cheating - what now?

Bunnie1982

Are you in love with this other guy, or are you just in love with the idea and the excitement?

I think both you and this other guy have acted very selfishly, considering you both already have partners and also families. Did you not cast a second thought to your children?

You don't seem to have any respect for your husband to put him through this, which makes me wonder whether you have any respect for yourself?

Was it all about the excitement?

Me and my husband have been together 4 years, married for 2 and yes the excitement has worn off, so what have we done.....dated each other again, to add that sparkle back into the relationship.

I think that if you are not committed to the relationship with your husband, then it will probably be the same with the other guy. Perhaps truly what you need is some time alone to re-evaluate what you want.

MissSaz

spacecommander wrote: »

I'm finding some of your comments pretty offensive, is there really any need to talk like that?
Despite the topic of conversation, you really have no right to be so rude.

My thoughts exactly......hardly constructive :sad:

CB1979_2

spacecommander wrote: »

I'm finding some of your comments pretty offensive, is there really any need to talk like that?
Despite the topic of conversation, you really have no right to be so rude.

pleased for you and well done, for setting up a new user account as well

@ mymatebob - the FACT is, "this thread is about trying to find pathetic excuses to make it seem alright that some woman is wh0ring it about.

there's no excuses for cheating, so simple answer is if you want to do it, be adult enough to end whatever relationship first then move on."

mymatebob

CB1979 wrote: »

pleased for you and well done, for setting up a new user account as well

@ mymatebob - the FACT is, "this thread is about trying to find pathetic excuses to make it seem alright that some woman is wh0ring it about.

there's no excuses for cheating, so simple answer is if you want to do it, be adult enough to end whatever relationship first then move on."

Wouldn't be cheating then (just to be pedantic)

I think you will find that the OP asked for advice on what she should now doing, being in the situation she is.

Ergo this thread is not about what you seem to think it is.

So it is not a FACT.

galvanizersbaby

RoxieW wrote: »

:eek: It's not me is it!! :eek:

:rotfl: No it's not RoxieW - don't go there! x

spacecommander

CB1979 wrote: »

pleased for you and well done, for setting up a new user account as well

@ mymatebob - the FACT is, "this thread is about trying to find pathetic excuses to make it seem alright that some woman is wh0ring it about.

there's no excuses for cheating, so simple answer is if you want to do it, be adult enough to end whatever relationship first then move on."

Why thank you, I set it up myself...:j

Do you seriously think I would post under my user name and gain an ear bashing when I stood up to you? There is no doubt you have strong views when it comes to this issue, however the OP did not come here for you to talk to her like that.

Maybe she is 'whoring' it about as you put it, but your choice of language and tone is unnecessary.
These boards are for help not judgement.

pantsdr

What comes through from the 'harsh' replies, mine included is that while the OP and her new man may end up blissfully happy, Those that are cheated upon, are never the same again. Confidence and trust issues haunt us forever, such that we may never 'fall in love' again. And people airing their excuses always hits a raw nerve.

CB1979_2

too true, i didn't really want to put,

"well keep your knickers up love, not hard is it"

floss2

Glen0000 wrote: »

........ I wish people like you did and the OP not get married as it makes a joke of the serious vows I made. Which part of "till death do us part" dont you get?

I made the same serious vows on my 20th birthday.......would you say the same to me because my then husband cheated on me 10 years later? Did you say the same about Princess Diana after her marriage breakdown? We all make promises - but not all of them can be kept for ever. Through whatever reasons, both marriages broke down.

Unless you know all the ins & outs of a person's marriage, you cannot condemn them for breaking the same vows that you made, and accusing people of making a joke of them. We all mean it when we get married.

loftus

mymatebob wrote: »

I think you will find that the OP asked for advice on what she should now doing, being in the situation she is.

Ergo this thread is not about what you seem to think it is.

So it is not a FACT.

And as I said before it doesn't take a genius to work out that the majority of advice she will get is either end the affair or be honest with your husband.
It may not be what she wants to hear but its still advice.