Should I let skint new boyfriend move in for free?

SPANIEL36

do keep us updated

poppysarah

It's too soon whether he's skint or not!

Snooze

PasturesNew wrote: »

From your title alone I'd say "no" because 6 months is no time at all. You need to go probably 2 years and a couple of Xmases to know if they're too mardy and awkward or flakey and unreliable for starters.

If he can sort out his debts, then it might be a goer. But he might see moving in with you as an easy option. Like a replacement mum with sex.

I agree. Especially with the bit I've highlighted.

Rob

clutton_2

get his to sort out at least one of his debts before he moves in (in another 6 months time) to show you that he is not just a free loader

Phirefly

PasturesNew wrote: »

Like a replacement mum with sex.

ha love it

dean_ham

You shouldnt have to ask for money!

If i was in his situation i would be contributing straight away, i would sit down and discuss how i could help you out with paying for things.

IF he cant afford it, tuff! Get a better job (or another job) otherwise he can get out

My mate has just moved in with his girlfriend. He pays for all the food every week and pays most of the Gas and electric.

Hes happy, shes happy

ailuro2

Does he contribute towards any of the groceries, bottles of wine etc at the moment?

That's a pretty good indicator as to whether he sees it as imperative that he shoulders a fair proportion of costs.

When my DH moved in with me after we'd been together 8 months, he paid me half of all the bills expect the mortgage. At that time he earned just a bit less than me, and we kept our own bank accounts but made joint decisions on things like who paid what for decorating the kitchen so he could have a dishwasher etc.

That was 13 years ago, and everything's joint now. If he has debts then i suggest he pays them off before he moves in and starts costing you in council tax.That way it's a clean slate for everyone.

pinkshoes

Financial compatibility is so under-rated in relationships, and ought to be up at the top of the list as an important issue.

Personally I'd say 6 months is WAY too soon, and it should be at least a year before you officially move in together as you're still in the "honeymoon" period!!

If you DO go ahead, give him a lodger's contract, otherwise if things go sour, he might start demanding equity from your mortgaged property!! Agree everything financially from the start.

If you can't agree, you're obviously not financially compatible, which could cause problems later down the line.

Phirefly

melee67 wrote: »

We’re great together, he all but lives in my house now, and has recently been granted his own set of keys. He’s there 6 out of 7 nights a week,

Yinnah - I've been thinking this over. Mr P and I pretty much enjoy domestic bliss for the most part, but you know what? I sometimes yearn for the days pre-wharf when all the mystique was still fully intact and I woke up every morning not knowing whose bed I was going to end up in that night (his or mine - I mean!!). I wouldn't change things for the world now, but it'd have been nice to prolong those halcyon pre-cohabiting days just a smidge

emsywoo123

poppysarah wrote: »

It's too soon whether he's skint or not!

I agree with the gist that with his financial situation it might not be a good idea, but why is it too soon?
They spend 6/7 nights together, she is not saying that they are going to get married!:D
It may be more practical, or maybe they adore each other so much they want to be together every night.:beer:
IMHO, 6 months is NOT too soon, depending on the couple!:D