cheating - what now?

emmy05

im a person who says if you play with fire, prepare to get burnt, are you honestly trying to take his word for it that he didnt love his wife and doesnt want this baby? outrageous, you both deserve each other!

ianian99

CB1979 wrote: »

why hide behind a different username?

cos it's pathetic and if you're worried about losing your "respectability" on an internet forum full of strangers then imagine what people in "real life" will think of you.

to be honest i couldn't give a toss, you're gonna ruin loads of people's lives and ultimately your own, when this fella decides he's bored of you and has another bit on the side or decides to go back to his newborn kid.

anyway its only the general public that dont know who they are , the mse team along with mods etc will know who they are due to their ip address etc along with a few that will recognise their writing.
I dont blame them from trying to hide their home wrecking!

loftus

floss2 wrote: »

I made the same serious vows on my 20th birthday.......would you say the same to me because my then husband cheated on me 10 years later? Did you say the same about Princess Diana after her marriage breakdown? We all make promises - but not all of them can be kept for ever. Through whatever reasons, both marriages broke down.

Unless you know all the ins & outs of a person's marriage, you cannot condemn them for breaking the same vows that you made, and accusing people of making a joke of them. We all mean it when we get married.

You don't need to know all the in's and out's of a marriage to know that it is wrong to sleep with someone else whilst lying to your partner - even if it lying by omission - particularly if the reason you are lying is to keep all your options open.

mymatebob

loftus wrote: »

And as I said before it doesn't take a genius to work out that the majority of advice she will get is either end the affair or be honest with your husband.
It may not be what she wants to hear but its still advice.

And that is fine, it is advice, up to the OP to take it or ignore it

Others have offered no advice just a kind of "rot in hell" type attitude which does no-one any good

emmy05

floss2 wrote: »

I made the same serious vows on my 20th birthday.......would you say the same to me because my then husband cheated on me 10 years later? Did you say the same about Princess Diana after her marriage breakdown? We all make promises - but not all of them can be kept for ever. Through whatever reasons, both marriages broke down.

Unless you know all the ins & outs of a person's marriage, you cannot condemn them for breaking the same vows that you made, and accusing people of making a joke of them. We all mean it when we get married.

we all mean it when we get married, and we should all have the guts to end a relationship rather than glaze our eyes with someone elses affections..... if you supposedly loved your partner enough to marry him, you should have the graciousness OP to bloody well finish your relationship rather than cheating on him.

Glen0000

floss2 wrote: »

I made the same serious vows on my 20th birthday.......would you say the same to me because my then husband cheated on me 10 years later? .

You didn't brake your vows, your husband did.

My wife cheated on me 5 years ago. We are still together. it is not has not been easy, but better than divorce. I love her more now than the day I married her and she feels the same.

!!!! happens. It is how you deal with it that makes you a better person. People run away too easily thesedays.

CB1979_2

spacecommander wrote: »

Maybe she is 'whoring' it about as you put it, but your choice of language and tone is unnecessary.
These boards are for help not judgement.

i don't do bashing, as soon as i post it's forgotten about there's nothing personal in anything i say on any internet forum.

also in theory the boards are for help but that's not always the case and ALOT of judgement happens, just some people have selective viewing of what threads are "helped" and which are "judged".

end of the day you don't know me & i don't know you, so never take anything to heart, it can never be personal between strangers on the internet

mymatebob

Glen0000 wrote: »

You didn't brake your vows, your husband did.

My wife cheated on me 5 years ago. We are still together. it is not has not been easy, but better than divorce. I love her more now than the day I married her and she feels the same.

!!!! happens. It is how you deal with it that makes you a better person. People run away too easily thesedays.

Absolutely correct

emmy05

Glen0000 wrote: »

You didn't brake your vows, your husband did.

My wife cheated on me 5 years ago. We are still together. it is not has not been easy, but better than divorce. I love her more now than the day I married her and she feels the same.

!!!! happens. It is how you deal with it that makes you a better person. People run away too easily thesedays.

was she planning on running away with this other person, or was it just an affair? i think theres a huge difference between the 2 tbh, and gd for you for staying together, i know i wouldnt be lol x

Mips

I agree - no staying power.

All made too easy by the Solicitors and money grabbers :mad: