Advice on Potty training

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

happy_but_skint wrote: »

We moved to a new town and I havent made any new friends yet and cant afford nursery for her at the moment. I think I may put her nappy back on and start rewarding my 10 year old for using the toilet maybe even reward my husband lol

I really do appreciate your comments I did wonder if it was too soon, shes a tall child who holds conversations and looks older than she is shes often mistaken for a 3/4 year old I get annoyed when people assume shes older and expect more from her and here I am doing the same thing

I was going to say the highlighted (above) had no bearing on the potty training but then actually - i think it might, Shes just moved house and is bound to be unsettled

AND

you have only been trying 1 week. She doesnt sound ready, more that your pushing which will not work. Wait until she is ready and perserver - It will definatley take longer than a week

pigpen

I'd leave her for a bit too.. Mine trained themselves pretty much at a variety of ages.. 18months-4.5 years... they all get there in their own time.. I'd leave her be and when it gets to summer hols work on it then.. bribery is the key.. well done you used to pot/toilet have a sweetie (couple of choc buttons or one of those boxes of raisins or have a biscuit tin with various items in and she can choose 1) at the end of a week get her a comic of book or some small treat as a reward.. it isn't any different to a star chart they are just bribery sheets!

When they are ready it takes days.. not weeks!

happy_but_skint

peachyprice wrote: »

There is absolutely no correlation between a child being 'very clever' and being ready for potty training. Children of that age cannot be good at everything, her talents obviously lie elsewhere and potty training is of no interest to her.

By the same token you cannot compare two children, just because your son was easy really has no bearing on how your daughter will be.

As you are finding, trying to do battle with a child who just isn't ready is making everyone miserable. I'm suprised by your attitude TBH that you see it as a battle of wills rather than a physiological milestone that needs to be reached.

She's only 2. But her back in nappys until she is ready.

I appreciate what you are saying but i think you mis-understood what i was trying to say, I accept being clever dont mean shes ready however i would never compare her to my son they are totally different he is very laid back my daughter is the complete opposite and very highly strung, i was just saying although she not my first born i havent experianced this before.

happy_but_skint

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel wrote: »

I was going to say the highlighted (above) had no bearing on the potty training but then actually - i think it might, Shes just moved house and is bound to be unsettled

Sorry i should have quoted who I was replying to im new to this! I was responding to someone who said take her around to friends house with other children who use the potty or toilet, although she went nursery before she now only mixes with my older son and his new friends I hope when our finances settle to get her into a nursery if only for one day a week.

McKneff

Im always puzzled by this phrase 'highly strung'
can any one elaborate what it actually means please.

Little_Leita

My DD was much the same, until someone recommended that I line the potty with a nappy - worked a treat! Plonked herself down, did a wee and looked very pleased with herself . She quite happily went without the nappy after a few days.

happy_but_skint

McKneff wrote: »

Im always puzzled by this phrase 'highly strung'
can any one elaborate what it actually means please.

–adjective
at great tension; highly excitable or nervous; edgy: high-strung nerves; a high-strung person
—Synonyms
tense, temperamental; jumpy, edgy, jittery, uptight.

My young lady falls more into temperamental she is an absolute delight though

puddy

just to remind parents entering potty training stage, some children get quite distressed at seeing a large part of themselves (a turd) falling into the potty, or more usually the toilet at a later stage. its a good idea to get them feeling comfortable with their nappy turds getting flushed down the loo, 'look this is where they go!' and then flushing it down from the potty when they start that too

for more 'advanced' children you can actually track your turds on some website or something, it follows the sewage pipes from your house and tracks it on google earth to the outflow, quite interesting for the more anal of us!

happy_but_skint

I'd like to say thank you to all of you who answered my questions without judging me you are great i did say from the offset im not sure im doing the right thing ( i wouldnt have posted if i thought i was doing everything right),

im sorry to say a few readers have picked up on a quote saying im suprised by your attitude its not a battle of wills and i have recieved some nasty pms which has upset me a great deal saying im a bully to my daughter and i shouldnt have children. I love my children and i havent battled with my daughter we havent argued over the potty nor have I raised my voice to her. I am living in a new town with no family or friends to turn to I dont belive I came across as having a bad attitude and if i did im really sorry. I will find an alternative for advice in the future.

CH27

happy_but_skint wrote: »

I'd like to say thank you to all of you who answered my questions without judging me you are great i did say from the offset im not sure im doing the right thing ( i wouldnt have posted if i thought i was doing everything right),

im sorry to say a few readers have picked up on a quote saying im suprised by your attitude its not a battle of wills and i have recieved some nasty pms which has upset me a great deal saying im a bully to my daughter and i shouldnt have children. I love my children and i havent battled with my daughter we havent argued over the potty nor have I raised my voice to her. I am living in a new town with no family or friends to turn to I dont belive I came across as having a bad attitude and if i did im really sorry. I will find an alternative for advice in the future.

Just ignore the nasties.
Don't let them put you off. The majority on here are lovely & supportive.

Eta people who send nasty PMs should be ashamed of themselves!