Whiffy In-Law

Ellie2758

Glad it all ended happily MM. You're a saint!

miserly_mum

roothie wrote: »

I have a similar problem with my in-laws. They're just completely different from me and the way i was bought up in terms of hygiene and standards. They 'carry' an awful smell around with them, it's obvious everywhere they go, in the car, lounge etc. Their house is a pit and they live in a lazy way, you know, like they don't care. When we have a family get together my side always comment on the issue. I have to say it makes me feel sick. HOWEVER, they are family now and I have to accept them the way they are, warts and all if you like and at the end of the day it's not exactly life and death. How they choose to live is up to them and I've just gotta accept it, even if it means putting up with a stinky house every other week or so! I reckon you should just get on with it, it's not worth upsetting them and breaking family ties just cus they smell.

The rest of the family aren't smelly just SIL.

When my Inlaws visit I go to a lot of trouble. Cleaning, cooking and generally trying to make them feel welcome.In the evening we have a few drinks and a laugh.We pay for everything. All they are asked to do is turn up.

However I do expect in return that SIL will at least take 5 mins to give her fa**y a wash. I don't think that is unreasonable?

BTW I really am not some sort of "neat freak". I hate housework, and am not obsessive about hygiene.

My motto is something my Health Visitor said to me when I had my first baby...." a house should be clean enough to be healthy and dirty enough to be happy"

misty

miserly_mum wrote: »

OH had texted me from his Mums to let me know SIL was clean and in the car. That meant I could relax and prepare myself for their arrival.

I love this bit - your OH surreptitiously texting. " She's clean and in the car "- you at home with phone reading it and thinking phew.

misty

miserly_mum wrote: »

However I do expect in return that SIL will at least take 5 mins to give her fa**y a wash. I don't think that is unreasonable?

Not unreasonable at all. Perhaps you could have put it to her like that. I often think it is the least required before visiting someone. You have a brilliant way with words ( I mean that - not being sarcastic - it's not always clear with tone) I don't think you needed any advice - just the courage to say it how it is. Glad it went well.

noonesperfect

Could someone "accidentally" text her (as if the text were meant for someone else) to say how much pleasanter she was to be around on Saturday?

i.e. "Wasn't it nice that "whiffy wendy" made a real effort on Saturday?
The kids didn't grumble at all when she'd gone this time!" or something along those lines.

It could backfire, but she might also take it as a compliment and make more effort in future.

miserly_mum

misty wrote: »

Not unreasonable at all. Perhaps you could have put it to her like that. I often think it is the least required before visiting someone. You have a brilliant way with words ( I mean that - not being sarcastic - it's not always clear with tone) I don't think you needed any advice - just the courage to say it how it is. Glad it went well.

Awwww thanks for that i'm dead chuffed now

I do have the courage to say it directly to her.....as you can see i'm not backward about coming forwards :rolleyes: . I restain myself in respect to my OH.

Saying that we did have a few "tiffs" over the subject. I've 2 boys 8 and 10 who think soap and toilet roll are still on the ration The older one has to be coaxed into the shower with a sharp stick. I get a few pairs of skiddy boxers from them (but i'm sure no more than the average 8 to 10 year old)

I have to point out OH had no experience with kids until he met me. Anyway he used to go on and on about how they shouldn't have to be told to wash and how their undies were disgusting bla bla bla.

I felt the need to point out to him that yes they were mingers and yes it would take dynamite to get the stains out of their undies sometimes. BUT.....thay were kids and once puberty hits and they start fancying girls we probably wouldn't be able to get into the bathroom and will be spending a fortune ON Lynx and hairgel every week.

On the other hand his 37 year old Sister is a complete stinker who never washes her hair and hadn't even owned a toothbrush in 15 years. Her personal aroma is a lovely combination of sweat, excrement and stale cigatette smoke and while she was in hospital last year I washed her PJ's and knickers and they weren't much better than my 8 year olds.

The difference between his Sis and my Boys........about 27 years.

Ding Ding.......round 1 to me :rotfl:

freebiequeen84

miserly_mum wrote: »

She constantly smells of sweatty minge.

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Reggie_Rebel

while she was in hospital last year I washed her PJ's and knickers

Did they walk to the washing machine themselves?

miserly_mum

Reggie_Rebel wrote: »

while she was in hospital last year I washed her PJ's and knickers

Did they walk to the washing machine themselves?

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