Advice on Potty training

hastie

puddy wrote: »

just to remind parents entering potty training stage, some children get quite distressed at seeing a large part of themselves (a turd) falling into the potty, or more usually the toilet at a later stage. its a good idea to get them feeling comfortable with their nappy turds getting flushed down the loo, 'look this is where they go!' and then flushing it down from the potty when they start that too

This is great advice,.
Both my kids were potty trained before 18 months and this is the key.
My advice would be different from others in that I would never go back to nappies once making the decision to start potty training.
All of the pull up pants, night time nappies etc just confuse children and give them mixed messages.
When we potty trained it was night time too and had few accidents, dont send kids to bed with a drink either!
Lots of drinks in the day, no squash after 530 pm, just a small milk drink before bedtime.
Dont punish for weeing and pooing in the wrong place, and praise how grown up and sensible when they use potty or toilet.

Imagine you are a baby and looking at mom and dad change their nappy, and the faces we pull because of the smell! That is how your little one sees its wees and poos. Lots of positive praise and showing you child, letting them flush the chain, etc:)

mishkanorman

Geez there are some right a***s on this forum at times !


OP, have you tried putting your daughter in NOTHING for a few days ? Its lovely warm weather so you have a good opportunity, rather than making her choose between nappy and knickers just let her run about starkers for a few days and see if that makes any difference. It may not be that she isnt ready to use the toilet but just feels she isnt ready to give up another thing of hers - the house + new baby etc are all out of her control.

Good luck !

happy_but_skint

I wrote out a reply and my internet died grrrrr

thank you I wont name and shame I will just ignore put into context the helpful and nice out weigh the idiots.

I have sat my daughter down and asked if she wants nappys back to which she laughed and said yes please, I spent last weeks nappy money on pants for her so we have compromised she has a baby nappy inside her knickers and tomorrow when my wages go in I will get her some pullups. The new potty when it arrives will hopefully get her excited about going on it!

I have let her run naked I just get larger puddles, I have guests tonight I dont know where they will sit my sofa is full of disinfectant lol

McKneff

Ignore the pms HBS, they are just gutless cowards who are frightened to post the nasty things they say on here because they know they'll get a slating and report them.

Good luck and like I say, its getting warmer so it always makes potty training that little bit easier.

JC9297

hastie wrote: »

This is great advice,.
Both my kids were potty trained before 18 months and this is the key.
My advice would be different from others in that I would never go back to nappies once making the decision to start potty training.
All of the pull up pants, night time nappies etc just confuse children and give them mixed messages.
When we potty trained it was night time too and had few accidents, dont send kids to bed with a drink either!
Lots of drinks in the day, no squash after 530 pm, just a small milk drink before bedtime.
Dont punish for weeing and pooing in the wrong place, and praise how grown up and sensible when they use potty or toilet.

Imagine you are a baby and looking at mom and dad change their nappy, and the faces we pull because of the smell! That is how your little one sees its wees and poos. Lots of positive praise and showing you child, letting them flush the chain, etc:)

Most children are not developed enough to be consistently dry before 18 months.

You don't need to make a decision to train them, you take your cues from the child when they are ready.

Agree with other posters that it is best to let them run around pantless in the summer, have a potty upstairs and down and just be relaxed about it.

barbiedoll

Many parents that I have spoken to, through my job, have told me that their toddler "regresses" after the birth of a new baby. Lots of children who were previously potty-trained, will start to have "accidents" and I've seen children who demand to be breast-fed or given a bottle when they see mum feeding the new baby. It's perfectly normal behaviour, as is not being potty-trained by the age of two or even three.

Don't make a big deal out of it, I know that you're stressed but kids are very good at picking up our moods and your daughter will play you up most, just when you don't need it, it's what kids do! Put her back in nappies for the time being, put the new knickers away and forget about it for a couple of weeks, at least. But.....do encourage her to help you with the baby, get her to fetch nappies, wipes and so on and talk to her about how babies don't know when they want to go to the toilet, but grown-ups do and that's why they use the potty/toilet. Just drop it into conversation, and let her know that you are pleased that she had tried to use her potty and that it's ok to not get it right first time.

She will find her own way and she will soon get to grips with it.
Good luck!

peachyprice

happy_but_skint wrote: »

tomorrow when my wages go in I will get her some pullups.

Keep any eye on her little delicate parts if you're using pull-ups, they don't lock the wee away the same as nappies do and they can get very very sore if you don't change them often when wet.

meritaten

I always believed that if you hit a wall with kids then go back a stage. put her back in nappies as she doesnt sound ready for toilet training. perhaps the pullups type then if SHE decides she wants to use the potty she can.

izoomzoom

Know this has been covered already but your DD is not emotionally ready for potty training. She has to have some form of motivation for it to be successful.

Give it a few weeks. If she shows any interest in the new potty system then praise her for that, but don't push her.

horse76

My dd had just turned 2 when we tried potty training. She managed to wee a few times in the potty, but refused to poo. Figured she wasn't ready yet, so put her potty back in the cupboard. After a few months she spotted it again and asked for it a few times, but as we were in the middle of moving house we didn't try it.

When we moved she was 2 and a half, so tried again and she took to weeing in it no bother. She took a few go's at doing number 2's in it, but with the help of stickers she mastered it pretty quickly. All children do it in their own time.