Advice on Potty training

Cornish_piskie

Hi OP - what a nightmare for you but he will come round eventually! Reading between the lines, is your little champ quite private? He sounds like he doesn't like a fuss nor the attention that comes with peeing in a potty. When you started training did you, like I and probably most mums, put the potty in the room most used for speed and convenience (in my case the lounge) and then clap hands, whoop whoop and generally congratulate him when he 'went'? If you did and he isn't one for a fuss, he may have found things just too overwhelming - I say this because of your comment about him not liking the praise after weeing in the garage. Maybe spin all the usual advice of praise, treats, stickers etc on it's head and just NOT make a fuss about weeing. I would say perhaps that weeing in the garage is not to be encouraged but maybe say to him that he needs to use the potty but it's up to him where it is situated. He may find a private place for it (my friend's son would only go behind the sofa because he hated the fuss!) If you then find he is using it, don't mention it at all and see how it goes. He might just be relieved not to have any limelight on his functions!

I hope this may be of help, of course it would only be if he is a not-too-much-fuss sort of boy. If you don't think this is the case, then my advice would be to have a chat with a health visitor, they would have undoubtedly seen this scenario before and will have some good tips:)

pinkmami

Thank youy all for your replies. We have a potty & seat in the bathroom & a potty in the kitchen by the back door (its green like George off Peppa Pig & I though it'd help!) I'll try to stop the garage weeing & say it must be done in the potty in the kitchen. I could try to move it to the other door round the corner for privacy. When he does a poo in the nappy he always goes behind the sofa/chair so must be the privacy thing!

If I'm still struggling by the end of the year I'll pop to see my HV & chat to her!

Thank you all again! x

patchwork_cat

Do you have a problem with my advice about putting a ping pong ball in the toilet?

onlyroz

patchwork_cat wrote: »

Do you have a problem with my advice about putting a ping pong ball in the toilet?

I've heard about this before - apparently it really does work, and you'll end up with a boy with excellent aim (unlike my boy who always seems to miss...)

pinkmami

patchwork_cat wrote: »

Do you have a problem with my advice about putting a ping pong ball in the toilet?

Not at all! I have taken all your advice on board - thank you.

Ellie--x

ANY ADVICE WELCOME!!!!!
My daughter is 2 years 7 months, I have been trying to potty train her for 4 months now and she just isn't getting it! I started because she used to tell me when she had done a wee and got annoyed wearing a wet nappy, she will go on her potty most of the time when she has nothing on her bum but try nickers or pants and she will have an accident unless I am out shopping and she will tell me, I have tried stopping to give het a break and starting when she begins to tell me she needs to go but nothing improves, I've tried reward charts, letting her decorate her potty so it feels more like her own, she has tinkerbell nickers because it's her favourite etc etc etc, I know kids go at there own time but it seems wit my girl that it's just laziness (I would explain more but am typing off my phone) I just need some ideas and some help! Oh I have also tried leaving her for 5 minutes after an accident so she knows that being wet (which she does not like) Only happens when she has an accident but still nothing!! I feel a bit desperate now xx



Sorry for the essay!!

QuackQuackOops

pinkmami wrote: »

Both!!!! i came home from school & I took off his trousers & pants. He started running round & I knew he wanted to do. SO I asked him would he like to go to the toilet "NO"!, potty "NO" so I opened the back door & he went to the garage & did.....no hygenic but he did it! I gave him 3 stickers & a cuddle & he was OK. But I've noticed he hates the praise I give him.

Why reward him for weeing in the garage?
Also, you shouldnt ask him if he needs the toilet, you take him to the toilet and stay there until hes done. THEN you reward him.

You are making the situation worse by rewarding him for going outside and you are reinforcing his ideas about weeing inside in front of you too.

Be firm.

mrcow

Ellie--x wrote: »

ANY ADVICE WELCOME!!!!!
My daughter is 2 years 7 months, I have been trying to potty train her for 4 months now and she just isn't getting it! I started because she used to tell me when she had done a wee and got annoyed wearing a wet nappy, she will go on her potty most of the time when she has nothing on her bum but try nickers or pants and she will have an accident unless I am out shopping and she will tell me, I have tried stopping to give het a break and starting when she begins to tell me she needs to go but nothing improves, I've tried reward charts, letting her decorate her potty so it feels more like her own, she has tinkerbell nickers because it's her favourite etc etc etc, I know kids go at there own time but it seems wit my girl that it's just laziness (I would explain more but am typing off my phone) I just need some ideas and some help! Oh I have also tried leaving her for 5 minutes after an accident so she knows that being wet (which she does not like) Only happens when she has an accident but still nothing!! I feel a bit desperate now xx



Sorry for the essay!!

She doesn't sound ready. It's not laziness, it's a learned process which some grasp before others.

And you're just spending your time cleaning up wee which must be stressful for you every time you go anywhere. I'd stick her back in nappies and try again in 4 months. That way, she's got time to forget that accidents are/should be an every day occurance.

You'll know when she's ready as you won't be having accidents to clean up after. Keep her in nappies until that time as havin to deal with soaked clothes all the time is pretty nasty.

brummiebabe

My eldest son was a nightmare to potty train.......he'd do it for nursery but wouldn't do it at home - we had battles for a long time. I have to say that, looking back on it, I just don't think he was ready. Might be worth taking a step back from it for a short while. Leave the potty in a private place (can you fit it behind the sofa?) and stop reminding/nagging etc. My son was very stubborn and I don't think he'd do it partly because we wanted him to so much. He was around 3 1/2 when he was mostly dry - even then he'd leave it too late to go to the toilet and wet the front of his pants, I really don't think he could tell the signs when he needed to go. Unfortunately he was also a bed wetter and only stopped this when he was 10!!

However, he's fine now, just started senior school and appears to have grow out of it all..........your son will be fine, but perhaps you just need to take a different tack with it.

Good luck

jakes-mum

My nephew would not poo when he was being potty trained, the child could withstand 6 doses of lactulose :eek: He would leak in his pants and my sister was at her wits end. He had constant stomach ache but would not go, it took her losing her temper and making him sit on the loo until he went properly to break the cycle. With him it was a control thing, he wouldnt go because she wanted him to

To be honest, id stop him going in the garage completely, if he wets himself, just change him and ignore it. I'd also place the potty behind the sofa and if you see he needs to go, walk out the room and see if he will go while your gone.

To the lady with the little girl 2yrs 7 months, you could try the fisher price musical potty, my daughter was potty trained at just over 2 years and didnt really get it till we bought this potty. She would use the potty and then flush the toilet so it sang to her, and the toilet roll also sang to her . . . yes it drove us mad but she used it and learnt really quickly.

Moving her to the actual toilet was the hard bit and it wasnt till we went out to a birthday party and she really needed a wee that she relented to using the big loo, basically because she didnt have a choice and she really needed to go! Never looked back