Advice on Potty training

flea72

LondonDiva wrote: »

It's not illegal for schools to ask for a child to be potty trained if there is not a disability which makes the expectation of potty training impossible to meet

the mere fact that a child is not potty trained, means they are covered by the disability discrimination act. You dont have to have what most people would clarify as an obvious disability. The fact a child might not have clear speech, and cannot infer that they need to go the toilet, would be reason enough to fall under the disability act

Flea

andrealm

That's great news about your DD, Princess Platy. Maybe now she'll just keep using the toilet and skip the potty stage altogether. It sounds like she's taken to it like a duck to water. I'm hoping it will be a lot easier to train my DD2 as she will have DD1 to copy. She's only 15 months now so it'll be a while before we need to think about training her but she's been coming with us to the bathroom and wants to wash her hands and she's used to seeing the potty around and sometimes sits on it for a minute. If she doesn't have trousers on she will take her nappy off which DD1 never did. And she's not as stubborn as her sister.

Hope you feel better soon.

Bounceback

Glad to hear there is some good news on the toilet training front.

We all have different opinions on what works, for me DS was finally clean and dry just after he was 4, DD at 2y 11m. DS took over 6 painful months and DD was clean & dry as soon as she put pants on. I have experienced the worst and best. I put myself through hell with my son, a lot of self doubt (what was I doing wrong) as he just didn't get it. The best thing I did goes against all the rules but worked for me, I put him back in pull ups for 2 weeks. He didn't like it much, but for me it took the pressure off. It was very calming not having to clean up all the time. If he asked for the toilet we went, if not it was just a quick change. After 2 weeks I asked him if he was ready for pants and he got it straight away probably because there was no pressure on either of us.

Just remember it will all sort itself out in time. Keep your chin up, don't pressure yourself or doubt yourself.

Best of luck!

princess.tinkerbell_2

hi, i'm hoping to get you lovely peoples' advice and expertise!!

started potty training ds..27months..on monday. i'd done the whole him helping choose his fav pants and i'd given him gentle reminders in the week leading up to the big day of what would be happening.

first four days had been going surprisingly well....few accidents on monday but only to be expected...half that number of accidents on tuesday, improvement again on wednesday....and down to no accidents by thursday. we'd even managed quite easily for him to be doing his number two's in his potty.

i've been trying to keep it as relaxed as possible throughout and wouldn't even dream of being annoyed if he had his 'accidents'.

all was going well until friday when he would have minor leak....he would stop midstream let me know he needed potty and i'd help him on it, this happened continuously through the day, and he unfortunately didn't have any successful potty trips that didn't involve minor leaks.

i figured today would be better but he has been having accidents today too.

can't think why the accidents have increased, and am just so confused as to what to do for the best!!

just getting stressed now and wondering if i should continue persevering seeing as he'd done so well the first four days..or possibly leave it a few months. am due another baby in april so things will be hectic then and not the best time to be introducing potty again. aaghh.

any help and suggestions anyone can offer?? or even moral support!!!

thanks in advance

Glamazon

No experience I'm afriad (I've got all this to come :rolleyes:)
However, I think if you stop it might confuse him even more.

Have you tried a reward system for the times he does go on the potty?
It might encourage him to do it more - so X amount of stars = a treat at the end of the week

Stick with it - like you say better to do it now than when you have a baby as well.

Good Luck

BitterAndTwisted

Just keep doing what you've been doing already. It takes time to get the hang of being a big boy but get the hang of it he will, eventually.

Do you have some goal in mind with a special treat at the end? Say, if he's been a big boy for a complete week or something?

fernliebee

Sometimes after a few days they get bored by the potty training bit, as it starts to interrupt their play time etc. So like above an ongoing reward like a chart or a treat at the end of the day/ week etc can work to keep them motivated. It's like anything at first it's a novelty then it becomes a chore! Lol.

I would agree to persevere as it sounds as if he is getting it, he just needs to keep practising to get there on time. He will get there soon, and you will wonder what you were ever worried about!

JBD

You're doing really well OP. Just carry on with what you are doing. Personally I would strongly advise you not to use pullups.[in case you were tempted]
Also it doesn't hurt to remind him before he asks to go.eg if he hasn't been on the pottyfor, say 45 minutes you can put him on it. Sometimes when they are playing they don't notice the sensation of wanting to go. Also straight after dinner is a good time for doing poos.
Personally I found the best motivation for my 2 boys was telling them they were a big boy 'like Daddy/older brother.
Lastly just try and stay as calm as possible, praise him when he does get some in the pot, try and ignore the accidents.

beks

I agree, been through similar with my daughter. Definitely persevere, you are almost there. Do not go back to nappies, it will confuse him more and the whole thing will take longer and longer. You have already cracked it, just keep strong!! Try and keep the stress out of it as this will make it more difficult for him (easier said than done, I know). If you left it, he is more likely to have problems around the birth of your second child and go backwards, the sooner you can do it before the birth, the better. Like others suggest try using a sticker/reward chart to try and encourage him.
You are almost there, don't give up now.
x

MERFE

Agree with everyone that it sounds like he is doing really well. Mine both relapsed after a little while when they start to relax about it and get distracted with playing. Even now at nearly 5 we have to remind DD to go as she doesnt want to miss out whilst she is going to the loo.