, reading and writing at same level as an 11 year old and maths at 10 years old stage, i think thats half the problem, hes in the junior school now so has a different head who seems great, will update you when i can xxx