Advice on Potty training

Pisces

Yup we tried that too, and he won't go near the toilet either (although he is interested if I'm on it!). I am stumped!

slkh

Maybe take him shopping and let him choose a potty for himself, may just work

rachbc

if he won't go on a potty pr toilet he's not ready to 'train' - yes physically it sounds like he is capable but he's obviously not emotionally ready if he is prepared to hold for so long. I have to say I find it totally bizarre that you would let him hold it for 7 hours til he was howling in pain to go.

My son stopped wearing nappies just before 3 in 1 day, dd at just over 2 in 2 days, both without any kind of 'training'

Pisces

rachbc wrote: »

if he won't go on a potty pr toilet he's not ready to 'train' - yes physically it sounds like he is capable but he's obviously not emotionally ready if he is prepared to hold for so long. I have to say I find it totally bizarre that you would let him hold it for 7 hours til he was howling in pain to go.

My son stopped wearing nappies just before 3 in 1 day, dd at just over 2 in 2 days, both without any kind of 'training'

Thanks for the suggestion - it was his choice to hold on, we'd put him in a pull up over nap time and then taken his pants off and were in no way forcing him on his potty. If I could have not 'let him hold it' believe me I would've!

Have to say though we are thinking of giving up on it for now, but just wondered if anyone else had been through anything and had any tips really. As I say, thanks for your thoughts.

pigpen

how about a pingpong ball in the loo for him to pee on?
You can get stickers which change colour when wee'd on.. he might like those
Can daddy show him how big men pee?
A friends son had a bottle thing to pee in.. he hated the potty and was scared of the toilet so had the bottle.. the ones wheelchair users use.
DD4 had a clear potty she thought was wonderful.. it was in fact gross.. but she liked watching it fill up!

no treats for not performing.. it isn't incentive if he's getting a treat anyway.

Most of mine trained themselves but a couple it took forever. usualy it was 2-3 days for them to 'get it' and a coulple more days to not need reminding they didn't have a nappy.

Pisces

Thanks pigpen, some great ideas there. I'm off to get some pingpong balls, brill idea.

Thanks also meeps, will try this tomorrow in our garden, and particularly like the target practice idea. We have a washing up liquid bottle too!

julie2710

My eldest son was fine almost as soon as he had big boy pants on and he was 2 and a half. His younger brother was slower. Tried once and went back to pull ups then at 2 years 8 months he just decided he wanted big boy pants like his brother.
We went shopping for big boy pants together and he picked some Peppa Pig ones. We joked about not weeing on Peppa or George and he was fine in a week.
Don't try and force it. I think there is so much pressure to get kids potty trained early but you need him to take his own trousers and pants down and decide himself when he needs a wee. If he can't do that you are just training yourself to guess when he needs to go.
Good luck and I'm sure he'll be fine.

Spendless

Child 1 (male) used to go to my MILs 1 afternoon a week. One afternoon, when he was 27 months she saw him fiddling with his nappy, asked if he wanted to stop wearing one, he said yes he took it off and that was that. Over the next fortnight we had 3 wet accidents, 2 travelling in a car and 1 at a soft play area, cos I think he couldn't be bothered to stop playing. No soiled accidents, though he continued to wear nappies at night for a further 15 months, with just 1 occassion when he did a #2 asleep in them.

Knowing no different, I thought the above was what children did. It was only when DS started nursery and other mums started talking about potty training that I realised it wasn't.

I was soon to be put straight by child 2 (female) who just didn't 'get it'. A couple of months short of her 3rd birthday I put her in a private nursery 3 days a week, cos I was going to college and they asked me if I'd like help with potty training. Wthin 2 weeks they had cracked it and she was dry both day and night.

For 1 of the kids I had a potty that was shaped like a mini toilet.

jcr16

sounds like he just isn't ready at the moment.

i can't remember what my dd was like but with my boys it was sooo easy.

my eldest son had just turned 3 and showed no interested whatsoever. he'd wear the potty as a helmet. then one night he went off to bed as usual, wok eup at 11 and took his nappy off and said no nappy. i was shocked and dreading it, so put loads of towels in his bed but i had no need, from that night he was dry day and night with no accidents. easy peasy.

with our youngest son again he had turned 3 and we kept trying but he just wasn;t ready. then a coupld months back we thoguht right this is it. end of nappies , no more. he had been dry at night for ages( no nappy just pants ) and he with a coupld of days got the hang of using the potty for a wee. he was fab. but come a number 2 tho, he was a night mare. he would refuse to do it in the potty. he held it once for 2 days. so we said to him would you like a neptune boat ( firman sam) he agreed and as an incentive if he did his number 2 on the pot he got it. within a few days and lots of encourageing he finally did and he got neptune. but we said to him now he a big boy and he has to always uses potty or toilet otherwise neptune will go. and we've not had a singel accicent.

Now the potty is kept in the bathroom and he now goes upstairs and uses either the toilet or potty. both my boys must of been ready as we had no stress, no problems. it was really easy.

make_me_wise

My sil did away with the potty stage altogether. Nephew refused to use it, well for its purpose anyway. He would wear it as a hat, pretend it was a car!

She just kept putting him on the toilet regularly. In the end what made things click was he got caught out in the park and some older children bought him back to his mum. They were teasing him a bit. It was the embarrassment of that, which made him want to use the toilet.

Is your son in pull ups or have you moved him into normal pants? I only ask because apparently alot of kids see pull ups as a safety net and tend to learn to know their bodies signals later. Getting wet or messy helps reinforce that not using the toilet makes them uncomfy.