Advice on Potty training

pandora205

Mics_chick wrote: »

I feel a bit daft for sounding so smug in my first post but it's going downhill a bit - from such a promising start of him telling us he needed a wee twice on the second day he's weeing himself straight after I've asked him if he wants a wee...

Oh well onwards and upwards

You'll find it's more successful if you make very little fuss (ie don't comment or tell off) when your son has accidents, and then praise and rewards for success.

This is easily said but quite difficult to do if you are feeling annoyed at yet more wet clothes or furniture, but it does pay off.

TotallyBroke

I found the way to get my ds to poo on the pot or toilet was to read stories. I'll start off reading the story with him on my lap. Then I'll move him onto the pot continuing to read the story. We'll keep reading the books or playing with building blocks. It takes their mind off actually going so may help the person above whose child is suffering with toilet problems. I know it means my son will turn into 1 of those men that takes the newspaper with them but I don't care. He still gets distracted now and again and lazy but it is not a major issue now.

Also work out if they go at the same time everyday, when I was a baby I used to poo my nappy while eating my breakfast. So once Mum realised this she would feed me while I sat on the pot (I was just on solids and able to sit up)

boo80

Mics_chick wrote: »

How do you react when she does a poo in her pants Boo?

My ds has actually done his poos on the loo coz he likes the sound of the splash

Have you got her a child seat for the toilet?

Thanks for your reply. We do have a child seat and a little stool so she can reach but she doesn't really like using it, would much rather sit on the potty chair.

I try not to react as the HV suggested and most of the time I manage not to, but do occassionally get cross when she won't let me clean her up and she's getting poo all over the house! Potty training is one of the hardest things I've ever done, hasn't helped that I've had antinatel depression, but I think even without that it would of been really stressful.

I just can't understand why she can poo in the potty without any promting if she's not wearing knickers, but will poo herself if she is wearing them She also gets really deffensive if we ask her if she needs to poo whilst she's dressed, no matter how nice we are about it.

Baby will be coming any day now (hopefully) so would be brilliant to get this sorted soon! Any advice gratefully received!! x x

Floxxie

Does she only poo her pants when she is at home i.e. she's fine at playschool or friend's houses?

I know exactly what you mean about having poo all over the house. It has really stressed me out but the consultant has told us not to get stressed as it makes it worse (yep I know that but..).

I personally would leave it for now. Even if you cracked it, it is likely that she will go 'backwards' when the baby arrives.

onlyroz

Got any advice on teaching a 4-year-old to wipe his bottom? He's starting school in September, and can take himself to the toilet OK, but he always hollars when he wants his bottom wiped. I can't imagine him getting away with this at school though...

Mics_chick

onlyroz wrote: »

Got any advice on teaching a 4-year-old to wipe his bottom? He's starting school in September, and can take himself to the toilet OK, but he always hollars when he wants his bottom wiped. I can't imagine him getting away with this at school though...

Tell him he's got to be a big boy to go to big school so he has to learn to do it himself???
And try the reward chart or other rewards depending on what's been successful with him in the past

jacqhale

You might find that when he's at school he doesn't ask as he'll see the other kids doing it themselves. They have that knack of making us run around after them yet getting on perfectly well when they are on their own !!!

boo80

Floxxie wrote: »

Does she only poo her pants when she is at home i.e. she's fine at playschool or friend's houses?

I know exactly what you mean about having poo all over the house. It has really stressed me out but the consultant has told us not to get stressed as it makes it worse (yep I know that but..).

I personally would leave it for now. Even if you cracked it, it is likely that she will go 'backwards' when the baby arrives.

Nope, she'll poo her pants where ever she is, she really doesn't mind lol:rotfl:! She doesn't go to preschool yet but is starting in September and I really want to have it sorted by then, but I guess you're right, there isn't much point is trying to do anything about it with the baby due any day. Maybe seeing a baby poop himself will make her think about what she is doing?? Wishful thinking??

Does your DS get stressed about it? My DD just doesn't seem to care and is in no danger of becoming constipated as she doesn't care that she poos herself.

galvanizersbaby

onlyroz wrote: »

Got any advice on teaching a 4-year-old to wipe his bottom? He's starting school in September, and can take himself to the toilet OK, but he always hollars when he wants his bottom wiped. I can't imagine him getting away with this at school though...

I wouldn't worry - my DS (the Lego fiend ) who is almost 7 still tries to get me to wipe his bum at home - he is lazy like that!

At school from day 1 he had to do it himself and he managed just fine.

I ask him why he calls me to wipe his bum when we are at home and he says 'because I can!' - cheeky what not! :mad:

jellyhead

I suspect my boy will be yelling for someone to wipe his bottom in school too lol! I've brought the subject up, telling him he'll be wiping himself at school. He's tried it, but he uses wipes and of course there won't be wipes at school.

I suspect he prefers me to do it because he doesn't want to pull up his own pants and trousers - he really struggles.

Rewards don't really interest him, although if I said I'd read him a book afterwards he'd have a good try - but he'd know I'd read the book whether he tried or not so it's not really a reward, more of a 'come on, pull up your trousers then we'll choose a book' sort of thing than 'if you do this you'll get this as a reward' kind of thing.