Advice on Potty training

Floxxie

boo80 wrote: »

Nope, she'll poo her pants where ever she is, she really doesn't mind lol:rotfl:! She doesn't go to preschool yet but is starting in September and I really want to have it sorted by then, but I guess you're right, there isn't much point is trying to do anything about it with the baby due any day. Maybe seeing a baby poop himself will make her think about what she is doing?? Wishful thinking??

Does your DS get stressed about it? My DD just doesn't seem to care and is in no danger of becoming constipated as she doesn't care that she poos herself.

I have a baby too and it didn't do anything for DS2 to see the baby pooing in his nappy. In fact DS2 started calling himself a baby! He went backwards (if that is at all possible) when the little one was born - not straight away but a month or so afterwards.
And no he doesn't care if he has pooed but he will only do it in his house but that might just be related to when/where he eats.

I'm just grateful that he was born a couple of minutes after midnight on 1 Sept otherwise he would be going to primary school this year! At least we have another year to get it sorted.

I never thought I could get so stressed about something so trivial!

jellyhead

Good timing floxxie! My summer babies were both too young for school, I wish I didn't have to send my just-4 boy this year, not full time anyhow. When eldest started they had to be 4 years and 4 months so the summer babies didn't start school or nursery until christmas. It made a big difference - eldest was toilet trained before nursery, and youngest would have been if he could have waited that extra term.

Floxxie

Lol. Do you think so? My DS2 is so ready for school and he thinks he has done something wrong because he is not going up with his friends. When he goes to playschool he will be 4 and the 'new' children will be 2 1/2.

jellyhead

i suppose so ... my nephew was the same, his friends from playgroup went to school and left him behind, he started school on his 5th birthday.

my boy is in a nursery 'year' though so they all started together and will move up together. his nursery teacher thinks he'll be okay, well, behind but not special needs, it's just me that thinks he's still a toddler lol!

edit - but he's in age 6 clothes and is the biggest in his class despite being youngest - if he waited an extra year he'd be a real giant lol!

jellyhead

Mics chick I think most people say their kids 'go backwards' a bit. It's a big step, a lot to remember. Also, my boy has wet himself a couple of times in the last year, always when he comes down with a cold. If yours is tired or poorly he might wet himself more. Keep smiling

bestpud

I think this thread highlights how toilet training is individual to the child/family and it's a case of getting tips from others, but ultimately keeping an open mind and seeing what works best for you and your child.

I'm shocked by this thread too though: are schools really changing nappies now?

When dd(17) was younger, many playgroups insisted they had to be dry during the day before they started, at 3 years old.

I can understand how a few children will be later, for varying reasons, but is it really quite common for children to be in nappies during the day at 4 and during the night at 6/7?

I know schools are used to accidents in small children, but changing nappies?? :eek:

bylromarha

bestpud wrote: »

I can understand how a few children will be later, for varying reasons, but is it really quite common for children to be in nappies during the day at 4 and during the night at 6/7?

I know schools are used to accidents in small children, but changing nappies?? :eek:

DD is starting nursery (class within a school) in september. From this september, parents have been told that staff will change nappies.

The Reception class in the school where I used to work has now become adapted with a sluice room for changing nappies

I think it's a new government idea that children should not be excluded due to [STRIKE]90% parents with a 5 yr old in nappies choosing to not tackle the issue[/STRIKE] slow physical development.

jellyhead

I hope this thread stays supportive - the OP already knows her child is older than usual.

Our local nursery insisted on children being dry, but they didn't take the summer children until christmas by which time most of them were dry - that extra term made all the difference for mine. Both my boys were clueless when turning 3 in the summer holidays but were dry day and night before christmas.

Nowadays nursery takes only one intake here, so the summer children go when they are only just 3. The toilet training info I had said that 1 in 5 children wear a nappy on their 3rd birthday, so if that's true then lots of summer children would be excluded from nursery, and with only one intake they'd have to miss out on the entire educational year, starting school at even more of a disadvantage.

I realise that having the threat of exclusion from nursery spurs parents on to train their children, but it really wouldn't work for either of mine - they just weren't ready before turning 3 and no amount of stress or expectation would have changed that. I'm glad that nursery changed my boy's nappies for the first few weeks of term :T

jellyhead

but here's a daily mail article lol!

primary school teachers are being expected to deal with growing numbers of nappy-wearing children starting full-time school.
Today, every new reception class of 30 will have more of these youngsters, and in some areas it is almost the norm.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1026958/Absolutely-potty-How-children-wearing-nappies-SCHOOL--dire-risks-health.html#ixzz0NUCLvNXL

bestpud

jellyhead wrote: »

I hope this thread stays supportive - the OP already knows her child is older than usual.

Our local nursery insisted on children being dry, but they didn't take the summer children until christmas by which time most of them were dry - that extra term made all the difference for mine. Both my boys were clueless when turning 3 in the summer holidays but were dry day and night before christmas.

Nowadays nursery takes only one intake here, so the summer children go when they are only just 3. The toilet training info I had said that 1 in 5 children wear a nappy on their 3rd birthday, so if that's true then lots of summer children would be excluded from nursery, and with only one intake they'd have to miss out on the entire educational year, starting school at even more of a disadvantage.

I realise that having the threat of exclusion from nursery spurs parents on to train their children, but it really wouldn't work for either of mine - they just weren't ready before turning 3 and no amount of stress or expectation would have changed that. I'm glad that nursery changed my boy's nappies for the first few weeks of term :T

Nurseries have always done it here; it was the playgroups who insisted they were dry, and in one case that was because they sinply had nowhere to deal with dirty nappies.

DD was only just dry in time, as she started just before she was three, but she got there - that was late back then!!

I am astounded at teachers and teaching assistants having to change nappies, for the children involved as much as anything! Any one of my children would have been mortified at the thought of wearing a nappy to school!

In fact, they'd have been mortified if they'd been wearing them at night by the time they started school!

Plus, that is not what TAs are there for!!!

I can fully understand there will be some children who start late but when on earth did it become almost 'normal' for children to be in nappies until they were 5/6/7 and beyond? :eek:

This must be a lot to do with parents working and being here, there, and everywhere, with different activities and the like - it must make for a difficult time when potty training imo!

Good grief - I don't know whether to be shocked or saddened! :undecided