Advice on Potty training

Mumto2

I'm currently toilet training my 3 1/4yr son. Had tried previously, but he wasn't interested. Last Monday, he asked to wear pants and for a week did very well. Minimal accidents, mostly just a little dribble, then finishing off on the toilet. Didn't get the hang of poohs - seems to hide, then I realise there's a strange smell...

BUT this week, he's suddenly started wetting again big time. He's hardly trying to get to the toilet. I'm doing just as we did last week, trying to hard to be positive and say it's ok. He goes to nursery this afternoon and they'd already rung after 1/2 hour ranting at me that if he's no better tomorrow he has to go back in nappies until after the summer holidays!!! When we'd previously discussed toilet training they seemed so supportive - must be different when the child actually wee's on the carpet.

Anyone have any tips on regression & how to deal with it? Not sure he's going to be keen on going back to nappies for a while as he refused one last night at bedtime (managed to get it on later though as he's nowhere near dry at night).

Thanks

catfish50

Maybe he just needs to discover for himself that it's uncomfortable to be in wet pants, or a wet bed. To make that discovery, he needs repeated experiences of wetting his pants, or wetting his bed. He won't get that experience as long as he's in nappies. It's extra work, while they're learning, but it probably won't last very long provided no one gets upset or annoyed when he wets himself. Give him the opportunity to choose -- wet pants or wee in the toilet.

If he indicates he wants a wee, try showing him he can do it standing up. This was a wow with my son. He wanted to do a wee every five minutes for a few days. :-)

Ginger_Poodle

Mumto2 wrote: »

BUT this week, he's suddenly started wetting again big time. He's hardly trying to get to the toilet. I'm doing just as we did last week, trying to hard to be positive and say it's ok. He goes to nursery this afternoon and they'd already rung after 1/2 hour ranting at me that if he's no better tomorrow he has to go back in nappies until after the summer holidays!!! When we'd previously discussed toilet training they seemed so supportive - must be different when the child actually wee's on the carpet.

Anyone have any tips on regression & how to deal with it? Not sure he's going to be keen on going back to nappies for a while as he refused one last night at bedtime (managed to get it on later though as he's nowhere near dry at night).

Thanks

Had a little thought about this. My daughter is a similar age and 3-4 months ago went through a terrible phase of having accidents (several a day for about a week). I tried everything...persuasion, begging, bribery, you name it. Got quite upset in the end as I had no clue what to do. It turned out that the poor little dumpling had a urine infection and couldnt help herself. Quick course of antibiotics and all was back to normal. I felt like scum-mother, of course. So, if it smells a bit funny or he is complaining about a sore bottom/tummy, it may be worth a visit to the doc.

On a side note about your nursery - HOW RUDE!! Surely it is their job to help you & your son, not make things worse!

Good luck x

pinkmami

Thank you all for replying. Just to update, we've had a little success! He does wee.....but not in the potty nor loo. He prefers to go out in the garden:rotfl: & asks me to close the kitchen door as he dislikes the audience!

At least he does it now & won't hold it in. One problem I have though is he won't do it when its raining!!!! That's the next hurdle!!!

NickyBat

I fully agree with the poster who said boys are bone idle......i've got one and potty training was a nightmare.
he was 4 before he was fully dry in the day and 7 at night, i ended up buying the Rodger bed wetting pants with alarm, and although expensive boy did it work... and quickly.
As soon as he started to wee, the alarm would go off and he would wake and go to the loo, only took about a week, certainly worth thinking about.

happy_but_skint

Hi

I am trying to potty train my daughter who was 2 in Feb, i believe she is ready as she started to tell us she was going toilet and shes also very clever and understands so much you can hold a conversation with her.

The problem is she is very stubborn and extremely strong willed (dont know where she gets it from )

I have been telling her that once we ran out of nappys she wouldnt have any more and we went and picked some knickers together. However she will not go toilet in a potty or on the household toilets she refuses point blank and stands and wets she is demanding her nappys back kicks the potty or she just comes in holding a new pair of knickers. I have taken things away from her as shes wetting and now shes just waving good bye to her things as they are removed.

We have had lots of changes recently a new house and a new baby but she took these changes better than we expected.

I never had any problems with her older brother he just seemed to take to the potty and toilet really well. I have ordered a potty system with its own toilet roll holder and wet wipe holder but I could do with a bit of advise is their anything with really helped you, do you think i should put her back in nappys for a few more months ( i dont really want to do this as give her an inch and she will take a mile!)

CH27

My potty training technique involved a lot of bribery.

Oh well done, clever boy have a sweetie.
Oh when you are able to use the toilet we can go to the funfair, seaside, see Thomas the Tank Engine etc etc

Naughty I know but it worked for me:D

welshsue

I really would not put pressure on her. She will do it in her own time. My son was 2 and a half when he started nursery and was still in pull ups. He would go on the potty for wee but insisted on doing poo in his pull up. Once he started nursery and saw the other boys and girls going to the toilets, he would follow and gradually started using potty and toilet.
Once he started using them, there was no looking back, within 6 months he was completely dry day and night.

I was getting worried as most of the others were dry by 2 but didn't pressure him just made sure the potty was always in sight and he did it in his own time.

All children are different and do things at different ages. The fact you have also had a lot of changes recently will also put her back a bit. Try and relax about it, if she sees you relaxed about it instead of telling her no more nappies and getting stressed, then I'm sure she will suprise you one day by just getting on with it.

I hope that helps just a little bit...

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

How long have you been trying for?

She may be not fully ready yet

Elle7

I agree with the comments about her not being ready - she doesn't sound it if she'll happily wet herself!

If it is just a stubborn-ness thing, could you try using a reward chart? This is how we encourage potty-usage at nursery.