Whiffy In-Law

splishsplash

Oh dear... that's really sad... but eeeewww too!

I really don't think I'd be happy with her coming into my house at all... I'm glad your OH is going to lay down the law a little today, but it's such a shame that he even has to.

I agree with some of the others, she probably needs a lot of professional help.

I don't think anti-depressants are the answer at all - this is serious self-neglect and sounds like she'll need a lot of input over a long time from the proper services. I don't think her GP is taking this seriously enough - could her mum have a word on her behalf? She needs an onward referral.

Best of luck with today's visit... could you put plastic over the furniture and pretend it's still there since your renovations? Or plastic with throws on top, which could then be boil washed...

ok, i'm going for a shower now, and will be there for some time.... and my head itches....

morganb

I've been thinking about this post.

Surely there is an issue of neglect here (on the part of SIL) - it might be worth speaking to her and saying that if she doesn't take all the support you guys are offering, you will have no alternative but to speak to the GP and / or Social Services. It might well be worth speaking to your practice nurse, etc., for some advice.

I think this problem has gone on for so long that SIL obviously does need some kind of professional help. A GP visit, if it can be arranged, should surely start the ball rolling. (Please correct me if I'm wrong, I haven't had to do anything like this before, I just think that if this were an elderly person, or a child, for example, then this is an obvious route ... no reason why it can't apply to SIL as she is obviously in need)

morganb

Sorry, have just realised I've missed a couple of posts, you've spoken about GP already.

ailuro2

The best of luck to you, I do hope you can get the issue resolved for everyone's sake.

Your SIL would benefit, it might raise her self esteem so she could allow herself a longer term relationship than one night, and she'd be openly welcomed into the homes of all her family instead of it being an issue because she's dirty.

It's certainly one of the most unusual threads I've ever seen on here - normally social pressure dictates that people wash every day, and those who don't are shunned until they do.

I knwo folk in my place of work who have had bars of soap / deodorant left on their locker to give them s subtle hint, and when it's not worked the people have been reported.

IF this has all happened to your SIL then she may face losing her job over it - then where would she be? Does she care enough about that to motivate her?

cheeks

miserly_mum wrote: »

Both me and her sister have tried this. The stuff just never gets used. Being totally serious her bath has actually got a thick coat of dust.

My problem with it all is I have 2 boys 8 and 10 who i'm obviously encouraging to shower reularly and smell nice and they aren't daft they know their Aunty smells ........not really giving them a good example

Perhaps one of your kids could say something to her. It might embarrass her if it came out of a kids mouth? Or you could 'accidentally' spill something down her as she arrives and then tell her to go and shower while you find some clothes she can wear, obviously nothing you will want back tho! x

Agutka

O. M. G.

Wow, good luck miserly_mum, hope it all goes well.

I guess I'm not the only one joining this thread who will be spending the weekend in the bath, sending collective clean vibes your way. Poor poor Sil.

miserly_mum

Thankyou to everyone for your support and suggestions.

I've been cooking and cleaning all morning in preparation for the Out-laws arrival. Cooked enough to include SIL but maybe there'll be an extra portion for the freezer we'll have o wait and see.

One of the main reasons I posted was I find the situation soooooo odd.

BIL who lives with MIL was in Manchester for the big match the other evening. SIL stayed with MIL while he was away. His room stank and he had to Fabreze the bed. Yet nobody challenges her directly, just moan about her to each other

jimsmum

Hurry up ................... I wanna know if shes come, whiffing 'n' all :rotfl:

splishsplash

I've been thinking of this thread all morning - I really hope it all goes well for you and that it ends up being a lovely day for all...

pebbles88

oohh whats happening then.......