2 boys and want a girl

plzhelpmesave!

i had 2 boys and was stressed wheni got pregnant the third time! was desparate for a girl to complete and family. i really believe that having boys and girls changes the dynamics of the whole family - my sons were 3 and 2 when our daughter was born but are so protective over her and do more "girly" play with her. We also watch a lot more Dora the Explorer than power rangers now and have been saved from a lifetime of WWE - coz she can scream louder than her brothers so gets the remote!!

would say keep trying, but you could end up with an all male football team!

nanto3girls

When i was pregnant for the 2nd time, i wanted a girl.#1 is a boy. I was really dissapointed when #2 was a boy.When our 3 grandchildren were on the way, both me and hubby wanted girls. We got 3/3.
Sorry if anyone doesn't like my comment, but i had to be honest.

Karensteps

In my family it's all girls! I have one male cousin and thats it!
When I got pregnant, I remember my step-dad waiting around for me after I had my 20week scan, he was hoping I'd have a boy as my mum gave him girls (Who he loves but he always wanted a boy) and I said It's a girl and he was like "oh no, not more girls!" But he loves her to pieces.
Oh wants a boy so he can "Carry on the family name" and I said to him, the odds arent good on that front, and I personally would like another girl! I think my limit will be one more child, as having one is tiring enough as it is, and it won't be for a few years either!

buxtonrabbitgreen

I aadmit after 2 boys I hoped my 3rd would be a girl, and she was, but I kept calling her him as I wasn't used to having a girl. Almost the first sentence from her was "never buy me anymore velvet dressess" and I don't think she has worn a dress since she was about 18 months old. She wasn't into dolls etc much either, though that could of been the influance of her brothers and the scaletrix.

sarymclary

He, he. The Chinese chart was wrong for all 4 of mine!

I have 4 boys. I wasn't bothered what any of mine were really. DH really wanted No.1 to be a boy to carry on the family name. By the time I was expecting No.4 all the other boys were praying it wouldn't be a girl, because they couldn't bear the thought of barbie pink everywhere! I was actually quite relieved he was another boy, as I think they are so much easier to bring up, but I am biased. When my DH went to collect DS3 from nursery after DS4 was born one woman (a mother of 4 girls) commented that it was a real shame I'd had another boy, to which my DH agreed and said that as it happened the lady in the bed opposite had just had another girl and was disappointed too, so we were going to swap!! You should have seen their faces apparently. Any parent must know how desperate you are just to have a healthy, safe arrival at the end of a pregnancy, so what a stupid thing to say.

I am the youngest of 4 girls. My mum always wanted a boy, and had 2 miscarriages which were apparently boys, but I'm not sure if that was wishful thinking by her.

1 of my sisters have had a girl then a boy, one had 2 girls (the 2nd of which died at 2 months) then a boy, the other is childless through choice.

I know of 3 other ladies locally who have 4 boys, my friend and midwife to DS2 and DS4 included.

It is down to the father's sperm, it's motility, the time of ovulation, and the environment in the womb that can all predict the sex of a baby, but most of all it's just down to chance.

If you think there's any chance of disappointment, stick with the 2 you have now.

Broken_hearted

Wanting a girl is perfectly natural, no-one can tell you how you feel and its very unfair of them to tell you to be grateful for whatevere, as it just doesn't work like that. I remember crying my heart out when they said DS2 was a boy, I longed for a girl still do.

RoxieW

I'm in the same boat - two boys and absolutely desperate for a little girl. We're about to start trying and I am quite scared tbh. This will be our last 'go' so I do feel the extra pressure. Of course, people will say you should be grateful to have a healthy baby - and of course, that goes without saying. But sometimes a family has a preference about sex and that should be fine. We've decided to go ahead as I know if it is boy number 3, he'll still be a loved member of our family. I'll just have to get over the initial disappointment. By the time I'm giving birth I'll be over it and will have to resign myself to never having a girl.

*Louise*

RoxieW wrote: »

I'm in the same boat - two boys and absolutely desperate for a little girl. We're about to start trying and I am quite scared tbh. This will be our last 'go' so I do feel the extra pressure. Of course, people will say you should be grateful to have a healthy baby - and of course, that goes without saying. But sometimes a family has a preference about sex and that should be fine. We've decided to go ahead as I know if it is boy number 3, he'll still be a loved member of our family. I'll just have to get over the initial disappointment. By the time I'm giving birth I'll be over it and will have to resign myself to never having a girl.

We got a sexing scan done at 20 weeks to find out what our baby was going to be.

I didn't want to risk being all hormonal at the birth and finding out then. If it was going to be a 3rd boy, I wanted to get used to the idea first.

I was then able to put it out my mind and just enjoy my last pregnancy.:D

Sarahsaver

Just make sure your kids never find out they were a 'disappointment' :eek:

Andybez38

poppyscorner wrote: »

hi all,

As the title suggests I have 2 boys age 5yrs and 13mths absolutely wonderful and I adore them.
I suppose I am checking to see I am normal I would like to make our family a family of 5 as does DH but I would like to round off with a girl I love the boys but I would love to play barbies with my daughter.

So whats the issue well I have put off because I feel if I got pg and had another boy I may feel disappointed with him and I dont want to feel like that its not fair on him anyone else feel like that.

There are people who say you get what you get and you should be happy with your lot which is a good point but I think its human nature to want to have different sex children.

We are not planning to have the 3rd baby any time soon but when it happens I want it to be as special for me as the other two were what do you think ?

Has anyone else felt like that and been fine with the 3rd boy did the longing for a girl go away or not ?

All advice appreciated even if you want to slate me (as long as you do it nicely:D )

Sorry have not read all the replies but i think my mum wanted a girl too (she's dead now bless her soul)

She had one son, then me (another son) then another, then another, then another, another, another. Yes 7 son's she loved us all and would not have thought any less of either of us because we were not a daughter to her.