Advice on Potty training

princess.tinkerbell_2

thank you so much for all your wonderful replies.

it's helping in putting my mind at rest as i did feel that we have been getting somewhere so don't want to stop now.

i'm going to be ordering a reward chart from amazon tonight and will work on that with the wee one.

several family members who have gone through potty training stage recently have said to me that it takes up to a week to be fully potty trained but i know now that'll not happen in this instance.

will just try to be patient and continue doing what i am.

i've not used pull ups during day....just nappies at night time as i feel will be difficult to stop both daytime and nighttime nappies together!

will be glad when it's all over!!

Minimum_Wage_2

Keep up the good work princess, tinkerbell. the reward thing works well but i feel as if you thought things would just get better and better, well they dont always, nothing is ever smooth and you will have the ups and downs. just because one day was worse than yesterday it doesnt mean that it was a bad day and its the end of everything. It is hard for the little one to suddenly change when they have been so use to just going without even thinking about it and now your trying to teach them to give you warning of when they are going or was it when they want to go? Think of it this way! its like trying to teach your old man to put his dirty clothes in the laundry or to get him to do the washing up after dinner. Its a hard fight but with persistence you'll have him trained! just be thankful he's already potty trained.

little_evo

For my son we designed a potty treat box together and then we filled it with his favourite sweets. For each time he used the potty he would get a treat. And at first he took advantage of this and it felt like he had a pee every five minutes! But by the end of the week he stopped asking for a sweet and simply went to the potty. Hope this helps and either way good luck and don't give up!

beks

princess.tinkerbell wrote: »

thank you so much for all your wonderful replies.

it's helping in putting my mind at rest as i did feel that we have been getting somewhere so don't want to stop now.

i'm going to be ordering a reward chart from amazon tonight and will work on that with the wee one.

several family members who have gone through potty training stage recently have said to me that it takes up to a week to be fully potty trained but i know now that'll not happen in this instance.

will just try to be patient and continue doing what i am.

i've not used pull ups during day....just nappies at night time as i feel will be difficult to stop both daytime and nighttime nappies together!

will be glad when it's all over!!

I wouldnt worry too much about the nappies at night time, day time is the most important thing. I think Gina Ford (shame on me!) suggests that they are dry for 2 weeks at night before you attempt to do it at night too and she reckons this happens about 3 (of course all children are different!!)
You (and your son) have done well to get this far, all children are different and although some are done in a week, others take longer. I got so stressed with it but now I do wonder what I was so fussed about!! The one thing I would say, is do not use nappies again now, except at night (my friend has done this and now her daugther is so confused, she is still having accidents after 3 months of trying).
Instead of getting a chart from amazon, can you not draw something (a snake for example and section it off) and put little stickers (or draw a star) in each section when he does a wee in the potty and then a reward when he gets to the end?
Anyway, persevere for a little longer and it will click in the end.

kymbogs

Hiya,
I wondered if I could ask a question here which is related to potty training, hope the OP doesn't mind? It's just you've all given some great advice so hope you can help me out!

My daughter is 2 and a half and we potty trained over the summer, it went really well and she very rarely has accidents now. Occasionally we have to revert back to using a sticker chart as she just seems to get bored of the whole thing though this does seem to be mostly if she has been at home with daddy for a few hours and I come home and there'll be puddles all over and lots of wet trousers! She is fine at nursery and takes herself off to use the toilet.

The thing is I am just not brave enough to take her out without a pull-up on. I don't drive so it takes us awhile to get anywhere. She will use the toilets in shops etc when we are out and about in town but I don't know what I'd do if she asked for a wee when we were halfway to town on foot! Part of me knows she should be able to hold it in long enough, especially if we can get her to go before we leave the house. The other part of me just thinks of the soggy pushchair...

My biggest problem is the journey we make each day. I recently started university and we leave the house at 7am and arrive at the nursery about 8.15am. Again, I'm sure if she used the potty before we set off she could make it to nursery no problem - she goes for 6 hours when we are at home all day without using the potty sometimes. My biggest worry is the journey home. 9 times out of ten Molly will fall asleep before we even make it to the bus stop to come home. This is OK, she doesn't tend to wee in her sleep. It can take quite a long time to get home with me often having to let a bus go as it has steps, then not being able to get on the bus from the town centre to our home which adds a half hour walk to the equation. She will often sleep all the way home, completely dry, then wake up as I am getting the buggy in the house and before she is completely awake and knows where she is and what's going on....wee. I have brought her home twice without a pullup and this is what happened, so I haven't tried it for a while.

Do you think I should just go for it and see what happens? I've heard that disposable changing mats are a good idea for protecting the seat of the pushchair (and her younger sister who sort of sits underneath her lol)

Any advice very much appreciated as I feel daft that she's been potty trained so long but we still use a pullup to go out in. Luckily she understands that pullups are for bedtime and going out, she wears knickers the rest of the time (I take her pullup off when we get to nursery and put one on before we leave)

Many thanks, and sorry again for hijacking the thread!

Kimberley

beks

kymbogs wrote: »

Hiya,
I wondered if I could ask a question here which is related to potty training, hope the OP doesn't mind? It's just you've all given some great advice so hope you can help me out!

My daughter is 2 and a half and we potty trained over the summer, it went really well and she very rarely has accidents now. Occasionally we have to revert back to using a sticker chart as she just seems to get bored of the whole thing though this does seem to be mostly if she has been at home with daddy for a few hours and I come home and there'll be puddles all over and lots of wet trousers! She is fine at nursery and takes herself off to use the toilet.

