2 boys and want a girl

poppyscorner

hi all,

As the title suggests I have 2 boys age 5yrs and 13mths absolutely wonderful and I adore them.
I suppose I am checking to see I am normal I would like to make our family a family of 5 as does DH but I would like to round off with a girl I love the boys but I would love to play barbies with my daughter.

So whats the issue well I have put off because I feel if I got pg and had another boy I may feel disappointed with him and I dont want to feel like that its not fair on him anyone else feel like that.

There are people who say you get what you get and you should be happy with your lot which is a good point but I think its human nature to want to have different sex children.

We are not planning to have the 3rd baby any time soon but when it happens I want it to be as special for me as the other two were what do you think ?

Has anyone else felt like that and been fine with the 3rd boy did the longing for a girl go away or not ?

All advice appreciated even if you want to slate me (as long as you do it nicely:D )

Nicifer_noonoo

Of course it will be as special Whether baby number 3 is a boy or girl, I'm sure you'll love him/her just as much as you do your two sons. After all, s/he will still be a product of love, and still be your baby

cuddlymarm

Hi

I really wanted a girl when I was expecting my 2nd child and was carrying totally differently so hoped that he would be a she BUT as soon as he arrived it didn't matter, he was healthy and beautiful. He's 21 this month.
I didn't try for another child because we thought 2 children were enough and we have fun with my neices and now my great neices (and nephews)

I read somewhere that if you eat a vegetarian diet you are more likely to have a girl ( but I think its an old wives tale) Perhaps any veggies could answer this question.:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

poppyscorner

Thanks for your advice

cuddlymarm did you never feel like you had missed out on not having a daughter of your own.
Reading what I have written its awful well it is to me but I can't help it th longing doesn't go away and sad as it may be I have done lots of reading and research on how to conceive a girl of course I take all of it with a pinch of salt but nonetheless I looked for the info.

pavlovs_dog

cuddlymarm wrote: »

Hi
I read somewhere that if you eat a vegetarian diet you are more likely to have a girl ( but I think its an old wives tale) Perhaps any veggies could answer this question.:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

i know two veggies on this board quite well. one has two sons, the other has two daughters

heppy23

I know it seems to be against the rules of statistics but you apparently have more chance of a 3rd boy than a girl. A good friend told me this, he has two girls and would love a boy. He did some research and was told that that where you have two the same you are more likely to have a third the same.

poppyscorner

heppy23 wrote: »

I know it seems to be against the rules of statistics but you apparently have more chance of a 3rd boy than a girl. A good friend told me this, he has two girls and would love a boy. He did some research and was told that that where you have two the same you are more likely to have a third the same.

Thats where things get a bit complicated sorry if this confuses things.

My 1st child was actually a girl however things went terribly wrong and she died DS1 was born 11 months after her.

I maybe should have been more clear my next baby would infact be my 4th child I was just trying to avoid being analysed because of it.

Thanks for your advice x

Ms_Chocaholic

My DS partner is a veggie and she is expecting a baby girl in July

PeskyPenguin

I'm a veggie and my only child is a girl!

I know in my heart that if I only have one child I am so glad she is a daughter. I really hoped throughout the whole of my pregnancy that I would have a girl and I know I would have been disappointed if it was a son. As other posters have said, I'm sure I would adore any child when it arrived but I think once a thought is planted it is so difficult to uproot.

So sorry for the loss of your child.

bringmeshoes

heppy23 wrote: »

I know it seems to be against the rules of statistics but you apparently have more chance of a 3rd boy than a girl. A good friend told me this, he has two girls and would love a boy. He did some research and was told that that where you have two the same you are more likely to have a third the same.

my mum had me and my sister then years afer my sis had my brother.
my sis only admitted to me a few weeks ago that when she was having my nephew she was hoping for a girl and when he arrived she adored him, he is 7 next month and now she has a little girl of 16 months and said if she always knew she would have 2 kids she would have picked to have what she has now

*Louise*

I have been in that situation - I had 2 wonderful boys (now 8 and 2) and I was desperate for a girl. I think it stemmed from losing a daughter between the boys - I always felt as though there was something missing iyswim.

I don't think there is anything wrong with preferring one sex over another. If you have 2 boys, it's only natural to want things a bit different. As long as you can look deep inside and know that you could love your third child just as much if it's a boy (and most people can) then you should go for it.

Incidentally......we went ahead and tried for a 3rd and I now have my darling daughter who is now 8 months old.