please read and help me.....cannot stop crying

emsywoo123

anyonefortea wrote: »

So have you decided what you're going to do? Either way he needs to at least put some effort into making this right, even if you do tell him to sling his hook.
Does he understand why you are so upset, forget whether he meant it or not, does he see how it has affected you?

Yes he does, he seems to be geuinely gutted. Good.
He keeps texting, and has sadi he will do anything the can. Still not enugh, I say. But I don't really know what would be?

anyonefortea

Do you trust him, if you are going to always be wondering who hes emailing, or calling or texting, or what he does or says when hes drunk, then its only going to be heartache for you.

Will this be a kick up his behind and make him see what he really wants and to change his ways?

Is he ever so sorry, and truly gutted, because (and this is harsh) the ex told him "not gonna happen". -

Id defo make him sweat for at least the weekend.
x

emsywoo123

All I know for certain is that my back is agony from where If ell down teh stairs!!

jinky67

I say not only make him sweat the weekend....he has a lot of making up to do...if you decide to give him one more chance...he really needs to show that he has changed and understands what he did wrong.
I would also be telling him to lay off the drink..he cant handle it obviously

CB1979_2

typical, a woman finds out what she wants (that he's a d!ck) yet still contemplating taking him back??!!??

face it and sorry to sound harsh, if his ex came back he'd be jumping through hoops to get back with her.

it seems quite a simple set up, you live in your own place with your kid, so there's no need for him to be around/make things "work".

you know whenever he goes out "with the boys" you'll always be wondering if he's playing away/who he's contacting.

also this hasn't come out of the blue you said you thought he was acting weird (meaning he knew what he had done) so he's full o'crap cos he's been found out.

emsywoo123

The question for me, is , is the mistake too great? And I just don't know. I am completely on teh fence. Well no, I am more leaning towards yes it was.

Scarlett1

Its up to you how you handle it ems but if you are not willing to give up on him and think that you can somehow capture his heart at least make him sweat a bit by thinking that you have finished with him, sit back and see how he puts himself out to win you back, what you need to think about though is do you see him as a male role model for your daughter?, I think the both of you need space

emsywoo123

Scarlett1 wrote: »

Its up to you how you handle it ems but if you are not willing to give up on him and think that you can somehow capture his heart at least make him sweat a bit by thinking that you have finished with him, sit back and see how he puts himself out to win you back, what you need to think about though is do you see him as a male role model for your daughter?, I think the both of you need space

I know. Space he will get!:D

Scarlett1

emsywoo123 wrote: »

I know. Space he will get!:D

nice one, that will give him something to think about

Merlot

Emsywoo, ditch him, you deserve much better, he will do this again in another drunken state, maybe next time it wouldn't be his ex but someone in a club etc, and in real life. Drink is no excuse for what he did.

You have a Daughter to think about, its time to move on.

Sorry if thats not what you wanted to read but its my honest opinion.

Merlot.x.