Big Badger House (aka Noisy Lodger) HE'S GONE!

PasturesNew

Does he have a surround sound system? From the remark about bass I think he might do.

They are EVIL for sound carrying... especially that bass.

They can sound louder next door than in your house.

Some even come with warnings akin to not using them in property where you're adjoined.

Tori_Bellatrix

poppysarah wrote: »

I was thinking about this and for a moment thought "Oh yeah that sounds reasonable" and then I stopped and realised why it meant... it means he can be annoyingly noisy until 11pm. Which if you've got kids you'll know will be a nightmare getting kids off to sleep. Or even if you want to have an early night.

I really think there is no excuse for having to routinely listen to someone elses music at all.

He shouldn't play his music loud at any point of day at a level where it annoys anyone .

Totally agree with this. My neighbours above me and to the side don't even consider that their music may interfere with someone elses quiet enjoyment of their property.

Badger_Lady

Oh, now we're getting a bit harsh - he runs his own successful SME (spends half his weekdays in London) and is a father-of-two who's going through divorce (still paying the mortgage on his wife's house). I think he's just reliving his youth!

What he doesn't seem to understand is that not all shared houses are "party houses" - we're adults trying to live our lives peacefully here.

Everything you're listing about upset and stressed neighbours is exactly what I'm worried about - the last thing I want to be happening I'll certainly have no trouble re-letting his room (they were knocking my door down last time I advertised), but I still think everyone deserves a second chance. If he doesn't change his ways, he's out...

jamtart6

i think people can make a mistake once but not twice, if he doesnt heed your advice after your chat then he should be out on his ear! good luck badger lady

hostman

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barnaby-bear

Badger_Lady wrote: »

Oh, now we're getting a bit harsh - he runs his own successful SME (spends half his weekdays in London) and is a father-of-two who's going through divorce (still paying the mortgage on his wife's house). I think he's just reliving his youth!

What he doesn't seem to understand is that not all shared houses are "party houses" - we're adults trying to live our lives peacefully here.

Everything you're listing about upset and stressed neighbours is exactly what I'm worried about - the last thing I want to be happening I'll certainly have no trouble re-letting his room (they were knocking my door down last time I advertised), but I still think everyone deserves a second chance. If he doesn't change his ways, he's out...

So he has kids himself - so he knows what it's like to have distressed kids. !!!!!! a grown adult disturbing the neighbours playing his bass at 1:30am and cavorting around with his girlfriend.... can't think why he's divorced!

lostinrates

Badger Lady, I'm sorry, having read the bits you've added I agree, this is no longer something I view as a sightly selfish thing of lack of awareness of others, but a really selfish thing. I would want rid. Its a bigger issue if neighbours so far away can hear, the guy has kids and should be more responsible AND really, relaly importantly, YOUR OTHER LODGER DOESN'T LIKE HIM. Your other lodger has expressed that he has been made uncomfortable by this guys behaviour and inconsideration: in telling you this he is essentially coming to you as a landlady not a friend, and handing the responsibilty to you to resolve this.

I think it can all be friendly, I disagree with some on that, (I agree there are boudaries an that you now need to step up to the responsibility of landlady and neighbour!) but I still think you sound like someone who is trying t be the great landlady and neighbour I complimented you on being.

I think now you need to be very, very firm. A sorry is NOT the answer, a change in behaviour now is.

Incisor

Badger_Lady wrote: »

... - this is going to be hard I know I have the right to evict him at my discretion but I just don't like upsetting people ...

The cost of not upsetting people is that the neighbours will be upset big time. It's good not to upset people, and you are lucky, you have a choice of people not to upset.

hollydays

Badger_Lady wrote: »

Oh, now we're getting a bit harsh - he runs his own successful SME (spends half his weekdays in London) and is a father-of-two who's going through divorce (still paying the mortgage on his wife's house). I think he's just reliving his youth!

What he doesn't seem to understand is that not all shared houses are "party houses" - we're adults trying to live our lives peacefully here.

Everything you're listing about upset and stressed neighbours is exactly what I'm worried about - the last thing I want to be happening I'll certainly have no trouble re-letting his room (they were knocking my door down last time I advertised), but I still think everyone deserves a second chance. If he doesn't change his ways, he's out...

You are obviously a people person,and probably hate the idea of confrontation (You remind me of my OH here,who is a fantastic ,much loved person.,who is very laid back and usually gets good results with this attitude) but my gut feeling here is,he is a childish,selfish individual,who can't buckle-down to being an adult,he is taking the p**s now..he won't change..get shut..

Badger_Lady

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah! That's better

I've just been next door with a bottle of wine and some choccies to apologise about the "noise incident" - I spoke to the Grandma, who's a lovely lady I've spoken to before, and explained the whole situation. Her face changed from "oh no, it's her!" to "ah, what a sweet girl" in the space of 5 minutes!

I explained that we've got a new rule in place, and told her to speak to me if it ever happens again because, although he's a good lodger, if he disturbs my neighbours he's out on his ear!

She also explained that the kids do sleep in the bedroom that shares his wall, so I can pass that info on for consideration... He actually hasn't been back at the house since Friday, so everything's been silent, which is a relief.