Am I being 'Out of order'?

mrcow

It's not going to cost you £3k for 3 people.

I'm paying £2k for the five of us to stay 4-5* half board in Tunisia in the peak season of the middle of August.........have you tried pricing it up?

TITEASCRAMP

I got a few brochures to have a quick look. It's very expensive. I havent priced it up properly no.

jo_b_2

A really interesting thread! It's interesting to see how differently people view things!

My two penn'orth for what it's worth ... I'd personally go, for the sake of future extended family harmony. I think your husband wants to go more than he's letting on. (Getting narky when you raise the subject suggests that it means more to him than he's willing to let on.)

It doesn't really matter whether he wants to go because of the beer and the sake of a good 'do' or because it's his sister (close or not.)

If you don't go, you're going to come across in a bad light and spend the next 5 or more years being represented as the troublemaker in the family, causing even more tension with the in-laws (and potentially between you and your OH too.)

I don't think you're out-of-order feeling the way you do and resenting the expectation that you're going to pay out a lot of money to attend the wedding of somebody you really don't like! I do think that it will be in your and your family's long-term interests to go.

Personally, I'd follow one of the suggestions mentioned on here earlier and set a challenge to raise the money out of 'extra' money, so that's it's not your own wages being mis-spent on the ungrateful SIL. I'd enjoy making the money for the challenge and it would distract me from thinking about the actual trip!

And definitely don't stay in the same village as the rest of the family - that will lead to arguments and bad feelings if you're all on top of one another! :eek:

Good luck with whatever you decide. xx

MrsE_2

http://www.holidaylettings.co.uk/costa-smeralda/orderby.price/

TITEASCRAMP

I have decided to go with whatever dh wants to do, after all it is his sister and I will dont want to make him feel piggy in the middle.
And like people have said it will make future family gathering more harmonious.

Catblue

TITEASCRAMP wrote: »

I got a few brochures to have a quick look. It's very expensive. I havent priced it up properly no.

I reckon you must be wavering just a teensy bit if you have gone to the trouble to get brochures.

TITEASCRAMP

Catblue wrote: »

I reckon you must be wavering just a teensy bit if you have gone to the trouble to get brochures.

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I just want dh to be happy. I mentioned a couple of days ago that I had picked up some brochures

mrcow

TITEASCRAMP wrote: »

I have decided to go with whatever dh wants to do

I'm glad you're keeping an open mind.A year is a long time....you could feel a lot more comfortable (or even more against!) the idea nearer the time.
At least don't write it off.....you don't really have to make a 100% decision until early next year at least?

Catblue

TITEASCRAMP wrote: »

I have decided to go with whatever dh wants to do, after all it is his sister and I will dont want to make him feel piggy in the middle.
And like people have said it will make future family gathering more harmonious.

And like you said, you only have to go for about 3 days or so. Just show your face and head off again.

Of course, in the interests of fairness, you should make sure that hubby knows that YOU get to choose where you three go for your main holiday next time.

annie_d

Give it a miss but give a nice gift