Advice on Potty training

Pisces

make_me_wise wrote: »

Is your son in pull ups or have you moved him into normal pants? I only ask because apparently alot of kids see pull ups as a safety net and tend to learn to know their bodies signals later. Getting wet or messy helps reinforce that not using the toilet makes them uncomfy.

He's in normal pants most of the time, pull up overnight or nothing at all for the last few days in nice weather.

He definitely sees pull ups as a safety net, so we did away with them quite quickly. He hates being wet, but seems to hate the potty even more! Think I have the world's most stubborn toddler!

make_me_wise

My friend is a nursery nurse. She advises concentrating on getting kids dry and clean during the day first. Then worrying about overnight, mainly because alot of kids sleep really deeply. In time though their systems develop and that urge 'to go' strengthens and matures.

It is a really good sign that your son is beginning to know his body but emotionally he may not be quite ready yet. Does he have a favourite teddy that could sit on the potty and go, whilst he sits on the toilet and does the same. Bit of moral support whist trying something knew (or blatant reverse phsycology). Might be worth a try.

Some children get frightened by the noise of going for a wee etc on a potty/toilet. Try him on it when you have put a few layers of toilet paper in the potty/toilet first.

Money_maker

How about a special book which he can read/look at when on the potty? May encourage him to sit on the pot and relieve the pressure of needing to 'perform'.

pinkmami

I have a 3.5 yr old son. Totally adorabe & lovely - till it comes to potty training!

He was introduced to the potty after his 2nd birthday. He told me when he wee'd in his nappy so I saw that as a sign he was preparing for dropping the day nappy & wore pants. He played with it, sat on it then started weeing in it. great. Till Feb this year & half term holidays & stopped all together. I started again, & he reluctanly wee'd in it. never in the toilet & never does a poo in it....asks for a nappy which I was OK with. He also wears a nappy for bed.

He is now in school every afternoon from 11am-3pm. And has never done a wee for them. The teachers know of the training situation & they thought he's go to the loo after seeing other little boys going. But he's refusing point blank!!!

He will hold his wee in all day & I'm shocked at how long he can do this. When's he's really desperate he will go to the garage to do - in private - but only when its dry outside! I think its one step closer as he's actually doing the deed!

But I really need to sort this out now. I've tried stickers, chocolate, biscuits, toys - he refuses.

HELP ME!!! Do I drop the nappy (poo one & night one) & go cold turkey & use bed mats on the bed?


Please I'm at the end of my tether. I know he can wee in a potty cos he's done before.

Oh just to add - I'm not a 1st time mum. I have successfully trained my 2 daughters at the age of 2 with no problems! Boys eh!? And this is kinda "moneysaving" cos I want to stop buying nappies!

Cheers xx

mrcow

I'd start from scratch.

Ignore the whole night time thing - nappies at night unil the day situation is mastered.

Is he wetting himself, or just not going at all?

LMCD

with my son I had to pester him to ask him if he needed the toilet and one time i had to 'hold him ' down on the toilet cos I knew he needed the toilet and he refused point blank - I offered incentive after peein for a while.. maybe the reward chart won't work and you will need to suffer the agro?? but the training might be hard if he is in school in the afternoons. but I do know for some toddlers its a phobia they have.. but you could maybe try extra juice for a while to get into the regularity of needing the toilet and 'practise' going?! good luck..

pinkmami

mrcow wrote: »

I'd start from scratch.

Ignore the whole night time thing - nappies at night unil the day situation is mastered.

Is he wetting himself, or just not going at all?

Both!!!! i came home from school & I took off his trousers & pants. He started running round & I knew he wanted to do. SO I asked him would he like to go to the toilet "NO"!, potty "NO" so I opened the back door & he went to the garage & did.....no hygenic but he did it! I gave him 3 stickers & a cuddle & he was OK. But I've noticed he hates the praise I give him.

flutterby_lil

Very strange. I had no probs with my son who was toilet trained at 22 months. Still in nappies at night though and not sure how to approach this.

I would maybe stop giving him the option of going outside to the garage. He knows if he holds it in you will give in and let him go there.

Good luck.

patchwork_cat

Put a ping pong ball in the toilet and tell him he has to try and hit the ping pong ball, or whatever aspect of trying to sink it etc. you think might appeal. Also (your neighbours might hate this and some will go ughhh) see if he will water the plants for you. Does he want privacy do you think? He will only go on his own in the garage, what if you let him lock the door or said I will not come in and I will stay downstairs? Or alternatively does he not like the noise of the wee hitting the water?

LMCD

flutterby_lil wrote: »

Very strange. I had no probs with my son who was toilet trained at 22 months. Still in nappies at night though and not sure how to approach this.

I would maybe stop giving him the option of going outside to the garage. He knows if he holds it in you will give in and let him go there.

Good luck.

Have you read huggies toilet training tips? I haven't but i know they are there lol.. Am just about to start training my daughter at night now.. i was figuring just to have the wet wake ups and deal with it so they can learn... with my son I woke him up during the night for a pee.. but really maybe it wasn't the best method.. but it did work but still had few accidents as they were bound to happen... guess its just limiting the juice before bed and asking etc and letting nature take its course. good luck to you too!