Advice on Potty training

pinkmami

QuackQuackOops wrote: »

Why reward him for weeing in the garage?
Also, you shouldnt ask him if he needs the toilet, you take him to the toilet and stay there until hes done. THEN you reward him.

You are making the situation worse by rewarding him for going outside and you are reinforcing his ideas about weeing inside in front of you too.

Be firm.

I rewarded him for weeing. Imagine the pain in his belly when he doesn't go. I'd rather him wee than cry with a belly ache which he has done in the past.

I have since found out that he is scared of the toilet. He was at my friends (a reg childminder) the other evening & she knows about the problems we're having. She asked him if he wanted the toilet, he said "yes" so she took him & he saw the toilet & she saw the fear in his eyes. He said "I'm scared of it"....... He's not scared of the loo but of what he has to do there.

I have no idea how he's become scared of if cos he sees us on it every day!

pinkmami

Just to update - I moved the potty to a quiet area of the kitchen (laminated floor!) & he eventually wee'd for me - after telling me to go upstairs & close the door after me!

Thank you - I hope this is the start of the final haul!

izoomzoom

Glad to hear you have had success on the potty.

Fear of the toilet is very common.

Hearing the sound of wee / poo falling, splashing, flushing the toilet, the size ... the list is endless.

Concentrate on the potty for now and get that sorted and then see if you can deal with the toilet issue MUCH later.

JimmyTheWig

Glad to hear that he used the potty in the kitchen.
Sounds like you're on the right track.

I was going to suggest you put the potty in the garage, but maybe you don't need to do that now.

If he doesn't like the praise, can you find something else he does like. A lovely squeezy cuddle, maybe?
Or something that has worked well for us in the past is a "starry night sky". Get some black paper (e.g. sugar paper) and a sheet of silver star stickers. When he does good behaviour (e.g. uses the potty) he gets to add a star to the starry night sky. The aim is for him to make it as starry as he can. We've found that worked better than specific sticker charts which always fall by the wayside.

pinkmami

JimmyTheWig wrote: »

Glad to hear that he used the potty in the kitchen.
Sounds like you're on the right track.

I was going to suggest you put the potty in the garage, but maybe you don't need to do that now.

If he doesn't like the praise, can you find something else he does like. A lovely squeezy cuddle, maybe?
Or something that has worked well for us in the past is a "starry night sky". Get some black paper (e.g. sugar paper) and a sheet of silver star stickers. When he does good behaviour (e.g. uses the potty) he gets to add a star to the starry night sky. The aim is for him to make it as starry as he can. We've found that worked better than specific sticker charts which always fall by the wayside.

Thank you Jimmy . Well he went again today (straight after school) & I gave him a cuddle & a sticker & whispered "well done" to him.

What tickles me is the fact he puts the lid on the potty!!!!! So private bless him.

JimmyTheWig

On a slightly different tack, now...

A few people have mentioned the "ping pong ball" tactic.
How do you actually do this?
Does it stay in there constantly or do you have to fish it out and put it back in each time?
I.e. does it stay floating when you flush or would it get flushed away?

Our 7 year old [strike]is very lazy[/strike] has a poor aim. Yesterday the floor was wet and the wall was splashed but the rim of the bowl was dry. Which to me suggests that none of it went in the toilet at all!
I think the ping pong ball would help, but can't be doing with fishing it out each time.