The thing is I am just not brave enough to take her out without a pull-up on. I don't drive so it takes us awhile to get anywhere. She will use the toilets in shops etc when we are out and about in town but I don't know what I'd do if she asked for a wee when we were halfway to town on foot! Part of me knows she should be able to hold it in long enough, especially if we can get her to go before we leave the house. The other part of me just thinks of the soggy pushchair...

My biggest problem is the journey we make each day. I recently started university and we leave the house at 7am and arrive at the nursery about 8.15am. Again, I'm sure if she used the potty before we set off she could make it to nursery no problem - she goes for 6 hours when we are at home all day without using the potty sometimes. My biggest worry is the journey home. 9 times out of ten Molly will fall asleep before we even make it to the bus stop to come home. This is OK, she doesn't tend to wee in her sleep. It can take quite a long time to get home with me often having to let a bus go as it has steps, then not being able to get on the bus from the town centre to our home which adds a half hour walk to the equation. She will often sleep all the way home, completely dry, then wake up as I am getting the buggy in the house and before she is completely awake and knows where she is and what's going on....wee. I have brought her home twice without a pullup and this is what happened, so I haven't tried it for a while.

Do you think I should just go for it and see what happens? I've heard that disposable changing mats are a good idea for protecting the seat of the pushchair (and her younger sister who sort of sits underneath her lol)

Any advice very much appreciated as I feel daft that she's been potty trained so long but we still use a pullup to go out in. Luckily she understands that pullups are for bedtime and going out, she wears knickers the rest of the time (I take her pullup off when we get to nursery and put one on before we leave)

Many thanks, and sorry again for hijacking the thread!

Kimberley

Okay, well IMO, you need to go for it. You will have to at some point so I would get it over with. I do think it confuses children to put them into nappies/pull-ups at any time during the day (although to be fair it sounds like your daughter has been doing fine regardless.) Before you do it, you must explain to your daughter what and why you are doing it. There may be accidents but keep calm and she will soon come to realise that it is easier to hold it (even when she wakes up)
We invested in a potette plus which I carry everywhere with me (from ebay - a portable potty with bags which can be used as a potty or a toilet seat) and it has been a real life saver. I would recommend it to anyone. I would also get a seat protector (also on ebay) which is ideal for car seats or pushchairs. The good thing is, it blends into the pushchair or car seat so they dont realise. If they think there is something there to catch the wee,it means they dont have to worry about it whereas if they dont realise this, they have to be more aware of it themselves. We havent had any accidents on ours (yet) so I dont have first hand experience on how absorbent it is, but others have assured me it is excellent.
Good luck Kimberley.
x

JBD

Kymbogs, I agree, you just have to give it a go. Yes, she may have an accident ,but she sounds as if she has really good bladder control already. Like you I had to use a buggy with all my children, if you are really worried you could put a folded up towel or a pampers bed pad on the seat although I'm pretty sure she won't wet anyway. It is a little bit more difficult for girls as boys can go standing up in a strategic place but I think you will be fine. Just remember all little ones have occassional accidents.

lucasmum

We toilet trained our little boy (2 1/2) this summer aswell. It seems like a sensible time to do, having him running round naked without freezing! It took a lot longer than 1 week. The whole thing is horrible but I just kept on asking him to go to the toilet, if he hadn't been for 30 mins or so I would tell him to go. I found if I said 'do you need a wee?' the answer would always be no but if I just told him to go he would do it. I think it took the majority of the summer holidays to get there, so be patient!
We went the whole hog and he wore pants where ever we went, although I can see it being easier for a boy as if in an emergency I could find a quiet bush and get him to go where its a bit harder for girls!

Even now he will have the odd accident but I think that is because it has lost its novelty and playing is far more interesting!

Could you take a potty around with you when you are out then where ever you are she could sit on it?

Its a pain to do but its worth it in the end and just think of all that extra cash when you are not buying nappies!!

Lynn11

We managed to download a training chart from the internet free of charge instead of buying from Amazon but we made the mistake of only buying 1 sheet of stickers, which only lasted 4 days so I had to stock up more stickers and at the end of the week my daughter got a wee treat things I would normally be buying for her and when she completed her chart - we did this for roughly about 3 weeks. Her presents were a pink hairbrush (she wanted this), a new t-shirt, bracelet, fancy bubble bath and finally a Fimbles CD from ebay. She was fine with other folk and only had accidents with us at dinnertime but recently we go for a dinnertime pee and it has been good. About 2mths after she was potty trained she was having accident everyday which was usual for her and her nursery even mentioned this as she had 4 accidents in one day but we got her checked with the doctor and nothing usual but we think she had a wee chill. Fingers crossed your son will get back on track soon.

skintsuzie

We started to toilet train DS when he was just under 2. For me, an invaluable tool of potty training was a potette. If we had to go out, I always brought a potette with me, LOTS of spare clothes/underware, and I always lined the pushchair/car seat with a pampers changing mat, so if there was an accident, he didn't have to return to a wet seat.

I didn't go anywhere for the first few days and left my DS without underware, so there was not clothing on the bottom half to delay proceedings!

Also, my DS went straight to the upstairs family loo, for some reason, he just wouldn't use a potty in the house. We also used a home made sticker chart, with stickers from the sticker factory as a reward.

DS was dry at night before the day, but it took him all in all about a week to pretty much master it.

We used the same techniques for DD but she was about 18 months when we started, and it seemed to take her ages to master it.

Sticking with it is essential! Don't give up (or use pull ups - they're too much like nappies!) GOOD LUCK!! :laugh: