Feeling guilty for wanting to be sahm,when children in school

crockpot

Hi

I was a SAHM for 6 years and only went back to work part term time, when they were both a primary school,

Office is now relocatingm so a part time day would turn into full time with travelling and would been having to pay for after school care, which I do not want to do.

Hoping to be made redundant which would give us some money to pay off a loan and reduce mortgage, so we could reduce our monthly out goings.

We managed on 1 wage before so sure we can do it again.

Hubbie is happy for me to stay at home, think he missers the home baking I did before!

But I feel that I should go out to work as both children in full time school.

I know I am luckly not to have to work, but we have always lived within our means and often done without.

How many SAHM`s have children in full time school?

Mips

Usually only the ones on the dole

poet123

If you can afford to stay at home and you are happy to do so,and are financially self sufficient,then go for it. Who cares what anyone else thinks?

kr15snw

My mum did It was nice knowing she was there when I came home from school and if I was off ill mum was always there

If you can afford to stay home, then whats the problem?

tiamai_d

I'm with wanting to know why it's wrong to be a SAHM when your children are at school.... Your not going to be 'on the dole' (asDippychick mentioned) Your husband works, if you can afford to do it I doubt you would get any benefits.. so what the hell is wrong with it?

If it makes you happy and your husband then go for it!

joe_poet

Dippychick wrote: »

Usually only the ones on the dole

Such prejudiced comments should at least be backed up with some evidence to substantiate.

Then again Dippy... you may be too dumb for all that, eh?

whitewing

I think that you are really lucky to have the opportunity, and if that is what you want to do you should. (Someone needs to help me keep MSE going thro the day, lol)

At the end of the day a happy family is what it's all about, whether you work or not.

amandada

I work, but at night so that I'm home for the children (10&6) during the day, so I'm kind of a SAHM during the day!

My mum was always home when I came in from school and I love that I can do it for my children too. I don't have any problems if the children are unwell, in-service days, school holidays etc.

Never mind what anyone else says/thinks, all that matters is that you do what works for YOUR family

pukkamum

My god woman you are mad to even wonder STAY AT HOME!!!!! I dread the day i have to go back to work my dh even says i planned my second pregnancy to perfection to get the maximum time off work (i found i was pregnant the day my son started school!!!) I loved my mum being at home every day when i got home from school, she would be so relaxed and happy when we got home as she had had all day to do her housework and could then spend the rest of the day with us. My dh has always said that if we could afford it he would much rather i stayed at home even when the kids go to school. What is there to feel bad about? Running a home is a job ask any professional housekeeper.

Mojisola

Think of all the money saving you'll be able to do by being a SAHM - finding the cheapest offers in the local shops, growing some veg, home cooking, decorating and gardening, etc, etc.

AND the children will have Mum at home when they finish school and any time they are are ill. You won't have to pay for childcare over the holidays. You'll have the housework and the shopping done during the week so that you and OH can spend quality time with the kids (and each other) at the weekends. If you can manage financially - go for it and enjoy it!

pukkamum

P.s surely this is the reason we all play the lottery, so we don't have to work!!!!!