Feeling guilty for wanting to be sahm,when children in school

Mark7799

I haven't heard any decent reason why you SHOULDN'T go for it:T .

If you feel you aren't contributing financially and feel you HAVE to do something how about investigating working from home or running your own business (personally I think the contributions mentioned by Gingham outweigh any cash value):D

galvanizersbaby

pepsicola wrote: »

as a matter of interest when your children are in school are you going to call yourself a sahm or on the dole

and yes i'm a working mum but i can also put home made food on the table, its not just sahm that can do that

Confused now, I thought somebody that was 'on the dole' was somebody that was claiming job seekers allowance?! not sure I'm correct with this definition never been in this situ
Why would the poster call herself on the dole if she wasn't claiming?
Knowing me I've probably got this wrong somehow!

redrach

Stay At Home!!!! Im 24 and a single mum to an 8 year old. I have to work full time, its the only way for us to have a better future. If i had the choice i would be there to pick him up from schol every day as my mum did me.

Enjoy the time with them and see how you feel when their older

lucyhope

When my eldest(now 35) was a baby I went back to work only to be slated by people I knew, I should have been at home looking after her.When my youngest (now 26) was born I was a sahm and found myself having to justify why I wasn't working! Times and attitudes change, do what you want and what you feel is right for you and your family.

Carmina_Piranha_3

stay at home if you want to try it. i love being at home but i did get a part time job when my son was in years 3 and 4, then stopped work when i had another baby.

it's not either/or and you don't have to swear allegiance to the 'working mothers are heartless' or 'stay at home mothers are braindead' camps.

although everyone gets comments about whatever choice they've made the majority of people think 'live and let live' as alikay said, or don't have strong opinions either way.

my neice has been in full time nursery since 6 months old, whereas my son hasn't been in childcare (except for the 2-hour play group sessions for two year olds). both children are happy, both families are happy and both toddlers have fab mothers

Kaz2904

If you can afford to do it then there should be no reason not to. My SIL is a SAHM and my neice goes to preschool in September. They are already thinking about her going back to paid employment and she's looking into retraining from September.
We went out for my birthday and she got very drunk and started crying and saying she didn't really want to. I have said to both of them for years that if/when she goes to work it will be a nightmare trying to sort out everything for childcare. They have a large house which needs a lot of work done on it and also have an enormous back garden. I said she could look at making a veggie plot etc so she doesn't need to get a job.
I work full time but I do nights so that I'm at home during the day.

Bexstars

im 26 and I gave up working when I had my daughter 2 years ago and im due to have our second baby in 10 weeks. I always knew that I wanted to stay home when we had a family so we managed to get everything paid off before hand and worked it so my hubby could afford the mortgage and bills on his wage alone and then started our family. As long as we are still financially stable when both kiddies are at school i will continue to stay home, however i know that certain people around me will just expect me to go back to work so im expecting to feel a little under pressure about it but as long as we can afford to and are happy then il be staying home

so I say go for it, as long as its what you want and are happy to saty home you shouldnt worry about what anyone else thinks

Spendless

I didn't return to work when my youngest went to f-time school last September. This was mainly cos my husband was tackling a big work project this year, and I felt it was a lot easier for me to be at home whilst this was on-going. Instead I continued with the college courses I'd started a couple of years ago and enrolled on others. I also decided I'd concentrate on de-cluttering the house, a task still not quite sorted. Over the past few weeks with illness in the family, I've been remarkably grateful that I haven't got a job outside the home but usually housework bores me stupid, and the majority of my friends are working, so I have limited adult conversation, when I am at home, so I know being at home long-term is not for me, but certainly give it a go. You won't know how much you like/dislike it until you try.

Broken_hearted

Apart from the boredom and loss of self worth I can't see any reason not to stay at home doing nothing all day. Ok its my idea of pure hell.

Dick_here

suzybaby2001 wrote: »

My Mum gave up work when I was born

She should have started her maternity leave a bit earlier then.