Whiffy In-Law

marce_2

I think you & the OH both need to explain to his mum that the invitation is not automatically extended to the rest of the clan, and that you will invite them another time, as this visit is just for her to spend quality time with her sons family.

No way would I work hard to create a nice home just to have some oik (related or not) come along & stink it out.:mad:

Also would not have anyone who has an unclean influence near my child.

Hope you reach a happy solution.;)

Dill

This thread has made me laugh :rotfl:
Poor you, sounds like you have Dame Edna's daughter for a sister-in-law!

Seriously, though, I think you'd be well within your rights to tell her to wash/bath before she comes round, as she's making life disgusting for everyone around her.

Ellie2758

miserly_mum wrote: »

Both me and her sister have tried this. The stuff just never gets used. Being totally serious her bath has actually got a thick coat of dust.

My problem with it all is I have 2 boys 8 and 10 who i'm obviously encouraging to shower reularly and smell nice and they aren't daft they know their Aunty smells ........not really giving them a good example

I'd have thought she was giving them a good example of what NOT to do. They must know how you and your OH feel about this surely? Little pitchers have big ears an' all that.

I wouldnt invite any of them if it meant having that kind of stink in my house. I'm sorry, but I've got a very sensitive sense of smell and I would probably be sick.

asquiths_2

Ditto Dill I havent laughed so much in ages :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

But i really do feel for the OP think i'd just have to be blunt tho xxx

good luck xx

misty

Although it will be unpleasant for you - I think you should put up with it and I'm not one for putting up with things. It doesn't sound like any of them visit too regularly and obviously the sil doesn't get invited.

If she has had warnings from work and this hasn't helped I don't thin anything you say will and will simply put mil and your OH in an awkward position.

As far as your teenagers are concerned I'm sure her smelly presence will ensure they do wash and frequently.

I wouldn't howvever let her cuddle the baby.

ailuro2

If she has been told about the problem before then she is obviously aware of it and chooses not to bother.

Tell your kids this...

A woman goes to the doctor complaining about an awful problem with farting . She says she farts all day but they don't smell and aren't noisy. The Dr gives her some pills to take to help with her problem.
A week later the lady is back complaining to the doctor that whatever the tablets were they haven't reduced her wind, but they have made the farts unbearably smelly.
The Dr says to the woman....
ok, now we've sorted out your sinuses let's see if we can improve your hearing.

Now get the kids to tell their smelly Aunty the joke and tell the younger one NOt to ask Aunty ScaryMAry when she's going to the Dr to get her BO fixed?:p

Two things can happen- she can either stomp off in a huff and not come to visit again, or she can realise even the kids know she reeks and have a wash before she visits.

I was really laughing out loud at the word 'minge' it's not the kind of words you are expecting to see on a family relationships thread.Even called my hubbythrough for a read.

Anyone who ever camped knows how stinky things can get after a day or two not showering.Imagine 9 months of not washing (any of ? )your hair.:eek:

miserly_mum

ailuro2 wrote: »

If she has been told about the problem before then she is obviously aware of it and chooses not to bother.

I was really laughing out loud at the word 'minge' it's not the kind of words you are expecting to see on a family relationships thread.Even called my hubbythrough for a read.

Anyone who ever camped knows how stinky things can get after a day or two not showering.Imagine 9 months of not washing (any of ? )your hair.:eek:

Thank god someone understands how I know what a sweatty minge smells like :T Otherwise my reputation could be ruined........again :rolleyes:

Js_Other_Half

~I wonder if she has some form of autism...?

If everyone has already tried over the years, then I'd be inclined to minimise the damage and let the visit happen with the windows open;)

mademoiselle_2

People who do this, KNOW that they smell. And I don't think there's any point trying to be delicate with them about it....basically, they continue to stink and offend others because they just DON'T GIVE A DAMN about any body else's feelings. It's an extreme, psychologically-perverse, form of selfishness.

I had the misfortune to work with someone who did this. NOTHING worked - from gentle hints, to advice, to ridicule, to finally extreme annoyance on the part of his colleagues. As the manager, I got the fabulous task of giving him the "serious talk".

I told him straight, 'you smell, it's a small office, you will have to wear a deodorant'. He came out with a load of feebly-obvious avoidance tactics, saying that he had 'sensitive skin' (*snort!*) and 'didn't like to wear deodorant'.

Too right he didn't! He liked winding others up too much, to bother about their feelings.

I got him moved out of the office, into a tiny (smelly) room on his own. And he was as happy there as the proverbial pig in...

So you won't win. There is no tactic that will change people who wilfully smell.

If it were me? I'd say point-blank: she doesn't set foot in my house. Your home, your rules.

Now THERE'S a form of reasoning your sister in law would understand!

geekgirl

miserly_mum wrote: »

She knows she smells, she sprays herself constantly with cheap body spray which ofcourse doesn't really help.

And that just smells worse doesn't it. You get the horrible whiff with loads of the spray as well. Yuk. Sounds to me like you are in a corner and you either tell her to jog on or put up with the skank.