Big Badger House (aka Noisy Lodger) HE'S GONE!

BigAunty

Badger_Lady wrote: »

Awww, JoannaLodger just emailed to say that he rocked in at 4:30 this morning and stayed up chatting in his bedroom until 6am.

It's not fair for her to take the brunt

Well, she's only got to put up with it for a few more weeks, and perhaps you won't dither so much next time when a lodger starts breaking house rules - you know that you've been soft and have let it drag on, that your notice periods are too generous.

A more business like approach would have meant an empty room a long time ago rather than weeks of noise, smells and unfriendly guests.

And don't offer lodgings to people who smoke!

Yellowstar_2

Hi Badger_Lady

I've only recently discovered this thread.

Several folks on here have suggested that a shorter notice period might help you out in future. I'd just like to play a little bit of devils' advocate in that regard...

I was a lodger in Bristol while studying for my PhD. I lodged there for about 2 and a half years in the same room of the same flat, leaving only because the landlady (is that the right term when talking about lodgrs rather than tenants?) was moving away and wanted to rent out the flat as a whole to a family (who it turns out, trashed it!). I paid the rent on time every time, was clean, respectful, and friendly, and the LL and I got on really well - and are firm friends years later.

Anyway, I digress. The point I wanted to make is that I would never have taken that room if the notice period was really short. I wouldn't have wanted to have to leave at very short notice.

As I say - I'm just playing devils' advocate and of course you must do whatever suits you. But perhaps good, respectful, lodgers who are looking for a home rather than just a place to sleep (as I did), would want longer notice periods? Just a thought.

Hope everything works out very soon - sounds like you've not had a fun time of it lately.

Yellowstar x

Mallotum_X

As hes taking the p155 during the notice period I would cut it short and get him out. hes not even attempting to play by the rules.

BitterAndTwisted

Whatever reassurances a landlord might give to their lodger at the beginning, the facts are that little to no notice needs to be given if things don't work out. Legally, lodgers have absolutely no security of tenure. It's quite normal for a lodger to be given a week or maybe two, a month is incredibly generous in this particular circumstance. Common decency dictates that if a lodger is paying the rent in full and on time and behaving in a satisfactory way then they are unlikely to be given notice at all unless a change of their landlord's circumstances dictates it.

Ellie2758

How old is this useless article, just out of interest? He really needs to be thrown out on his ear by this weekend. Why should you and NiceJoannaLodger have to put up with him any longer? Grrrr

Badger_Lady

He's 27 (just one year younger than me). Before he moved in to Big Badger House, he was in a long-term relationship with a girl who had a DD of about 4... he'd apparently been very close to the child, acting as her Step Dad, and was completely in love with the mother.

He had a sort of 'crisis' where he felt that he was too young to be in that kind of family and wanted more freedom so he ended it but took the break-up very badly. He moved in with his parents for 6 months but couldn't really bear the dependence... so he came to me!

I think this 18-yr-old GF now is making him feel happy and free for the first time in years.

Ellie2758

Only trouble is BL he is now acting her age instead of his and you and NiceJoannaLodger are bearing the brunt, which isnt on!

BigAunty

He sounds like some kind of 'man-child' - his relationship had too much responsibility for him, he couldn't bear the loss of independence that came with living with his parents (did he want to play loud music, smoke and have girlfriends over but they wouldn't let him!?) and the middle path is dating a sullen and homeless teenager?

So he's at Uni now - as an employee or as a perpetual student?

Badger_Lady

Uh-oh, the bed springs have started again... luckily they never last long.

BigAunty

Badger_Lady wrote: »

Uh-oh, the bed springs have started again... luckily they never last long.

Unless you put your foot down and tell him that he can't have any more guests because he's been abusing his hospitality, you are going to have to put up with this.

He knows that the opportunity for wooing his sullen teenage girlfriend will drop off a cliff in the new year when he has to move back to his parents or to new digs.