Advice on Potty training

kindofagilr

I am pleased he is doing well

jacqhale

I totally agree about finding the method that suits your child. I read all the books just after ds asked himself to wear pants and not nappies (at 2 1/2) and they all said don't tell them off for accidents and don't bribe with sweets.

However ds has always been strong minded and never follows rules!! We found by telling him it didn't matter he would wee on the floor and then tell us to come and look at what he had done and that we needed to clear it up!!!! Not funny but funny at the same time (sometimes!!) so we told him he was naughty and we were very cross and upset and he stopped doing that and started using the toilet.
Also he had a short attention span for stickers and as soon as we brought a jar of sweets and told him it was his special jar every time he asked to go to the toilet we couldn't get him off it!!! Small wees at a time just to squeeze one out. He soon got bored of that though and obviously he doesn't have sweets all the time now.

So glad it's over though!!!!!!!!! He's even dry at night now - after a few months we were running short on nappies and he'd been dry for 2 weeks so didn't bother buying any more and we've only had 1 or 2 accidents which isn't bad!!

bylromarha

DD didn't respond to stickers, she didn't respond to a chart, she didn't respond to treats, she didn't respond to ignoring.

She responded to happy dances-everytime she did something in the loo, the whole family had to run in the bathroom and do a silly dance-was a bit embarrassing whilst out, but it worked.

DS pretty similar, no conventional stuff worked for him-eventually found that yelling "Whooooarrrrrr" after a poo was all the encouragement he needed-he made it quite complex-3 lumps of poo, 3 "Whooooarrrrrr" s. Again embarrassing when out, but it worked.

OP-we all know our kids best, great thread to suggest ideas on what may make it work for each child.

And if, in a loo near me, I hear a "Whooooarrrrrr" or see 3 people running into a loo cubicle, I shall smile and ask if you're an MSEr too...:D

boo80

My dd will be 3 this weekend and has been wee trained for about 5-6 months and has been dry at night for about the same length of time, but we can't get her to do her poo's on the potty (she prefers the potty to the loo, but will use the loo if we're out). If she isn't wearing anything on her bottom she will poo on the potty, if she has knickers on she will poo in her knickers then deny it. I've tried stickers, ingoring the fact that she has done a poo and letting her stay in it, sweeties, any ideas??

buxtonrabbitgreen

I am glad you r method is working for you op. I found when my last one was 3 I needed to personally follow her around and not go out for 2 weeks till it was cracked. My childminder had tried but was not getting anywhere. So I took 2 weeks off work. Not the greatest way to spend holiday, but it worked for us. She still wasn't reliably dry at night till about 6 years old.

Mics_chick

maiz wrote: »

My dd loved just sitting on her potty and she didn't need more than verbal praise. Nursery were really supportive and dd just wanted to use the toilets like the others.
The problem we now have is bedwetting. She is 4 and in pull-ups at night, she calls them bedpants and happily wears them. She has no desire to stay dry at night and the hv hasn't been any help because dd is young. She hasn't had 1 dry night so we haven't even a starting point. Should I be concerned?

No you don't need to be concerned Maiz - my dd is still in pull-ups at night and she just turned 6 in June.

I did try training her for a while but after a good start she was wetting herself severals times a night.
She had to have a potty in her bedroom coz we only have a downstairs bathroom and she's scared of the dark although we leave the hall lights on....

It was like she made a real effort at the start but then got bored and couldn't be bothered anymore

I hope this is a supportive message rather than you thinking your dd might still be in pull-ups in 2 years

The thing is that some kids are quicker than others and only a small minority are still regular bed-wetters after 7 (which is the age which HVs and GPs start to see it as a problem).

My mum has commented on this but just to say that I was still bed-wetting quite regularly after I started school and she was the same but both did grow out of it eventually

Mics_chick

boo80 wrote: »

My dd will be 3 this weekend and has been wee trained for about 5-6 months and has been dry at night for about the same length of time, but we can't get her to do her poo's on the potty (she prefers the potty to the loo, but will use the loo if we're out). If she isn't wearing anything on her bottom she will poo on the potty, if she has knickers on she will poo in her knickers then deny it. I've tried stickers, ingoring the fact that she has done a poo and letting her stay in it, sweeties, any ideas??

How do you react when she does a poo in her pants Boo?

My ds has actually done his poos on the loo coz he likes the sound of the splash

Have you got her a child seat for the toilet?

Mics_chick

I feel a bit daft for sounding so smug in my first post but it's going downhill a bit - from such a promising start of him telling us he needed a wee twice on the second day he's weeing himself straight after I've asked him if he wants a wee...

Oh well onwards and upwards

sky11

Some tips are.....
buying special underpants, I use 'Thomas the Tank' pants and reinforced that thomas does not like to get wet or dirty.
Let him/her watch other siblings or young children going to the toilet.
HTH

Floxxie

My DS2 has to take laxatives for constipation and he is nearly 4. He is very grown up but point blank refuses to use the toilet for pooing (in fact he has a fear of pooing on the toilet). We have been told to use a reward chart (it does not work) but he does not care about pooing in his pants (he is dry otherwise).

We've been told to keep on trying for a while and then they'll get the behavioural experts in. Has anyone had a child go through this? I am so frustrated as asked for help 1 1/2 years ago and now it feels as if it is going to be an even harder and longer process.

Wish he was easy as my eldest son. Just had to pretend to be a gorilla and jump around the first time he went and that was it. He still remembers his mother's acting :rotfl: