Advice on Potty training

Griizelda

I would just put her back in nappies (or pull-ups). In the battle of wills over potty training the child always wins (they have control over their bodies, we don't!).

Your daughter has had a lot of upheaval in her young life with the house move and new baby - just relax and take a step back. She will decide when she's ready (and once the pressure is off, it may be sooner than you think!).

happy_but_skint

thank you for the replies,

We have been trying for a week where she only has a nappy a night times.
I havent got stressed until today (lack of sleep!!) I have just sat her on the potty after shes wet and said this in were you do your wees not on mummys floor and given he a kiss. today i have tried asking why she wont and she just say's I dont want to I like my nappy, I thought i'd get some advice before I get more stressed lol.

lynnie06

My daughter was nearly 3 when she was fully potty trained and she did it by herself.
I had tried to push it with her when she turned 2 as she kept telling me she needed but if I put pants on her she would just wee herself and it wouldnt bother her..............
I ended up just leaving her in pull ups and she did it when she was ready. She did have a problem with pooing though and would poo her pants instead of the in the potty/toilet and again it would not bother her!!!
It all came together in the end though - good luck!!!!

liney

Factors in many a child's decision to use the potty is to be a 'big boy' and copy older children, or playmates. If your daughter is happy for the moment in nappies, at the grand old age of 2 and 4 months I would just leave it for now.

In the mean time do you have any friends with children who are slightly older who use the potty who you can have a few play dates with? If they are getting praise she might be tempted, but ultimately, it is when she is ready to come out of nappies, not when you are ready for her to come out of nappies, unfortunately.

peachyprice

happy_but_skint wrote: »

Hi

i believe she is ready as she started to tell us she was going toilet and shes also very clever and understands so much you can hold a conversation with her.

There is absolutely no correlation between a child being 'very clever' and being ready for potty training. Children of that age cannot be good at everything, her talents obviously lie elsewhere and potty training is of no interest to her.

By the same token you cannot compare two children, just because your son was easy really has no bearing on how your daughter will be.

As you are finding, trying to do battle with a child who just isn't ready is making everyone miserable. I'm suprised by your attitude TBH that you see it as a battle of wills rather than a physiological milestone that needs to be reached.

She's only 2. But her back in nappys until she is ready.

Rockporkchop

She doesn't sound ready and she is still very young. I'd put her back in nappies and give it another few months.

My triplets will be three in a couple of months and only one of them is toilet trained, the other two are nowhere near ready. They all do it in their own time.

Kandboys

I'm a firm believer in being led by the child. My friend has a DD the same age as my DS1. When she turned 2 she started potty training her straight away and she had so many accidents and stopped and started the training. My DS1 was 2 and 9 months when he suddenly decided he was wearing pants and going to use the potty - he never had one accident. Was dry at night straight away too although I think that is quite unusual. You maybe best stepping back for a bit and waiting until she is ready.

McKneff

Please try the bribery thing rather than punishing her by taking things away from her.

Her whole little life has been in a nice warm nappy, be a little more patient and she will do it in her own time especially as the weather is geting warmer.

BitterAndTwisted

PLEASE don't punish your child by taking things away for not wanting to use the potty! She may be physically ready but due to the upheaval and the new baby she's probably not mentally ready. All small children have their own time-tables despite what you think, so try and not compare her to other children. Put her back in the pull-ups and put the potty away for the time being. Only "big girls" use a potty and she's not a big girl yet. She's likely to get the idea that she want to stop being in pull-ups when she realises all of her little friends aren't in them any longer.

happy_but_skint

We moved to a new town and I havent made any new friends yet and cant afford nursery for her at the moment. I think I may put her nappy back on and start rewarding my 10 year old for using the toilet maybe even reward my husband lol

I really do appreciate your comments I did wonder if it was too soon, shes a tall child who holds conversations and looks older than she is shes often mistaken for a 3/4 year old I get annoyed when people assume shes older and expect more from her and here I am doing the same thing